It is said that the kindness of raising children is great, and being able to become a family is an extremely lucky thing. But now the conflicts between many children and their parents are increasing and intensifying, and many children are beginning to hate their parents more and more. This sounds really chilling, so what is going on? In fact, it is just because there is a generation gap between children and parents, they cannot understand each other, and there is a lack of effective communication.
First of all, now we are an information society , and mobile phones and the Internet are too common. Many children can learn about the outside world through the mobile phone network at a young age. Due to their young age and immature minds, they are easily led astray. Comparison mentality will arise, and gradually a psychological gap will arise. They feel that their parents are too ordinary and useless, which makes them lose at the starting line. They become more and more dissatisfied with their parents. Not only do they not know how to be grateful, but they also feel that they are not grateful. Come and hate your parents.
Secondly, most of our parents are honest ordinary people, and their understanding of the world they face is different from ours. Therefore, their thoughts may not be as avant-garde as children's, and they always use old concepts, old ideas, and old education to restrain and educate children. Children are inherently rebellious during adolescence and have a rebellious mentality. The more you blindly want to control your children and the more you want them to be obedient, the more rebellious they will be. There is no parent who does not love their children, but if the way of love is wrong, it is not love, but will become hatred of the child.
Thirdly, some parents are too doting on their children and do not know how to refuse their children's unreasonable requests, allowing them to develop the habit of getting everything they want. Parents may tolerate these bad habits at home, but the children always One day when you grow up, you will have to go out and face society by yourself. Their habits and behavior will only result in constant beatings from society. When they can no longer survive outside and cannot gain a foothold in society, they will begin to hate their parents. It is true that parents spoil their children as much as they kill their children, and there is nothing wrong with caring for their children, but they cannot tolerate and tolerate them without a bottom line, so that they have the ability to take responsibility for their own actions.
Finally, many parents place their hopes on their children because their lives have failed or they have not lived the way they want. Interference in children's hobbies, food, clothing, housing, transportation, and even marriage and childbirth. Always want to impose what you think is good on your children, always feel that you are doing it for the good of your children, but everyone is an independent individual, everyone has their own thoughts, their own joys and sorrows, and parents should not control their children's lives. . Children need to be respected and need to work hard, plan and take responsibility for their own lives. If their parents always interfere, and one day things go wrong, they will resent their parents for ruining everything.
So I hope that all parents can find the correct way to educate and find ways to communicate with their children. Moreover, you also have your own life. Don’t pour all your energy and efforts into your children. Allow yourself to enjoy life appropriately, and let your children have their own space. Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings, and children will eventually grow up. , will leave the protection of their parents, and their parents will always grow old, and it is impossible to protect their children from wind and rain all their lives. Therefore, allowing them to have their own personality, the ability to survive independently and the ability to bear responsibility is what parents should consider most.
