Before I knew it, my daughter had entered kindergarten for almost 2 months. From crying, refusing to go, and rejection at the beginning, to now willingly going to kindergarten every morning, saying that she was very happy in kindergarten and made new friends. As an old mother, I am deeply relieved.
Although the child has adapted to the kindergarten, what is always puzzling is that she never stinky in kindergarten, even if she is too stinky. The first thing she does when she takes her home is to say to me, "Mom, I can't hold it anymore, I'm going to stinky!"
Even once found that there was a little "stinky" on her pants. I once thought "will you meet a bad teacher?" However, after a series of inquiries and observations, I realized that "this is not the case."
"Nine out of ten children may not be willing to get stinky in kindergarten." I have heard this sentence in more than one parent. Parents have also developed "rich associations" about this phenomenon. Why are so many children unwilling to get stinky in kindergarten? How to solve this situation? Let’s share detailed knowledge and experience below.
Why are 90% of children rejecting the stinky way in kindergarten? Don’t worry about the teacher, it may be a "pit" problem
With the emphasis on parent kindergarten education and the open educational environment, kindergarten teachers today have become more patient and careful in treating their children compared to before. It is basically rare to encounter situations where teachers secretly beat children, threaten them not to go to the toilet, or drink too much water.
Although the teacher is very attentive, the children will still have some problems that make parents "worry". Just like the matter of stinky stinky, children don’t seem to like stinky in kindergarten. Why is this? After I patiently asked and observed, I summarized the following three reasons:
First: The child is not used to the "pit" in kindergarten
- The toilet in kindergarten is different from that in home. The toilet at home is a toilet, but the kindergarten is a "squat pit";
- is used to being stinky at home, and there is no sense of oppression. In kindergarten, many children line up to go to the toilet, and their children will feel nervous and stressed, and they don’t like this feeling of going to the toilet;
- is not around, and they don’t want or dare to accept new things.
Second: shy
① Children who have just entered kindergarten have started to have gender awareness . Children are queuing up to go to the toilet. When the children are watching them, they will feel embarrassed when they are watching them in the toilet, so they would rather hold them back and go home to pull them;
② Most children are shy , afraid of trouble with the teacher , and they will also think that "stinky stinky" is a shame, so sometimes they will resist not telling the teacher;
③ Afraid of being ridiculed, some children will be stinky for a long time and are more stinky, so it is easy for other children to laugh at "XX's babe is so smelly!" They would rather go home and pull them again.
Third: Entering the "Anal Desire Period"
Children After one and a half years of age, they will enter a sensitive period , called "Anal Desire Period" , which lasts for 1-2 years. That is, when the child first enters the kindergarten, the "Anal Desire Period" may not have disappeared. After entering this sensitive period, the child will like to hold back and defecate. If he holds in, the child will feel nervous and relaxed. At the same time, the child will also have the phenomenon that he "will immediately pee and he will pee in his pants."
Is it very harmful to "stool in kindergarten"?
Many parents regard their children's "stools" as a normal behavior, thinking that their children will be better when they grow up. In fact, it is not the case. "Holding your bowel movements" may seem like an inconspicuous behavior, but after a long time and a habit is developed, it will not only cause a little harm if it is not improved.
may affect the physical development of children: Before children grow up, their stomachs are very delicate. If they always hold back their bowel movements and form habits, it may cause toxins that are not excreted in time to accumulate in the child's body, increasing the burden on the stomach and intestines and affecting physical development.
may affect the child's ability to defecate: obviously wants to go to the toilet, but he always holds it in his arms and cannot pull it out, and his stool will gradually become dry and hard. This way, it will be very difficult to pull out when it can be pulled.Once it is stinking and stinking, the child will become increasingly resentful of going to the toilet.
may affect children's learning ability: Children endure all day long and do not go to the bathroom because their stomachs are bloated and uncomfortable. They may not eat much, and they cannot enjoy playing, let alone concentrate on studying.
Always hold it down and it is not good for children to grow up. Parents can try this to deal with the situation where their children are stinky
Once the child hold it down and it becomes a long-term habit, it is not good for the child's body and psychology. So as parents, we can consciously teach our children how to "go with the flow" to defecate in kindergarten.
First: Break the fixed time to go to the toilet, teach the child to ask for help
For children who "who feels nervous when they are seen by other children, so they dare not let the child get smelly", parents can teach the child. ask the child to take the initiative to ask the teacher when other times (other children play), saying that they want to "tough". This can not only prevent the child from holding back the smell, but also eliminate the tension and pressure of the child when going to the toilet.
Second: Teach children how to view the "stinky smell"
"stinky smell is to discharge garbage from the body. If you want to stinky smell, you must tell the teacher in time. Every child will stinky smell, and everyone's stinky smell is not good." It is not only the stinky smell you pull is "stinky". teaches children to correctly view stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky stinky s
Third: Reasonably view other children "make fun" about "hilarious"
Appropriately let children respond to those children who "love to make fun of others", such as "Dad is smelly when it comes out, does it smell good if you pull it?" Usually parents should not dislike the smelly or show an unpleasant expression after the child finishes the smelly smell. lets children know that "stinking smelly is human instinct , there is nothing funny, and there is no one who dislikes who."
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