Old couples and wives often get cold wars, learn to communicate and communicate, and the problems will naturally be solved.

The old grandson and his wife started a cold war again.

He couldn't remember how many times this happened.

The reason is that the two of them walked together in the park in the morning. My wife was watching the square dance. The old grandson wanted to go to the vegetable market early to buy food, but said that the food would not be fresh if it was late.

My wife came directly to you to buy your food, I want to join the team and dance for a while! The old grandson glared at her, and his wife clearly felt the dissatisfaction and coldness in his eyes. She ignored him and went directly into the team to twist with the rhythm.

Old Suntou was so angry that he stopped shopping for groceries. He directly found a chess stand at the intersection and played against others.

When my wife came home at noon and saw the cold pot and stove, she understood what was going on, she just lay down on the bed and didn't care.

Old Suntou was absent-minded and felt that he was not in the state, which made his opponent die for several dishes. He had to get up with an embarrassed smile and went to the small restaurant on the side of the road. He asked for two bottles of beer and a plate of pork head meat. Those were the happiest years of my life.

My wife was reading a book in bed and felt very hungry, so she got up to pack up and went to her sister's house. As soon as she entered the door, she said she didn't eat, and asked her brother-in-law to quickly write a note to herself.

Old Suntou was full and full of food. He thought of his comrade-in-arms whom he hadn't seen for a long time. His home was nearby. He bought five kilograms of apples from a roadside stall and went to his comrade-in-arms' house. Had a great time chatting.

In the evening, the old grandson and his wife went home one after another. No one paid any attention to the other.

In fact, cold wars between old husbands and wives are very common. After spending most of their lives together, they understand each other's temperament and temperament, and no one accepts the other. The more

times, the longer the ignoring each other, the more damage to the relationship and the deeper the cracks.

The reason for the Cold War is that both husband and wife have the phenomenon of emotional substitution and transfer.

When the old grandson got angry, he chose to play chess, drink and eat meat, and then went to the house of his comrades-in-arms, which actually transformed the intimate relationship between husband and wife into a friendship with his comrades-in-arms. The wife danced the square dance, and when she returned to her sister's house, it turned into a family relationship.

The two got emotional replacements in different families, which reduced the degree of conflict between them, made the Cold War longer, and naturally the estrangement between husband and wife became deeper. After many repetitions of

, a vicious circle is formed. The couple may fall into an endless cold war because of a wrong look.

The old grandson recalled that when he was angry in the past, he would also speak softly and beg his wife's forgiveness. Why did he like the Cold War later?

I analyzed that he had communicated with his wife many times, but instead attracted his wife's harsh words and personal insults, so he chose to refuse to communicate, which also avoided his embarrassment and inferiority.

A good solution to the Cold War:

1. Turning the article

Don't always think about the right and wrong of the old couple, it will not work at all, husband and wife live together, as long as there are no major conflicts, don't care about it sharp. The past of

is over, no one needs to mention it again, unite and look forward!

2. Self-criticism

First find the reasons from yourself, sum up your own shortcomings, make a sincere review to the other party, let the other party judge, and accept it with an open mind, so that the other party's anger will disappear.

3. Actual actionsGo to the market to buy something the other party likes to eat, come back and cook a table of good dishes, you can bring a bottle of wine, pour it into the glass yourself, and use actions to influence the other party and resolve grievances.

4. Invite good friends to be guests As soon as the friends come, the deadlock that the old couple doesn't speak will be broken. The two are just pretending, and it's like nothing has happened. On the surface, they talk and laugh, and the relationship will naturally recover.

In short, if the Cold War has already occurred, don't refuse to communicate, let alone accuse the other party during communication, which will make the other party feel bored, and naturally don't want to say anything more to you. The next time there is a conflict, the Cold War will become the only option. .

The Cold War must be stopped in moderation, and everything must have a degree. If it exceeds this degree, it will bring about results that no one wants to see.