Obedient is a rare characteristic in a person. It means that if we get along with such people, we can easily achieve our expected goals.
A few days ago, I watched a content about parenting programs. There was a family whose children were very naughty. As long as their goals were not achieved, they would cry and make a fuss, and even fight against their parents.
We all know that children do not have independent consciousness at the beginning, and the so-called behavior is more formed by imitating adults.
In other words, some measures taken by adults will be reflected in children to a certain extent.
Therefore, the parenting teacher began to educate the naughty child, ignore him when he was worried, making him realize that the way to compromise his parents through trouble is not easy.
Slowly, the child saw that it was useless to roll around and stopped making trouble. At this time, the parent-children began to reason and told him to say what he wanted. Adults would agree, and it was meaningless to make a fuss.
is like this, the naughty kid who was originally very noisy slowly became very obedient.
If you want to cultivate an obedient child, you need a certain amount of parenting knowledge, and if you want an obedient husband, you also need a certain amount of marriage psychology .
So, do you know? In this world, there are no disobedient husbands, only wives who do not understand marriage psychology.
1. What you expect will eventually get
. Everyone who has been with children knows that it is actually easy to make the other person obedient. Just release your own sense of oppression, such as reprimand, such as imperative tone.
At this time, because the child is still weak, human instinct is to habitually seek profit and avoid harm, and to show weakness to people who are better than themselves.
But as an adult man, this method is not very useful.
Because people have a rebellious mentality, the more they don’t let them do anything, the more they want to do something, the more they are forced to do something in a commanding tone, the more they are reluctant to do something.
So, when we are very strong, men will only feel disgusted and will naturally not become obedient husbands.
Lin Yutang mentioned in "The Art of Speaking": "Speaking is equal to expression, but to express a good sentence, it requires intelligence and talent. If you don't say it well, it is easy to offend people."
What we expect will eventually get. During this period, we need to adopt certain methods and techniques to make expectations reflect reality.
2. The power of warmth is far more effective than harshness
In the TV series " Wang Gui and Anna ", Wang Gui does not like to wash before going to bed. Anna has a clean obsession and thinks this is unhygienic, so she ordered Wang Gui to go and wash.
Wang Gui is macho and doesn't go anywhere. At this time, Anna said that if Wang Gui doesn't go to wash, don't think about touching herself. As a result, Wang Gui insisted that "poverty and humble cannot be moved, and he cannot be defeated by his might."
Anna went back to her parents' home and told her mother about this. Her mother said that Wang Gui's approach was unhygienic, but Anna's approach was also inappropriate.
Men are soft but not hard. The harder you are, the more they will be harder. Therefore, we must learn to overcome hardness with softness and "manipulate" men by releasing the flexible beauty of women.
After returning, Anna packed up the toiletries early. As soon as Wang Gui entered the door, Anna asked him to wash up tenderly, and after that, she kissed him.
Wang Gui had never seen this posture, so he jumped three feet high to the bathroom, humming a song while walking, and now he is happy to do what he had resisted so much before.
You see, this is the beauty of flexibility.
There is a south wind effect in psychology, which refers to the power of warmth that is easier to penetrate people's hearts than harsh criticism.
This also tells us not to "touch head-on" when dealing with gender relations. Try to use water as your teacher and use softness to overcome hardness to make men willingly "enslave".
3. Mastering marriage psychology helps us manage marriage
Women who know how to use psychological skills and women who don’t know how to use psychological skills will show two different results when dealing with marriage.
For example, we want an obedient husband, the former can be achieved smoothly, while the latter can only be struggling.
Sanmao said: "Marriage life is trivial and concrete. No matter how hard life is and the environment is simple, it cannot be omitted when couples talk nonsense and love together. Only in this way can marriage have vitality and vitality."
When we learn marriage psychology, we will know that the human heart is the most important. When we can control a person's emotional world at will, many seemingly difficult problems will be solved.
Of course, everything does not come from the sky. Before we want to get something, we should consider whether we have paid for it or what we have.
If we are gentle, men can naturally feel our goodness. If we are arrogant and domineering, men will naturally not be willing to be one with us.
Therefore, the most important thing lies in ourselves. Only when we release our kindness first can we gain goodwill.
