As children grow up, their social circles are getting bigger and bigger. The quality of children’s social interaction determines whether they can make friends in the future. Children’s social interaction actually starts from a very young age. , But the social interaction between children is very simple, and sometimes some problems often occur.
Ms. Wang’s son Xuanxuan has been very unhappy recently. Ms. Wang felt that there was something wrong with the child at school, and noticed his emotions. Ms. Wang talked about it after the child came home from school. Way to ask the child what happened recently. Hearing his mother's concern, Xuan Xuan couldn't hold back. The emotions exploded recently. Xuan Xuan cried and said to her mother that he was in the kindergarten and no other children wanted to play with him.
When children are socially frustrated, parents will feel uncomfortable, because they will feel that their children are unwelcome, but the children will be more sad. They are actually very sensitive in their hearts. When they are rejected, they will I feel very sad . At this time, what parents do is very important.
Faced with the situation of children, parents of different personalities have different ways of doing it, but it is not recommended to deal with it brutally. Some parents will say to their children when they encounter such things. He doesn’t play for you, and you don’t play for him either." I think this way to solve children's social frustration will only make them lose their social courage and become more and more autistic.
Faced with children’s social frustrations, parents should first look for the reasons from their children, see what causes the social failures, and then make corresponding countermeasures. Guide the children in a targeted manner.
Children’s social failures are due to personality and family education.
Children’s personality reasons
Some children are indeed unable to integrate into group life because of their own personality.For example, has a very introverted personality and compares to . Autistic is unwilling to express. refuses every time when other children invite him to participate in the game. In this case, naturally others will not think of social interaction. He, socializing will naturally be frustrated.
Of course, there are some children, , their personality may be more selfish, they are more overbearing in speaking and doing things , no matter what they do, they are self-centered and never consider others. Children will make others feel that they have no affinity, and they are unwilling to get close to him.
It is true that some children's social frustrations in life are caused by family reasons. The reasons for this result may be related to several factors in the family.
Parents interfere too much with their children
Maybe there is a relatively strong parent in the family, also needs to interfere with children’s friendships, fearing that children will make bad friends, The friends they make Will check them one by one. In this way, interfering with the children's social interactions based on the standards of adults will make the children feel very stressed, and gradually they will not like to socialize. In the long run, there may even be social barriers.
Parents only focus on learning
Some parents feel that as long as they meet their children’s normal material needs, they can learn well, and that’s it. ignores the development of their children’s social skills , In their eyes, learning is the most important thing. Let the children study every day and feel that their grades are improved. Others are not a problem, but what they have never thought about is that the children lack social activities. often spends time alone and does not communicate with his parents, so it is easy for them to be socially affected , naturally, they will not be able to make good friends.
Children’s social interaction has an impact on all aspects of them. Especially for their psychological aspects, long-term solitary and withdrawn personality will make children become more and more autistic.
So how should parents guide their children to socialize better?
Cultivate children's social skills
This skill is really necessary for children, and it will even affect children's future life. When cultivating children’s social skills, tell them to respect others in the process of interacting with others, and take care of others’ emotions, so that other children will feel like a caring person. At the same time, parents can also take their children out more to get in touch with strangers with different personalities , so that their social skills can be gradually improved.
Give children a good family atmosphere
A harmonious and loving family environment can better help children socialize with others . Growing up in such a loving environment, the child’s personality will be very good in the future . However, if parents often quarrel at home, there may even be some violent problems, which seems to have no effect on the child. Yes, the child will imitate their every move, and the personality will be more irritable, so is when the child is socializing, They can easily have disputes with others, and cannot solve some problems calmly.Therefore, parents should create a good family atmosphere for their children so that they can grow up in such a warm environment.
Pay attention to guiding children’s negative emotions
When parents are rejected socially, their hearts are actually very aggrieved and sad. Even after this incident, is depressed and becomes more self-conscious. Close, I don’t like socializing anymore, Therefore, parents should guide their children’s negative emotions, let them vent their negative emotions in the right way, and give them some comfort and encouragement, and then find out the reasons. solve.
In addition, parents can tell them to be polite, respect the old and love the young, etc. when educating their children. These small details will be done, and the children will be more divided when socializing.
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In short, children’s social training is not a matter of one or two days. Parents must be patient, but because of such things, laugh at them, step by step, take more children out to exercise and socialize, and believe that children always Will be able to have a good social interaction and become a well-loved child.
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