I remember when I was fighting when I was young, the teacher would not ask who was right or wrong. Instead, he would hit each other fifty times and stand to reflect.
At that time, I was not convinced, thinking that the teacher was too busy to ask the reason, and just wanted to use his power to calm the incident as soon as possible.
handles conflicts in this way. It does not mean that right and wrong are eliminated. How can we follow the rules in the future?
Until many years later, after seeing a lot, I suddenly realized that there is still some wisdom in dealing with problems from a higher level.
Not only teachers, but also many parents use this method to educate children.
fighting is wrong.
Whatever the reason, fighting itself is the wrong result, not just the wrong means.
If we divide human behavior into several levels, fighting is at the level of animal instinct. For humans, it is a discouraged method of handling internal disputes.
From this, we can also clearly realize that the core of human culture still hopes to use more effective means to deal with internal disputes, rather than staying at the level of animal instinct.
Law, in addition to fairness and justice, is often a means of emotional management. Society uses this external coercive force to regulate behavior and avoid excessive internal battles.
I don’t want to fight anymore. Is it okay to be angry?
It's okay to be angry, but the law doesn't care about you. Not only does the law not care, but people who have nothing to do with you don't care either. Whether you are angry or not has nothing to do with others.
Being angry only has something to do with yourself.
However, is angry and wrong.
Similarly, getting angry is also the wrong result. No matter how good the reason is, getting angry is inherently wrong.
One thought of anger clears up all obstacles in the heart.
Among the seven representative emotions of human beings, joy, anger, sorrow, joy, sadness and fear, if other emotions have some cathartic effects, and some of them may also increase people's vigilance and mobilize people's instincts, then the positive effects of anger are almost No.
Emotions are also at the biological instinctive level. Being angry or angry blocks reason, and most of the decisions made are wrong.
Facing things without emotions and using mechanical technical means may be closer to the rational level. At this time, we pay more attention to the thing itself, ignoring whether it is right or not, and paying attention to whether it should be done or not.
The battle at the instinctual level may be resolved at the rational level, and may even be transformed into a positive motivation. At this level,
can only solve the problem of zero-sum game . At a higher level, it may be clear at a glance, or it may be completely resolved. The purpose of
to improve cognition is to have more wisdom to solve life's problems. After all, people will encounter countless adversities in their lives. Dealing with them while angry, or just being angry, is really not good for you.
Not being angry will not only reduce internal friction, but also allow thinking to enter a higher level.
People's physiological functions will naturally change over time, but people's cognition will not naturally change over time. It is a pity that many people's cognition only stays at a certain level throughout their lives.
people can be trained.
recognizes the uselessness of anger, consciously trains to deal with things without emotion in life, until the emotion of anger is completely abandoned, which not only helps to improve the mood, but also helps to enhance cognition.
The theory that anger is useless may be a help to us to reach a higher level of cognition.
