"Baby, tell me quickly, which one is better, grandma or grandma?" At the gate of the community, five or six old ladies surrounded a three- or four-year-old boy and questioned him repeatedly. My aunts, how old are you, why do you still ask such stupid questions? Aren't you kidding the kids?
People who ask this question are, on the one hand, making fun of their children, and on the other hand, they want their children to say good things about themselves and then laugh. You are happy, but have you thought about the consequences of this problem?
Children are naive, they don't know who they will offend with such a question. If he tells this to the other party or his own parents, it’s okay if he meets someone who is open-minded. If he meets someone who is more sincere, think about whether your image in their minds will be compromised, and the relationship between you will be better. Will the relationship be affected?
These are all secondary, the most important thing is the impact on children. This question is no less difficult than the equally classic question of who should be saved first when a daughter-in-law or a mother fall into the water. After N times of trial and answer, the child will definitely summarize how to answer, and the person who asked the question will be happy. Therefore, the complexity in the adult world will make an originally innocent child become impure. He will ponder, he will calculate, he will even lie about it.
In fact, no matter grandma or grandma, they are all their own family members. There is nothing to compare them with. Don't always let your children rank their own family members. Parents should educate their children from an early age that both grandma and grandma love them, and they should love them equally. They should have the same feelings for grandma and grandma, and both should respect and be filial to them.
This is the correct way of education.
