Author: Liu Yingya 3. Love that cannot be "spoken"
1. Love language
love language is highly respected in love relationship and intimacy. It means to manage a good relationship, to make each other more happy, you have to understand each other's love language.
Maybe it's because the two people's love languages are different, so you don't know how to love each other, so you don't feel love. Of course, it also led to a painful struggle between you.
And this love language is related to our respective growth experiences.
The way you feel love, the way you express it, in past experience.
or in your native family, the love language is something like this. You inherit.
For example, high-quality relationship, affirmative language, service actions, thoughtful gifts, physical contact.
Admittedly, in a romantic relationship or a partnership, these love languages are all useful.
can make each other feel cared for, loved, connected, and present. Can be a little nourishing for your partner. can empower each other.
For two people who love each other, they are also willing to love each other well, so that each other can feel loved, even pampered, and feel happy.
So, with all these love tricks, you might be willing to move out naturally.
However, love is not so simple. Sometimes, it just makes you feel powerless. Or simply powerless.
Especially when you are entangled in the so-called love language, how to love seems to be a difficult problem.
But love itself is actually not a problem. That is the instinct of life. Everything, everything that has to do with love, spews naturally.
These love skills can be used to make do with the plot of love, but it is not these skills that can really make the relationship deeply rooted and let each other melt.
2. Love is a matter of two people
Love is a matter of two "people".
Everyone's life status and development level of each person's life lead to different needs of each person's life.
or the same requirements, the content and texture are different.
is like this, emphasizing the language of love, the skill of love, and sometimes it is like playing the piano to a cow. And, let each other bother. The same high-quality company as
, but not necessarily two people can afford to accompany each other.
What is high quality, what is companionship, whether two people can understand each other.
Maybe what you call high quality is different from what the other side calls high quality.
Once, a boy said that he would not buy bags, nor would he buy perfume , he would take girls to see the aurora.
The girl said, I think love is really good. Like my dad, I take care of everything at home, and I feel very at ease and warm.
There was another girl next to her who said, "Dad can take care of the big and small things at home, it's really warm. However, I don't like men doing this. It still makes sense to see the aurora. The two go through that process together.
The two people's different understanding of life is not accidental.
It is not accidental that the two people have different expectations for life. It is no accident that
two people can "meet".
"We are destined to meet each other for thousands of miles, but there is no chance to meet each other."
Emphasizing the language of love and understanding the language of mutual love seems to be the nirvana of running an intimate relationship.
is indeed needed.
You always want your loved ones to be happy. Then maybe you will be happy too.
But in love, sometimes you don't need to "say" so much. A look, a smile. You can understand all the way.
needs no words to be elegant. No need for love words to tease lust.
Sometimes people are so different.
Sometimes even love each other's languages very similar. I also need company. You also need company. But you and I cannot provide the company that each other needs.
I speak the language of love with you, obviously inappropriate. chattering with each other. delay each other.
The difference in the language of love between two people, sometimes the similarity between people, can be completely loved.
Because, we can be compatible with and . There can be a bigger world as a result.
Even if the language of love is different. It can also come back in the same way.
because we can be like-minded.
After all, in love, everything is language. If you don't love, how to find the language of love.
As far as love is concerned, the language of love can be attached.
As far as love is concerned, the meeting between two people is more important.
All love language, the premise is that two people can love each other. Not infatuation. Not redemption.
is a confidant and intimate lover in a long life. It is the person who holds the hand in the boundless time and space.
I am Liu Yingya, a psychological consultant. I use psychology to analyze love, marriage, family life, and make intimacy a classroom for self-growth.
Liu Yingya: Master of Psychology, National Second-Class Psychological Consultant . A researcher on the emotional family of marriage and love, and a researcher on the growth of body and mind.
has more than ten years of psychological work, focusing on family, marriage and love, personal physical and spiritual growth.
