During the process of teaching parents or one-on-one coaching and healing, I found that there was a "wrong" logic at home. When a child's behavior shows a certain situation, which is defined by us as improper behavior and problems, parents hurriedly find experts from various ways to deal with their children and correct their behavior.
In fact, it makes sense to correct a child's behavior to a certain extent. For example, the problems mentioned by parents are not attentive in class, being rebellious, and talking backward.
Parents focus on how to cultivate their children's concentration, how to change their procrastination, and how to change their children's rebellion. But it seems that one phenomenon is ignored that our self-presentation is always presented under the touch of others under certain circumstances. So, it is actually necessary to look back at what parents have done? What did you say?
For example, a parent once told me that my child was very slow when doing homework. When I ask specifically what happened, I find that when a child faces boring problems and has some emotions in his heart, what parents see is that the child stops doing homework and what they see is that the child is in a bad mood. If you do not accept and accept all the happenings of your child, and treat your child with various criticisms, accusations, orders, demands, and even beatings and yelling, naturally, the child does not digest the emotions caused by the boring and difficult homework, and is involved in the emotions of his parents, presenting various invisible resistance, rubbing and direct resistance to rebellion.
When parents see a problem with their children, they must look back and see what they need to improve and whether their parents’ life state is calm.
I always think that instead of spending a lot of money to urge experts to modify their children's problems, parents should grow up first, change the wrong logic, look inward, grow parents first, and then provide them with love and nourishment, encouragement and guidance...
