What issues should parents pay attention to when criticizing their children? Only then can children be convinced and correct their mistakes! Today I will teach you. These two points need to be paid special attention to. Parents must read them carefully!
First of all, when we criticize our children, we must pay attention to the matter, do not expand the scope, and do not rise to personality attacks. Many parents especially like to expand this situation and exaggerate it when criticizing their children.
is a mistake in one thing. If you don’t do it well, then let’s talk about it. As a result, parents have risen from this matter to the level of their children’s personality, and they start to attack their personality, and then they are not satisfied. They have to calculate the historical account, what mistakes did you make two years ago? I said at the time that you didn’t change it, and then what mistakes did you make last year, and you said you didn’t change it.
Historical old accounts were settled there, and the child finally didn't understand. Are you going to attack him? You still have to talk about this matter. Just like writing an article, it goes off topic as we write. When we do ideological work with our children, we often go off topic as we do it. If you go off topic, will the child not be able to grasp the key points? Therefore, when we criticize children, we must keep the scope within a small range. If the scope is small, it will be more targeted and the key points will be highlighted.
The second point is, in our lives, many parents criticize and guide their children without reason. For example, some mothers say that my children think it is meaningless to have so many people grab the first place. Is there something wrong with my child? Is he not motivated? Then she swears to criticize the child: Why don’t you have no fighting spirit, why don’t you have no enterprising spirit?
Actually, the child is not wrong. Everyone should try their best to do the best within their own abilities. This is enough to complete our own life, rather than simply competing with others. Many times we criticize our children. After criticizing them, you always feel that the child will not change. What is the reason? The reason is that when a child sees you, he feels that you are behind him in terms of cognition. The things you are talking about are unreasonable, and in the end he will not listen to you.
When you want to criticize your child, you turn the sentence three times in your mind and then say it. Think carefully about these points about your child in your mind, right?
The most difficult thing to do to criticize is to be convinced, and if you want to convince your child, first, we must be a rational person. When criticizing your child, don’t expand the scope. Second, when criticizing children, you must be reasonable and convincing. Have you learned it?
