had dinner with friends today and chatted about my son. I am very pleased that my son is smart, sensible, and has good grades. At the end of the sentence: I don't care about him at ordinary times, and I will take care of him in major events. I never thought that this sentence touched the fragile nerves of young friends.
He said excitedly: Nice to say! Big things are the gatekeepers for him, and to put it bluntly, is to change his mind. I hesitated. The friend went on to say: I have been very obedient since I was a child. Usually, my father didn't care about him, but my mother kept nagging. My father said that he didn't care, everything was up to him. But at the critical moment, his father came out to decide for him. Looking at his tone and expression, I understood him instantly.
Usually he is thoughtful and lost, like complaining, resentful, and helpless. He went on to say that you are all looking for the best, regardless of our feelings. What is the best? The fit is the best! The wise words, the diligent church, and your experience are not suitable for us in today's society. Everyone knows the truth, and we all understand your feelings.
But how can we understand the profoundness without experiencing failure. As if it was going to rain, I asked to bring an umbrella. It's getting cold, so put on more clothes. Nagging endlessly! Annoying! Yes! It's going to rain, and I get wet without an umbrella, and my parents feel distressed. The weather is cold, no clothes are added, it is freezing, and my parents feel distressed. Poor parents in the world!
Take a step back and say: it is going to rain, we don't bring an umbrella and our clothes get wet and catch a cold, then we will know that we remember to bring an umbrella next time. When the weather is cold, it will freeze without adding clothes, and we will know how to add more clothes next time. Let’s take a step back and say: It’s raining and it’s getting cold, don’t we have any other options? Once our consciousness is awakened, we will truly grow up and mature. We are like watering and fertilizing flowers in time in a greenhouse, but we feel that the outdoor scenery is more beautiful. Look at the grass in the wild, although it looks weak, it can withstand the wind and rain.Our greenhouse flowers, once you lose your care, once you say that we grow up to bear the wind and rain. What do we do? What do we do?
I am speechless. Thinking back to when he was young, he was not like him: the thoughts that wanted to be independent were like crazy grass growing twice as much! longs for independence, rebellion, resentment, struggle, and helplessness. Once out of the parents' sight, there is a kind of relief; a kind of disappointment; a kind of confusion. The difficult freedom has just begun, trial and error, repair, and reformation, how hard it is to walk step by step.
Because of a kind of stubbornness and a kind of rebelliousness, the parents said that they would not do it and had to go another way. Although this was not his original intention, but he stepped out and refused to look back, making mistakes again and again. Resentment towards parents arises from this. Perhaps people can only understand calmness in middle age. Maybe it's hard to let go of forever. We made mistakes when we were kids, and we correct them the next time. If you make mistakes when you are old, you may not be able to correct them for a lifetime. Therefore, parents should learn to let go, and it is not a bad thing for young people to make mistakes.
