Fighting between children is perfectly normal.
As long as there are social interactions among children, conflicts will arise. Because each of them grew up in a different environment and considered the problem from a different perspective, the chances of having different ideas are also very high.
Once a conflict arises, there is a risk of a fight. Whether the child becomes the perpetrator or the one being beaten will have a completely different impact on the child's future growth.
I would rather you hit someone than let others hit you
Today’s children are the treasures of their parents. When they are around, parents can protect them very well and prevent them from being harmed, but this kind of protection is also There is a time limit, and children will eventually leave their parents.
When they have to face it alone, parents will become very uneasy, fearing that their children will be harmed by others. Although it seems to be persecution delusion, it is the meticulous care of parents for their children.
So, the night before Xiaomiao went to kindergarten, my father said to Xiaomiao, you can do whatever you want when you get to kindergarten, play with whoever you want, and don't care what others think. If some children snatch your things or bully you, it doesn't matter if you attack them, as long as you don't get hurt!
When I picked up the children after school the next day, the teacher complained to his father, saying that Xiaomiao made three children cry today, and one of them even bled. I really don’t know how parents take care of their children at home. Little devil.
Even if Dad had to apologize to the other parents, he rewarded Xiaomiao after returning home. Because Xiaomiao protected his rights and did not suffer any harm, Dad would feel more relieved in the future.
When children grab toys in kindergarten, should they be taught to let go or to hold on tightly? The results are very different. Is it really that critical that
is harmed?
More and more parents will insist that they would rather hit others and pay for it than be hurt by being hit. Problems that can be solved with money are not big things. If a child is beaten and wronged, it cannot be healed with a little money.
Therefore, parents will continue to instill in their children the idea of ​​becoming stronger and stronger, but they have not told them at all what the boundaries are, under what circumstances they can move forward bravely, and under what circumstances they can not care about everything.
In the final analysis, the parents' thoughts are too extreme and they impose the hatred in their hearts on their children. Perhaps the parents who encourage their children to be rampant are ordinary and weak in real life. They have endured too many social grievances, so they will place their hopes on their children.
Why don’t these parents think about the saying that suffering is a blessing? When a child is growing up, isn't it a little helper to grow up if he gets hurt? If you have been living in a greenhouse, when will you grow up?
Letting go is not a sign of weakness.
When fighting with other children, it is regarded as a game. The children do not understand any tactics at all, nor do they know what confrontation means. They just have a very strong idea in their hearts. , Never let go, because if you let go, you will lose. As long as I let go, I will never be able to lift my head.
They don't care whether such a force confrontation will cause damage to the toy, and they don't know how to discuss it with the other party, and you can play with it for a while and I can play with it for a while. All they know is that my mother told me never to let go.
Any parents who have instilled this idea into their children in advance are very short-sighted. They simply believe that if their children persist to the end, they will win. It is more important to let others see their attitude, but they do not care about the facts.
What if your child indiscriminately stirs up trouble? Even if it is not yours, it still belongs to them. Should you be encouraged to commit such acts of robbery? Then the parents must be the embodiment of unreasonableness!
Instead, it tells children the importance of safeguarding their own interests.When the other party's strength exceeds your own, you can completely solve the problem in a flexible way. Letting go first and then seeking help from teachers and parents is a better solution. It does not mean victory when you smile, but you have to laugh until the end to be the winner!
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If this happened to your family, how would you solve it and guide your children? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!
