In the relationship between men and women, whether it is between husband and wife or between lovers, the highest state of love between two people is the word "knowing each other"! I understand you and you understand me. This kind of mutual understanding cannot be achieved by two people getting along for a long time. In real life, there are too many men and women who, after being together for a long time, can no longer understand each other! They don't understand each other, can't stand each other's shortcomings, and feel that they are full of disharmony when they are together. What is particularly worth mentioning is that there are many men and women who have been together for a long time, but they develop feelings of disgust and hatred, which is really embarrassing. So, for couples and lovers, how can two people be considered truly in love, and how can they be considered good partners that the gods envy?
First: Like each other
In the relationship between men and women, when it comes to the word "like", many people may think that two people are attracted to each other, even if they like each other! In fact, this is not the case. Real congeniality is when two people get along and make each other comfortable. To put it bluntly, not only can I understand what you mean, I can also empathize with it. The life you pursue is exactly what I want and what I hope for! In short, the two people have the same mind. Just like we often say, one family does not speak two languages. Two people can talk about anything together. When they talk about it like this, it's not that I'm accommodating you, nor that you're accommodating me, but that the two of them are happy from the bottom of their hearts! Perhaps, this is the highest state of love, true mutual understanding.
Second: Mutual tolerance
In the relationship between men and women, the so-called mutual understanding is the tolerance between two people after they understand each other. In real life, many men and women have been together for a long time and become familiar with each other. After knowing each other's shortcomings, they lose their tolerance. What they get in exchange is mutual dislike, mutual hostility, mutual accusations and complaints. Therefore, these people do not love each other from the bottom of their hearts, they only love themselves. Many people may think that this kind of love and understanding does not exist in real life. Or maybe it’s just a figment of our imaginations. Where are the perfect couples and perfect lovers?
In fact, for such doubts, it is often because the couples we commonly see, or lovers, do not have that level. However, this does not mean that it does not exist. Just like our pursuit of a perfect piece of art, it's just rare. For this kind of love at the highest level, perhaps for everyone, it is a kind of luxury, a kind of existence that can only be encountered but not sought.
