Not long ago, a counselor shared with everyone a story about what happened to people around him. Just half a month ago, a mother came to ask her about her college daughter’s love issue. Coincidentally, another mother also met her daughter. The same problem. The question of
is, when a daughter plans to go to her boyfriend's house for the night, what should be the right response? When the first mother heard her daughter raise such a question, her first reaction was to scold her daughter directly, such as "shamelessness", "being so close before getting married, be careful that people look down on you" and so on. , I said to my daughter;
and the other mother’s response was that she was first very pleased with her daughter’s trust in herself and was willing to ask her about this matter. Second, she did not explicitly prevent it, but repeatedly emphasized it. Let the daughter think about whether the relationship between them has reached the point where they can stay overnight at the other's home, and then they must take protective measures. The two mothers
didn't know if they were doing this right, so they asked the counselor this question. You know, the two mothers have different reactions, which can make the children form different views of love.
What are the consequences of the overreaction of the first mother? It will double the quarrel between her and her daughter, and judging from the mother's reaction to this incident, she must be lacking in the education of her daughter's outlook on love.
has a relative in the family. The three comrades in the family are all daughters. Each daughter is almost married at the age of 13 or 14, and became a mother at the age of 17 or 18, but it is no accident. The life of the three sisters did not go well afterwards. Only after giving birth did they realize that they were still young and should not be trapped in such a situation.
Of course, the three sisters’ experiences are like this, "thanks" to their mothers. Their mothers are a very typical image of feudal women. In front of the three sisters, no matter how old they are, they are very taboo about sex education. On the topic, about the love of her daughters, she always insisted on the attitude of putting an end to it and intervened in the lives of the children.
caused the older daughter to be more curious when she was suppressed by her mother during the rebellious period, so she ate the forbidden fruit for the first time in junior high school and became pregnant.
And the other mother’s approach is to let her daughter make her own choices in a gentle and reasonable way. This is a performance of respecting her daughter. It can also be seen that this mother usually has a better education on her daughter’s view of love. Yes, so that the daughter can think carefully under the guidance of her mother.
In fact, for mothers, daughters are the easiest objects to resonate with. Therefore, mothers must tell their daughters these three words when their daughters are old and should be exposed to hormones to establish a correct outlook on love.
When the daughter is at the age of falling in love, the mother must tell her three words to her daughter
The first sentence: Paying does not necessarily mean pursuing rewards, but love without rewards would rather not
I have seen many silly girls around me who are facing love At that time, I always give stupidly and constantly without asking for anything in return, but if the object encounters something bad, then the feelings and material will be lost.
In a relationship, love and giving should go in both directions. If you blindly pursue what you give, but you haven’t got the same return, it will be very tiring, but if you have not been rewarded, then believe that the other person’s attitude has been Express it very clearly, then the girls don't want to wait silly.
The second sentence: you must protect yourself when you fall in love.
Many girls are immersed in love, they are very easy to be blind, easy to listen to other people's rhetoric and sweet words, leading to some dangerous sexual behaviors.
In fact, everyone is still not very advocating under-age premarital sex, because minors will be more blind and dangerous when they fall in love, and they will also be particularly mindless and desperate, which is likely to cause many adverse consequences. Therefore, mothers should emphasize this point with their children: protect yourself, and take good care of yourself is the most important thing. Don't ignore this point.
The third sentence: Don’t be too entangled after ending a relationship
"Qualified ex should be the same as dead", this topic has been posted on Weibo beforeHot search. Indeed, as a girl, if she has to stalk her ex after breaking up, this will not only hurt the girl more and more, but also make the other party even more annoying.
After breaking up, stay away from each other's life. Even if you can't let it go, you must adjust yourself. Don't entangle and torture yourself hysterically, don't let your dignity be lost by yourself, trampled on by yourself, and want to have a good love , The premise is to love yourself first.
Mothers and daughters should not shy away from talking about love and sex. Only when the mother can give good guidance and education, the children will not go wrong on the road of feelings.
