During the meeting, my friend Maruko said that she suddenly thought of getting married last night. The reason is that I saw a topic on the Internet:
If you don't have children, will it really be pitiful when you grow old?
She said that she suddenly did not dare to imagine her old age without a family and children, and she felt miserable just thinking about it.
Although she finally changed her attitude and said: "Forget it, if you have children, it should be miserable or miserable."
I started to think, usually resists marriage in front of our parents, but we are also in some others I secretly thought about getting married in an unseen moment.
To this end, I also found 8 friends and asked -
about the moments in their lives that they want to get married.
01
The girl who grew up together,
I went to her wedding.
@月 25 years old Single
I was very impressed once when I attended my sister's wedding.
Seeing that she was a girl who grew up together,
Under the gaze of relatives and friends, the other party confirmed that she wanted to accompany her for life.
Being alone, and messing up everything.
That hotel is also very familiar to me.
In the past, every time I passed by, I was with my friends.
Only this time, I am alone.
02
Cooking for two people,
should be happier than a person.
@司Lilith 24 years old Single ing
I like to cook, but I am afraid of trouble if I only work alone.
Sometimes I want to buy all kinds of kitchen supplies.
But when I think I'm still drifting,
doesn't guarantee where I will move again in the next moment.
So when I go to the kitchen several times,
would like to have a more convenient and easy-to-use kitchen of my own;
wants someone to look forward to my cooking skills and have a meal for two together.
03
I envy their integrity.
@晨晨 25 years old Singles
When I saw my sister and brother-in-law holding their children,
I couldn't help wondering whether
would have such a happy family after many years.
But I also think that getting married and having children is a very troublesome thing.
is afraid that my focus of life will shift to a direction beyond my control,
just look forward to and escape.
04
Mom and Dad’s marriage is so happy.
@瓜子 25 years old Single
After quarreling with my mother,My dad said to me:
"Your mother is not sensible yet, you want to let her!";
When mom's birthday is approaching,
When receiving a reminder of "kindness" from dad;
when My mom and I video,
When my dad came over and kissed my mom.
Oh, tut tut~ marriage is also pretty good.
05
I want you to stay with me.
@玖幺 25 years old
in love
I think that if I get married, I can stay with him.
You don’t have to type good morning on the screen when you wake up in the morning,
can see him as soon as you open your eyes.
We had a barbecue together late at night, and helped him sprinkle a lot of cumin.
"Even if 99% of the people on earth say you are fat,
I will always be one of the 85 million remaining."
06
for the first time Stay with one person for a lifetime.
@废名 25 years old Love ing
Ask me if I want to get married. In the past, I definitely said I didn't want to.
Because I hate and fear getting married.
Because I don’t have any hope for love anymore.
But I didn't expect ---
Love came quietly in this desperate time.
Now that I have love, I want to be with him forever.
Getting married has suddenly become a wonderful thing.
07
I know that what I want is not marriage.
@一一 23 years old Single
accidentally fell down while walking down the stairs,
when his ankle was swollen larger than his fist;
when watching a favorite celebrity, his girlfriend's perspective video;
working late When I was alone on the way home.
But thinking rationally, at that moment -
All I want is companionship and security, not marriage.
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_p_strong For young people who choose not to get married, it's just that pstrong8 is written in the last modern young man who chooses not to get married.
and making a choice also means giving up.
is like freedom and loneliness, tied together. If you choose freedom, you have to accept loneliness.
Some people want to get married because of loneliness, some want to get married because of love, and some want to get married because they long for love and stability.
I have thought about returning, but I don't necessarily really have the determination to get married.
Because we want and need more, everyone is making trade-offs and trade-offs.
Accepting one's own choice also means being prepared to meet the problems behind this choice.
is like Secretary Lilith in the article. She said that she saw the girl who had been trapped in the bathroom for 30 hours on the news, and she would also bring her mobile phone into the bathroom when she took a shower.
accept your choice and take risks for it.
Anyway, if you can choose by yourself, you have already won the first step.
Then I wish you, while having your own choice, you also have the psychological presupposition and the ability to solve the unknown later.
"a person come here,
hard."
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