Harvard University once did a follow-up survey on the impact of goals on life. They conducted a follow-up study on a group of young people with similar intelligence, education, and environment. The results found: 27% of people have no life goals, 60% have goals but are relatively vague, 10% have clear goals but relatively short-term, and only 3% have very clear long-term goals.
25 years later, their living conditions and distribution have shown the following characteristics: 3% of the group has hardly changed their life goals in 25 years, and have been working tirelessly in this direction, and they have almost all become Top successful people from all walks of life; 10% of the groups live in the middle and upper classes of society, their short-term goals are constantly being achieved, their living conditions are steadily rising, they have a good job and income; 60% of people with ambiguous goals are almost all Living in the middle and lower classes of society, they can lead a mediocre life and have a job that can sustain their lives; the remaining 27% of the population, almost all of them live at the bottom of the society, and their lives are very unsatisfactory, often Complain about others and complain about society.
From this research, we can see the importance of goals for the development of a person's life.
Now that the new semester has begun, it is very necessary for parents to guide their children to establish learning goals for the new semester . After the goal is set, children will be more motivated to learn, not easy to get lost, not easy to slack off, and not easy to give up.
So, how to help children establish their own goals? A very important principle is that the goals set for children must be appropriate. There are several factors that we need to consider:
First of all, the goal must be difficult, but it can be achieved with a certain amount of effort.
According to the theory of the recent development zone put forward by the former Soviet educator Vygoski , if we can provide students with content with a certain degree of difficulty, we can effectively mobilize students' enthusiasm and realize their potential. The goal set is too low, and it’s too easy for the child to complete.There is no sufficient power to generate. If the goals set are too high, children will not reach them after a lot of hard work, and they will often experience frustration and even give up. So setting a suitable goal is very important.
Secondly, the goals set for children must be specific and clear.
For example, when school starts, the goal of a child is: I hope to study hard and achieve excellent results in the new semester. Another child’s goal is: I hope that at the end of this semester, my English, math, and Chinese scores can be scored above 90. Then, when the two are compared, the goal of the second child is clearer and more specific.
At the same time, when setting goals, we must also consider the actual situation of the child. It can be set up in the order from one goal to multiple goals, from easy to difficult. That is to say, at the beginning, you can gather a goal first. For example, you can start with subjects that are easier to improve and set a short-term goal. After the child achieves this goal, he also gains confidence and then completes other goals. Time will be more motivated and able to persist.
Again, while setting goals, we must work out some methods to achieve them.
For example, a student’s goal is to improve his math score by ten in one month. So, how to achieve this goal? Be sure to write down the specific methods. For example, you have to spend more than half an hour studying in math every day, listen to the teacher carefully during class, do a timely review after class, and sort out the wrong questions after finishing your homework. When it is difficult, ask others for advice and so on.
can also list the specific methods on a piece of paper, and then do as written every day and stick to it. If only a goal is set, but there is no specific method, then the students will be more busy in the process, will not know what to do, and will easily feel confused and anxious.
Finally, the goal set must be marked with the time to achieve it.
Human goals can be divided into short-term goals and long-term goals. Generally speaking, we can divide long-term goals into several short-term goals. Let's take mathematics scores as an example. If the child's current score is 60 points, at the end of the term, he wants to get 90 points. Then, let the child split the goal,Divide a big goal into three small goals, step by step according to the procedure of 60 to 70, 70 to 80, and 80 to 90.
This is consistent with the principle of the goal split method that we usually mention. The advantage of this is that the child can continuously achieve achievements in the process of achieving goals, gain confidence, and develop good habits. Finally, step by step to achieve their long-term goals.
If we can do the above points, we can help the child set a goal that suits him. After the goal is set, you must let the child resolutely implement it, otherwise the goal will be meaningless.
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