A year ago, he was proud of his spring breeze, his salary was fair, and he didn't need to do anything after adding his family. A year later, he made enemies on all sides and was treated as an outsider by his wife's parents-in-law. What exactly has Mr. Ai experienced in just one year has caused crises in the family.
Now the couple came to the mediation scene together. Mr. Ai said that their married wife had sued for divorce, but he still did not want to divorce for the children of the two. But Ms. Yang felt that the relationship between the two had broken down, and the husband not only beat herself but also his parents.
Ms. Yang was determined to divorce, but Mr. Ai could not accept this, because in his opinion the reason for his wife's divorce was ridiculous. Mr. Ai said that his wife's divorce was related to his resignation. He used to work in Hangzhou with a salary of more than 10,000 yuan. But my wife felt that it was not a problem to always be floating outside, so Ms. Yang took the lead and resigned and returned to Nanchang for development. Soon she opened a small shop, and after two years of running the shop, the business is now vibrant.
So in March 2017, Mr. Ai also decided to resign and go home for development, but no one thought that Mr. Ai's return would indeed sound the alarm of their family crisis. Mr. Ai thinks about his more than ten years of working experience in Hangzhou. When he comes to Nanchang, he will definitely have a bowl of rice to eat, but he can't plan to keep up with the changes. Mr. Ai, who returns to his hometown to work, doesn't like to work for more than 3,000 yuan a month and is unwilling to work Up. Mr. Ai is very calm. In his opinion, their family has a car and a house, his wife runs a shop, and has a fixed income. They all have a bite of food. However, he neglected that due to his financial absence during the job search, the burden of the entire family was all weighed on Ms. Yang alone. Ms. Yang is anxious about her husband's work every day, how to bear the expenses at home, and her mood and pressure can be imagined. But at the same time, Mr. Ai was just idle at home, and the problem came.
Ms. Yang said that her husband’s work problems are ignored. In life, the husband stays at home all day and does not do any housework. The simpler husband is not willing to dump it when the trash can is full. But Mr. Ai didn't think he had any problems. He said that he hadn't done housework in Hangzhou for so many years, and now his wife looked down on him because he didn't have a good job. Mr. Ai said that his performance has improved a lot compared to before, but his wife can't see her change at all, and she must scold herself if she is fine.
Mr. Ai felt that he was wronged. He worked so hard to find a job and his wife scolded him. The parents-in-law also helped his wife indiscriminately, even letting him get out. Mr. Ai was very angry that he had bought the house, so he scolded his mother-in-law to let her get out. The parents-in-law were so angry that they really moved out with their daughter.
Speaking of this, Mr. Ai’s mother-in-law couldn’t control her anger. She picked up the microphone and said that she didn’t want to chase her son-in-law. She watched the son-in-law quarrel with her daughter every day. She seemed to suggest that the son-in-law find a farther job to reduce the couple’s troubles. Strife. The father-in-law also said that he was moving out with good intentions. He originally wanted to move temporarily so that his daughter and son-in-law would be separated for a while, and the two might be able to calm down and communicate well, instead of fighting like the current three-day quarrel.
Father-in-law's ideals are very good, but the reality is the seemingly insignificant thing of moving, just like a gap in their family's dyke, which directly caused the entire family to collapse in the subsequent floods. Ms. Yang said that after the move, her husband would come to her shop to make trouble or even beat herself. It can be said that the police had been reported more than ten times. The most serious time was when his mother-in-law was fainted and his wife was beaten and injured. Mr. Ai's visits were like dozens of previous visits. It was like a violent wind passing through the border, causing all kinds of holes. Here Ms. Yang's family treated Mr. Ai. Naturally, her views and fears deepened, and Ms. Yang also became more and more determined about her divorce.
mediation here. The observer teacher picked up the microphone. In his opinion, Ms. Yang should see Mr. Ai’s sense of responsibility for the family. He can give up the high-paying job in Hangzhou and give up the good connections he manages to return home.After coming back, I’m not really not working, and I’ve been looking for a high-paying job that suits me. I can say that I have a position in my career plan. And Mr. Ai should also pay attention to the way of speaking and the help of his parents-in-law to their family. It is not that because the house is bought by himself, he can say nothing to let them get out. The words of the
mediation teacher changed Ms. Yang's attitude. She was willing to give her husband a six-month emotional rehabilitation period. Mr. Ai also expressed that he would respect the filial parents-in-law, and take the initiative to undertake housework and hand over his salary card to his wife for management. The mediation ended successfully, and Mr. Ai and Ms. Yang decided to continue to work together.
