Life is endless and struggles are endless. We have been moving around like the hour hand on the road of life. Therefore, people are struggling for life throughout their lives. Whether it is children or adults, we are all experiencing happiness and unhappiness.
Happiness is simple to say. For children, growing up and becoming successful in happiness is happiness. For adults, watching over family affection and making money in happiness is the happiest thing.
Who would have thought that in today's extremely materialistic environment, will we really live a happy life? Whether it is children or adults, I think many people do not live happily, but have a difficult and even painful life.
For children, there is pressure from kindergarten. They will also go to school with the scorching sun in the summer and the cold wind in the winter. Many children are not idle even on weekends and are brought into extracurricular interest training classes by their parents. For example, in order to achieve better training results, some arts and sports students are more painful than stepping on their legs and tearing their legs. They cry out loud during training...
Don't think that children are so happy. In recent years, more and more children have committed suicide due to learning pressure. Behind the many incidents, they don’t know what their children have experienced. They live so much that they even jumped off a building.
Peking University is something every parent and classmate is looking forward to. If a child who has been admitted to Peking University as his parents wished and jumped off the building at Peking University on the first day of his admission to school, what kind of questions will our minds have?
The child left a suicide note to his mother and said: I have already admitted to Peking University for you, so don’t bother me again in the future.
From this we can see that this student who was admitted to Peking University was due to the "force" of his parents and his "desperate" and after he was admitted to Peking University, he jumped with relief to put a question mark on his life that surprised people?
We will not only ask: What's wrong with these children, but what's wrong with this society?
In the suicide note of a 14-year-old girl in Shanghai jumped off a building, it is an educational class that touched the hearts of parents and was enough to cause reflection.
On August 16, 2021, the 14-year-old girl left a 3-page suicide note. She told her tremendous pressure and pain and then jumped off the building.
When school starts in September, she is about to enter the second year of junior high school. She is afraid that she will bear greater pressure from her parents, so she is expected to be unable to withstand, so she chose to jump off the building.
From the suicide note she left, we can see that the little girl is a good boy and kind-hearted. It is not an impulse, but her young heart is shattered and completely collapsed.
She has too much concern. She said: She will not make her house turn into a haunted house, and will let herself die outside. She had to help pay back the books she borrowed at school, and she had to say "thank you" to the teacher for her, and use her pocket money to buy lollipops for the children; she put the 30,000 yuan New Year's money on the table. They asked them to take their grandmother over and stay up together, and advised their parents to work less overtime and stay up late; more importantly, they hope that their parents will be better to their younger brother, please stop this kind of harm...
A very sad sentence in the suicide note: It is a great honor to meet you in life. If there is a next life, we should not meet again.
School starts to the second year of junior high school. I was killed by the first day of junior high school, so how could I think of the devil's second and third grades? What you love is not me, but me who rushed into the top ten in the class, and I got the full mark, but I couldn't.
The most painful thing when slapping the face is, then the back of the hand, then the arm, and finally the thigh. It’s okay to hit the back, but the most painful thing when being whipped by a whip or wire is it; then the back, and finally the arms.
The most effective way to humiliate people is to let him stand outside the house in slippers, and then scream and insult day and night.
The reason for insomnia is that you are scolded or beaten before going to bed, lying on the bed, listening to the insults coming from the master bedroom, and spending the rest of your time reminiscing about the sadness of the day.
It is simple to destroy a person, it only requires ruining his childhood.
The most fundamental reason for her suicide is not just that she is under too much pressure, but that she is suffering from her parents' mental and physical torture and humiliation of a girl, which forces her daughter to a dead end.
If you live in a family environment like this, I believe that children will not live well and parents will not live happily.
As a child, who doesn’t want to be smarter? Do you want to become stupid?
As a student, who doesn’t want to be among the top, who doesn’t want to prepare for the college entrance examination and realize his dream of Peking University?
As parents, we cannot impose our unfinished career on our children and complete it on behalf of our parents to obtain honors. Ten fingers have different lengths, and everyone has different potentials, and not everyone can reach the first place.
When you are tired, you have to take a break. If you exceed the limit, you will fall. Things will turn back when extremes are extremes, this is the law of nature.
The most memorable thing in life is childhood, and you should grow up and become talented in happiness. If a child's childhood is destroyed, and the whip, abuse, and trampling of his personality that accompany him, how can he have a bright future? The saddest thing is to die if your heart is cold and not warm.
All people should receive the respect they deserve when they can understand human language, because everyone wants to live with dignity and hold their heads upright. Especially for students, they have to face so many students in the school. Once they are embarrassed, how can they feel?
These days, it’s so strange. People sitting on the sofa or lying on the bed are always qualified to point at the nose and scold someone who is reading or writing homework. Little do I know this is a kind of harm to the child.
