Around us, almost every parent has the mentality of "hoping their children to become dragons and their daughters to become phoenixes", which is understandable. However, whether a child can become a "dragon" or a "phoenix" is of great importance to family education .
A mother once complained that her child was full of shortcomings and she could not see the advantages of her child.
I feel wronged for her child when I hear her say this.
Coincidentally, a teacher I know who works in family education once asked parents to write down their children’s ten advantages in class, but many parents cannot write down their children’s advantages.
One of the parents thought for a long time and finally wrote down one of the advantages of their children, that is: kindness.
is by your side. Are there any such parents? There are
, and there are too many.
Parents cannot write down their children's advantages. Is it because children really have no advantages?
is definitely not the case, it’s just that too many parents can only see their children’s shortcomings but not their advantages.
New Oriental Chairman Yu Minhong Teacher once said: "So there is a problem with children, 80% of the problems are on parents. If you are a parent, the children will definitely be fine!
I hope everyone will create a synthetic parent first, even if I am qualified or not, at least we should work hard." This is true, but how many parents are willing to work hard for it.
I often say this: "It is better to ask yourself instead of asking for your children."
Every parent wants their children to have a promising future, but most children with promising futures when they grow up with have a promising future. has the following characteristics.
1. Parents who love learning and improvement
Someone said: "There are many parents who do not understand parenting and are parenting, and there are many people who do not understand education doing education." This sentence may offend many people, but as long as we observe carefully, this is actually the case.
Good parents know how to learn and improve, because parents love learning and improve themselves, what they achieve is their children, and what they benefit the family and society.
Because society is constantly developing and changing, and knowledge is constantly depreciating. Only by constantly learning can parents cultivate excellent and learning-loving children.
. Children who grow up have a promising career often come from excellence and love to learn.
2. Parents who can manage husband and wife well
Parents who can manage husband and wife well often have a stable mood, know how to tolerate each other, and can see the other's strengths.
They can see each other's efforts and have a grateful heart. Parents like
are often able to accept their children and see their children's advantages.
They know how to encourage their children, let them live in a warm and loving family, give them a full sense of security, and let them grow up healthily and happily.
3. Parents who know how to be self-disciplined
Dong Qing praised Tsinghua talented woman Wu Yishu, she has a pair of very self-disciplined parents.
Wu Yishu's parents basically do not touch their mobile phones after get off work in order to have a quiet learning environment and to play a good driving role.
In fact, whether a child takes the initiative to learn does not depend on what his parents say, but on what his parents do.
In an interview, Wu Yishu said that her parents only asked her to have a good attitude towards learning, and she would not blame her for the scores, so she did not have much pressure on her scores, so she did not have much pressure on her scores, so she did not have much time to get abnormal exams, and her academic performance would naturally not be bad. So she was admitted to Tsinghua University smoothly.
Parents’ self-discipline will definitely drive their children’s self-discipline. Parents’ good habits will also make their children subtly influenced. Therefore, it is very important for parents to give their children the power to example.
Wenhai dialect parenting: The published work "Walking through the Stone Forest of Flowers"; Parenting Expert, focusing on the topic of pregnancy and childbirth, welcome to follow me. If you have any questions, please leave a message in the comment area and be grateful for meeting!
Previous readings:
