Baby does not want to defecate in kindergarten
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00 daughter does not want to defecate in kindergarten. Because she knew that her stool was smelly, she was afraid that the bathroom would be filled with odor, which would cause the teacher and other children to smell. what to do?
Although we solve various problems of children's eating every day, we also deal with all kinds of baby's poop every day. After all, excretion and eating are closely related.
In fact, children are not willing to defecate in kindergarten. This issue has been said a lot, but this question has made us pay attention to some different angles, hoping to give you some inspiration.
First do a test question to see how you can withstand excrement as a parent. The question was compiled by me for reference. There is no need to have any psychological burden
level: In life, I can't say the words "feces", "shit", and "piss" loudly and naturally in front of others without embarrassment. I must use words such as "stinky", "go to the toilet", "go to the bathroom" and other words instead. , When the child speaks these words, I will correct
: The first choice is to say "stinky", "poop", and do not choose to say "feces", "smoked", and "piss". When the child speaks these words, I will occasionally correct
2: I can say "feces" and "smoked", but I feel unpolite. I feel uncomfortable when I hear the child speak these words. , but I won't correct him
3 level: I can naturally say "feces" and "shits" in front of others, it's not embarrassing. The child will not correct him when he says these words
4 level: I feel very interesting when my child says "feces" and "shits" and can speak it loudly with him hahaha laugh
When it really tests your ability to bear it, it is
High-energy warning. If you are having a meal, please don’t look, don’t look, please pass it quickly. High-energy warning
How many parents can stay in the photo above for 3 seconds?
Actually, the above content, I just want to say that this problem gives me the feeling that the child thinks that feces are bad, the odor is bad, and the stool is shameful.
Where did this understanding of children come from? Is "shit" a taboo topic in your home? Or have your family accidentally said something like "The toilet is smelly", "Your poop is smelly", and "Your poop is really smelly"?
Because "shit" is the same as Sex education , the first cognition of children is from the family. If it is the reason for other people in kindergarten or kindergarten, such as the child is not good at using squats, or is afraid to ask the teacher to help him wipe his butt, or other children make jokes about her, she will not use such advanced logical relationship as "the stool is smelly - the bathroom is smelly - the stinky smell will smell the teacher and the child". Because the intelligence of kindergarten children has not developed to this extent. Of course, because you didn’t say how old the child was, it was not impossible if you were a child in the senior class. But children in the senior class should have adapted to kindergarten life long ago, and there is no difficulty in defecating in kindergarten.
This logic of children is very similar to those who think that "sex is vulgar", "sex is shameful", and "sex should not be discussed on the table".
Especially some of the mothers I have come into contact with, their daughter’s sex education can be said to be completely sexual assault education. So in the process of education and guidance, is it because of overemphasis on "sexual assault" that children have a wrong understanding of their sexual organs and butts, and then they have a disgust of human excretion and human excretion?
Children are unwilling to defecate in kindergarten, which is too common and common. This reason for your daughter makes me feel that it is necessary to remind you to recall the daily interactions between yourself and your children. Is it given the child some wrong hints, as I said above, that she would give her children some false hints, and that everyone would want to shit out. No earthling's shit is fragrant. In the face of such a simple fact that the shit out of the shit out is fragrant, would she actually think that because the shit out of her own shit is smelly, this smell has added trouble to others? I really don’t dare to think if she continues to develop like this, will she hate her body during her adolescence? Will you think you are dirty when your sexual consciousness is germinated?
So the most urgent and important thing you need to do is to ensure that all family members can discuss "shit" happily, naturally and loudly! Try to find the advantages of each child’s feces, toileting ability and effect, and praise them loudly without making any negative comments.
For example, "I lifted my pants today, it's great", "I washed my hands carefully today, it's great", "I remember to go to the toilet before going out today, it's great, I must keep it up", etc., to help children rebuild their confidence.
How to create an opportunity to discuss "shit, fart, pee"?
Recommend some picture books, such as "Ah, butt! 》, "Who is um um on my head ", "How can the princess pick her nose", "Poop elephant", "Can't hold it, can't hold it, can't hold it, can't hold it anymore", "Bedwetting Master", "Oh, fart is coming", "Dad, will the princess fart too? 》, when reading, you can take your children to read aloud when other family members are there, and make a statement with your family in advance, not give negative comments, it is better to participate in the discussion, and if you can't, just keep quiet.
还可以让孩子看一些动画片，比如我女儿很喜欢看也喜欢唱的碰碰狐《便便歌》
朗朗上口，曲子也很好听，我家经常是和孩子一起唱，特别是最后一句唱完，我们每次都是哈哈大笑，这首歌实在是太有趣了。
Including toys, there are some fun. My daughter likes this Qiaohu very much. It also has music, a short song, "I'm going to defecate, I want to go to the bathroom, um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um Haha, this toy is very interesting. I saw my daughter sing it once when she played with this toy
Through these methods, in the process of taking the child to read picture books, playing with toys, and watching animations, it is to convey to the child a message such as "It's fun to poop", "It's normal for the mother to poop", "It's normal for the whole family to poop to poop", so that the child can accept poop to poop and realize that poop to poop is smelly, which is normal. If someone thinks that stinking is wrong, it is that person’s problem, not yours.
Hope our suggestions are helpful to you.