Some time ago, a Weibo post: "Why do children not want to communicate with their parents" became a hot search on Weibo, which caused hundreds of millions of onlookers and hot discussions. Many people shared their feelings when they were blocked from communicating with their parents.
Some children said: Their logic is completely different from ours, and sometimes they even misinterpret my meaning, so I feel less and less willing to talk to them.
"Parents think they are right, instill their ideas into their children, and do not listen to their children's voice at all, and think that my rejection is because I have not grown up and immature."
"They cannot communicate with their children calmly. Communication will only make them feel uncomfortable, so they will not communicate slowly, and problems will be considered invisible."
0 "Because parents are always the most fiercer person to 'spoke cold water' on you. They think doing this is good for their children, but in fact they don't need these."
In this way, the children are tired, the parents are tired, and family conflicts are surging, and no one is happy...
Next, a parent said something that surprised people even more: "If I hadn't seen it with my own eyes, I wouldn't believe that my 10-year-old daughter actually thought of death. Even the suicide note was written, and I would be scared silly."
A little girl who has just entered the fourth grade. In the eyes of her parents, she is a lively, well-behaved and cute little girl. Why did she think of death?
This was what my mother accidentally saw on the little girl’s notebook: on August 30, the five big words “Suicide Goodbye” were particularly eye-catching. It reads "Person who applied for suicide: Li XX", and the suicide note was written at 12 pm. A handprint was drawn with a ballpoint pen on the "handprint". The method of death said "jumping off the building and dying", and the suicide time said: "12:50 in the middle of the night tomorrow", and the words "No one was involved" were marked on the page.
The mother felt that she had been doing her best to her children's life and study, and hoped that the children could grow up happily and healthily, but she never expected that she would bring the children like this. She didn't know where the problem was, and she was even scared to sleep all night.
A 10-year-old child should have grown up carefreely in his golden childhood, so why did he write a suicide note? Is it a prank fun? Don't think too much about it.
The reason is: many parents are very good at talking nonsense and only talking about grades, habitually giving high hopes to their children, hoping that their children can shine their ancestors when they grow up.
When the child has poor grades, he insults his head and faces. He will always have only blame, and he will have a thorn in his mouth, which will hurt the child's heart again and again. After getting grades, higher requirements were put forward, which puts great pressure on the child.
Children's mental health is particularly important. When accompanying and educating children, you must pay attention to methods and methods. We should create a relaxed and pleasant environment for children to learn and guide children with flexible and diverse educational methods. In fact, mental health is far more important than academic performance!
There is a saying that one should accept three ordinary things in his life: accept the ordinary of his parents, accept the ordinary of oneself, and accept the ordinary of his children!
In fact, countless tragedies cases reveal a truth: what crushes parents is not homework, nor grades, but the heart that wants their children to become successful. Although parents try their best to support their children and want them to live a better life in the future. However, that love came too heavily, crushing the child's backbone and crushing himself.
Little do you know that every ordinary child may have tried their best. So, please accept the imperfection of children. Accepting children is just an ordinary person. They may not be child prodigy or geniuses, but they are still the most shining child in our hearts.
In the above tragedy, many websites left messages and expressed their thoughts.
Netizen A: The experiences of these children have allowed me to see my childhood. The difference is that I am still alive and miraculously survived.
Netizen B: This girl looks like me back then. But my level is much lighter. In my second year of high school, I almost committed suicide and was discovered by my mother. It’s just that kind of person who scores 100 points, and you are ninety-ninety-nine are all sins. He missed five points and failed to get into a key high school, and he cried in three years of high school. Now, I am also a mother. I will never judge the value of my children based on my grades. They have their own ideas and their own strengths.
Netizen C: I also came down (belt and stick). Even if you have a grade below 90, you won’t dare to enter the house. In the year of the college entrance examination, my parents asked me if I was sure to get into a good university, but I said I didn’t know. They just said coldly that if they can’t pass the exam, they should stop studying, it’s a waste of money! I can't count on you anyway. Then I packed my luggage a week before the college entrance examination, went to the station with the monthly living expenses in my pocket, bought a ticket and left home...
Some people say that no one lives like a flowing cloud. Only by experiencing the mountains and rivers of time and only by experiencing the world’s flavors can people be truly strong. It’s easy to say, but it’s hard to be sincere.
Everyone has their own excitement. No matter how ordinary we are, it is a limited edition. Life is the answer, and the answer is never the same
For learning, each child has different potentials and the effects are definitely different. There are thousands of ways to become a talent, and achievements are not the only way out. So, it is not suitable for every child. Please change the way to the child.
Reality is very tiring, everyone may be tired, we need to change our way of living. Please remember these words: joy, laughter, simplicity, original intention. I believe that children and parents can live their own wonderful life.
because: Only with love can one move forward steadily...
