Now the three-child policy has been relaxed, but my country's fertility rate is still on a downward trend, which makes us wonder why more and more women are beginning to be reluctant to have children?
Let me give you a case around you first
My cousin and my husband have been married for almost four years, but they have never planned to have children. My cousin's mother-in-law and mother are very anxious.
The mother-in-law and mother of my cousin often hint at her cousin, For example, secretly putting folic acid , and when I go out together, I praise the cuteness of the baby, etc. indirectly urges cousin to have children. Sometimes cousin's husband also echoes.
My cousin was very upset because her career is on the rise and her income is very considerable. If she wants a child, her career will definitely be affected. I don’t want to give up because of the child. The key is that my mother-in-law doesn’t understand, but even her husband and mother-in-law start urging me!
One day, my cousin's mother-in-law invited many relatives and friends to have dinner at home. My mother-in-law said she was visiting herself, but in fact she was urging her cousin to hug her urging her baby banquet. At the dinner table, everyone talked about topics about their children intentionally or unintentionally.
Finally started urging my cousin to have a child. The more I listened, the more unhappy my cousin became. This was not a meal. As a result, so many people advised me to come! So my cousin told her difficulties and current situation.
My cousin said: "You said it is easy to have a child, but I am the hardest one! I will not say that my career is abandoned and my figure is distorted. The key is to be responsible for the child when I give up my child and give him the best family environment and education. If I can't do it, giving birth to a child is equivalent to harming the child!"
Why are women increasingly reluctant to have children? Young families are determined not to have a second child after giving birth. In fact, they cannot escape these major reasons
1. The quality of life declines
When a woman is preparing to have a child, the focus will change from the career they like to the family. She has the ability to go further, but because of the children and the family, her work will be affected.
Before giving birth, he was obviously a delicate white-collar worker, and the shopping cart was full of clothes and cosmetics; After giving birth, he became an aunt who coaxed the baby to sleep, and shopping cart also became diapers and milk powder, and his personal quality of life was reduced to the naked eye.
2. Economic pressure has increased
In today's society, even if you don't have children, the economic pressure will be great. Mortgage loans, car loans, and preparatory pension costs are not money.
When a woman gives birth, it will be even more expensive. From the childhood milk powder and diapers, tuition and tutoring class fees that started in kindergarten, the financial pressure became Alexander.
3. Women lose freedom
In the traditional Chinese family concept, mothers take care of their children. Some women do not want to lose their freedom, because having children means that women should live with "child-centered" and they are afraid of losing themselves and freedom, so they do not consider having children.
4. Don’t know how to be a good parent
Some women are seeing the process of others being parents, or the influence of parents from their original families, which leads to these women being afraid that they cannot be good parents and do not want to have children.
5. Don’t like children
Children crying is something that many people are afraid of. When they see children crying in other families or hear colleagues talking about their children’s problems, they naturally become resistant to the baby because they feel uncomfortable being with their children.
6. Fear of having children
Women are very sensitive to having children. Some women are difficult to accept whether it is or caesarean section because it hurts too much!
7. Fear of marriage failure
Some women have no confidence in their marriage and are afraid of ending with divorce in the end. If you have children, it will involve a series of problems such as child custody and single mothers. So these women simply don’t have children to avoid these problems.
So when faced with such men, most female compatriots chose not to have children, because they are always themselves who are affected.
