For families with children, in addition to children's health issues, parents should be most concerned about their children's IQ and emotional intelligence. If the child's IQ is higher, the learning ability will be stronger than that of ordinary intellectuals, but EQ is obviously more important than IQ.
Children with low emotional intelligence are embarrassing and may also destroy a relationship.
Liu's daughter, Xiaoxiao, is 6 years old this year. Because she is the only daughter in the family, she is almost regarded as the jewel in the palm of the whole family. Xiao Liu and her husband are usually reluctant to criticize them severely, and they will not make demands on their children when they are in trouble.
Even if the child usually does some outrageous behavior, parents will endure it, thinking that the child is still young and will be fine when he grows up.
A relative visit made Xiao Liu and her husband pay attention to their children's emotional intelligence. Xiao Liu's sister took advantage of the holiday to travel with her children, and specially went to Xiao Liu's house to see her sister.
The sisters had a lot to say when they met. Because the two children were about the same age, they were allowed to play together. The two children laughed and started to cry. Xiao Liu and her sister hurried over to ask the reason. .
I didn't expect Xiaoxiao to complain angrily: "Why does she always let me lose when she plays games with me, I hate her!" The "fuse" of temper.
Xiao Liu watched that it was getting dark, so he let his sister live in his own house, which happened to be convenient for several bedrooms. Xiao Xiao became anxious when he heard it, and shouted directly at them: "This is my home, outsiders can't live in!" Xiao Liu explained to Xiao Xiao that this was his aunt, his own aunt, not outsiders.
Who knows with a smile: "I say outsiders are outsiders, I don't want others to live in our house, and I've been very unhappy with losing games today, I don't agree with them!" Embarrassed, Xiao Liu also looked very bad. At this moment, the words of Sister Xiao Liu's child made everyone breathe a sigh of relief.
I just heard Xiao Liu's 7-year-old niece say to them gently: "Mom, let's go to the hotel. I don't know what the hotel looks like, can you take me to see it?"
Xiao Liu heard it Seeing that the mother was embarrassed, the child deliberately said such words to relieve the adults. In the end, Sister Liu took the child to the hotel. Afterwards, Xiao Liu and her husband were always ashamed for Xiao Xiao's practice.
Children with low emotional intelligence often do these 6 things, each of which is a headache
The first thing: bad emotions are for their family members, a typical
Many children look timid outside, but a When you get home, you will be "proclaimed king". Get mad at your parents, go wild, and possibly act inappropriately at your parents. This kind of child who brings bad emotions to his family usually has a lot to do with low emotional intelligence.
[Cracking method]: When children appear in the nest, most of them are caused by parents' spoiling. To avoid such a situation, parents must love their children with degrees and principles, and avoid unconditional satisfaction of their children. Furthermore, the parents in the family must maintain the same attitude towards their children, otherwise the children will also "see what others do".
●The second thing: do not know how to think in a different position
Some children only consider themselves when dealing with things, they do not know how to respect others, and they do not know how to think in a different position.It's even taken for granted when others help you.
[crack method]: In this regard, it is important for parents to lead by example. As the saying goes: "Parents are children's first teachers ". Teaching by example is the best education method. When parents treat everyone with respect, then children will become people who know how to respect others.
●The third thing: don't talk about polite, disrespect people If you don't take care to correct your child's misbehavior, you can be alienated and hated by others.
[Cracking method]: Parents should lead by example. When parents often treat others in a polite way, their children will be subtly affected.
And after the child makes some inappropriate behavior, the family must educate immediately. Making your child aware of the seriousness of these behaviors through patient explanations and appropriate punishment will reduce the likelihood that your child will repeat it next time.
●Fourth thing: Make a big noise when you encounter a little thing
Children with low emotional intelligence often lose their temper and start making a big noise when they encounter a little thing. Even when playing with other children, often starts to mess with because the other party can't do exactly what they want. This kind of behavior can easily cause trouble to others, and it will make people around them start to avoid children.
[Cracking method]: First, parents should let their children recognize emotions, and second, they should consciously empathize with their children , when children experience more and more emotions, children can express their emotions clearly, and finally, Parents teach some effective ways to regulate emotions, and children can control their emotions well.
●The fifth thing: like to pick faults
Some children with low emotional intelligence always like to find faults in others, and like to make themselves happy by letting others lower their self-confidence. As everyone knows, in the process of belittling others, you are also belittling yourself, and liking people's shortcomings is a manifestation of lack of thinking ability.
Usually when you are with such a person, everyone's negative energy will increase and their favorability will be greatly reduced.
[Cracking method]: Children like to find faults, which may be entering a "perfect sensitive period". Parents help children understand perfection, tell children that perfection and imperfection are just different references, and guide children to correctly pursue perfection, slowly Children will see the strengths of others, not just the weaknesses of others.
●The sixth thing: do not accept any negative comments It may not even be digested for a long time, and it has been in a negative mood.
Even if many comments are sincere and beneficial to them, children with low emotional intelligence will immediately refute and only do things according to their own ideas.
Moreover, children with low emotional intelligence will also have negative emotions when facing people who give opinions or suggestions to them, and sometimes even show them directly to express their inner dissatisfaction, which is actually very detrimental to the healthy growth of children.
Because we face up to some valuable negative comments, it is of great help for children to improve themselves. Don't start to become irritable because of some unpleasant remarks.
Concluding remarks
Emotional intelligence plays a vital role in everyone. Children with low emotional intelligence will not only cause trouble to others, but also live unhappy lives.
Many parents are aware of the important role of high emotional intelligence in interpersonal relationships, so they start to cultivate their children's emotional intelligence from an early age.
For example, some parents will let their children experience various situations and improve their speaking skills through , while some parents influence their children in a subtle way.
In short, cultivating children's high emotional intelligence is not something that can be achieved overnight. In daily life, parents should also do a good job of guiding. Only by accumulating experience in practice can children become people with high emotional intelligence.
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