Xiaofan has been particularly troubled recently. Her 9-year-old son often beat his classmates at school, and once he hit his classmates until their faces turned red. The teacher had no choice but to call the parents over to discuss the matter. Xiaofan sighed and had to go to scho

Xiaofan has been particularly distressed recently. Her 9-year-old son often beat his classmates at school, and once he hit his classmates until their faces turned red. The teacher had no choice but to call the parents over to discuss the matter.

Xiaofan sighed and had to go to school, apologized to the teacher, and apologized to the parents of his classmates. Afterwards, he bought fruits and went to visit the children at their homes.

educated his son well after returning home.

This is not the first time that this happened, and Xiaofan was almost worried to death. We were all puzzled, because Xiaofan is a very gentle person and speaks softly. Why is the child so hands-on?

It wasn’t until I saw Xiaofan’s husband that I understood why her son liked to do things so much.

Children are a mirror to their parents

Only when I met Xiaofan’s husband that day did I understand why the child loves to hit people.

I went to send my children to play ball on the weekend, and I happened to meet Xiaofan’s husband also coming to see his children off. At that time, I saw father and son sitting on the sofa in the hall with serious expressions. What was unexpected was that suddenly Xiaofan’s husband raised his hand and slapped his son!

hit again immediately! He slapped him several times in succession! I was shocked. If other children were beaten like this, they would have been crying and screaming, but Xiaofan's son was calm and didn't say a word!

Seeing this scene, I immediately understood that the child had been beaten to numbness since he was a child. I used to think her child was too outrageous, but now I suddenly feel that this child is so pitiful. But when I found out why the child was beaten, I really felt dumbfounded.

Later Xiaofan told me the reason why my father beat the child.

It turned out that on the day of playing ball, the child wore long pants. The father thought it was too hot, so he asked the child to wear shorts. The child just doesn't want to wear shorts, so the father has to make the child wear shorts.

Because the child did not listen to him, after coming to the basketball class, the father was so angry that he opened the child. There were already many students coming to class at that time. It was really inappropriate to hit a child like this in the presence of so many people! Children also need to save face!

Do you think this is over? What’s even more outrageous is yet to come.

A child saw Xiaofan’s husband beating his son, and pointed at the father and son and their friends who didn’t know what they said. Xiaofan’s husband immediately became angry, chased the child, tried to teach him a lesson, and even threatened the child. Say it, I'll deal with you! The expression was particularly ferocious, as if he had met an enemy. The child was probably very frightened.

Seeing this, I finally understood why Xiaofan’s son loves to hit people so much. It turns out that the problem all lies with the father! The father's method of solving problems is simple and rough, and his son is naturally simple and rough too. Although my son suffered from it since he was a child, he directly imitated it and learned this way of solving problems.

As the saying goes, parents are the first teachers in their children's lives. What you teach your children, your children will learn. Children are a mirror of their parents. If a child does something outrageous, there must be outrageous parents behind him.

Of course, what kind of person you want your children to be must first lead by example.

You should be whoever you want your child to be.

Once, Feifei’s legs were burned by boiling water. It was so painful that she could not make any big movements while lying in bed every day. Her two children help cook, wash dishes, and do housework every day.

Her two children, one 12 years old and the other 9 years old, can cut vegetables and cook by themselves. We are all envious! My child is in fifth grade. He can’t even cut vegetables, but he can boil water!

In her description, I understood why her children are so great.

Feifei usually takes great care of her two children and prepares delicious dishes for them in different ways every day. At the same time, keep your home in order every day.

Praise her children when they do well, and make them realize their mistakes and apologize when they do something wrong. When her children were doing their homework, she was also studying beside her and checking in every day, so she never complained about her children's studies.

When she was cooking, the children would help her. As time went by, the children learned to cook. The eldest child knew how to cook, and the second child also clamored to do it, so he stood on a stool and learned to cook.

Feifei will encourage her children if she is not well-prepared, and never discourages them. So the child gets better and better.

Summary

If you want to cultivate an excellent child, you must first set an example and respect the child's ideas.

shares what the writer Gibran once said:

Your children are not actually your children

They are children born of life’s desire for itself

They came to this world through you

But they did not come because of you

They By your side, but not yours

What you can give them is love, but not your thoughts

Because they have their own thoughts

What you can protect is their bodies, but not their souls

Because they Your soul belongs to tomorrow, a tomorrow you can't reach even in your dreams.

Although the child came into this world because of you, he does not belong to you. He is himself and has independent thoughts. What we have to do is to help him become better so that he can survive in this complicated society. Take the path he wants to take.