As the saying goes, "A woman doesn't stay together, staying around will make her sad."
In fact, men and women are the same. After adulthood, they stay at home every day and do nothing. The parents are very anxious when they see it, worried that they will rely on their parents; if they are unwilling to get married or cannot find a partner, they are also very anxious.
What is even more anxious is that the children found the wrong partner and talked in a daze for several years, but it turned out to be cold and delayed their youth.
As parents, instead of being anxious, it is better to teach their children some ways to recognize people, so that they have good concepts of marriage and family, and know how to seek benefits and avoid harm.
Recently, I have read three ancient sayings and I think it makes sense. It explains it to parents in need and single young people. I hope it can help everyone get married and meet true love.
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"Men are afraid of persimmons and pears, sows are most afraid of watermelon skin": Those who deserve the rest of their lives will have long-term plans to start a family and start a career.
chapter means, it is a homonym for it: a man is afraid of losing his child, a woman is afraid of divorce, and a sow is worried that he has "skinned".
In ancient times, if a family had no son, it would mean it would be difficult to prosper. When a man reaches middle age, he is even more worried about losing his son. After all, the family business needs someone to inherit it.
is an ordinary farmer. If you have a son, you can farm better without fear of not being able to support the family.
What women are most looking forward to is to find someone to hold hands until they are old. In ancient times, women did not have much autonomy over marriage, so they were worried about seeing a divorce book .
Zhu Deyong said it well: "A woman spends her whole life in order to find someone she loves, and at the same time, she should prevent other women from finding him." The truth is obvious whether the marriage is solid, involving the happiness of the second half of her life.
Now, in the era of free love, many people mistakenly think that when they meet someone they are moved, they will have good results, they don’t know. Our feelings often make people "misjudgment".
When love comes, you should quickly get to the topic : Get married, get married, start a career, and parenting.
From a long-term relationship, but don’t talk about marriage, then when two people interact, they belong to a loose management model. If you quarrel for a few words, your relationship will be lost.
Although there is no narrow thinking of favoring boys over girls, we should talk about the topic of children and reach a consensus.
Those who truly love you will consider how to spend the rest of their lives. It is not "walking on the watermelon skin, wherever you slide."
Love is action, not boastful talk or swearing.
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"A good man doesn't marry tiger thorn plum , a good woman doesn't marry rosy hammer": Two people who truly love each other are kind.
Tiger thorn plum is a plant that supports beautiful flowers, but there are dense thorns on the branches, which may hurt people at any time.
Streaming hammer is a cold weapon with a large head and a small handle. It is improperly used and has a heavy head and light feet. If someone who can afford to use this weapon will easily hurt people.
If a woman is wearing a thorn all day and repeatedly picking on a man’s words and deeds, income, family, etc., there is definitely no way to live this life.
If a man is cruel or ruthless, or is unrestrained, he will have a second-rate phenomenon. Whoever such a person lives with will harm whoever he or she lives with.
To find a partner, you must avoid various contradictions and see clearly what the root of the contradiction lies: is the lack of money and ability; the second is the lack of a harmonious atmosphere.
Zeng Guofan's daughter Zeng Jijing , under the arrangement of his parents, married Yuan Bingzhen, the son of official Yuan Fangying .
According to common sense, a tiger father has no dog son. Yuan Bingzhen should inherit his father's ambition and make a difference. It was not until he got married that the Zeng family discovered that he was ignorant and caused trouble everywhere.
Zeng Guofan helped Yuan Bingzhen find a job many times, and he kept it by his side to train, but it did not improve.
Zeng Jijing was trapped for the rest of her life because of this marriage.
At any time, harmony will be worth ten thousand gold.
Find a poor boy, Cinderella, it doesn’t matter. As long as two people have ideals and do something together, they will gradually improve.
The husband has little income, the wife is thrifty, and she can still spend more than ten or twenty yuan. This family will have savings. The husband makes money by doing physical work and is very tired. The wife understands it very well. The husband will reduce fatigue and work harder to find the outlet for life.
. Don’t be thorny when looking for a partner, otherwise it will easily break up, and it will hurt your heart, love and disappoint. If both of them rely on their parents or just live by themselves, they will definitely not be able to live.
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"It is better to try a person's coffin than to try a person's shoes": Two talented people do not seek to be consistent in their views, but can tolerate each other.
From ancient times to the present, people regard coffins as something auspicious, homophonic to "promotion and wealth". From this, it is inferred that if a person has the dream of getting promoted and becoming rich, he will become richer and richer.
"Wealth" and "Materials" indicate that they are determined to become a talent, and they are a tree for ten years and a hundred years of cultivation.
There are many explanations about shoes.
Some people think that women’s shoes cannot be viewed casually, but try them casually, because in ancient women, three-inch golden lotus as beautiful.
Some people also believe that only you know whether the shoes fit the feet. Even if a couple can’t use the same pair of shoes. The couple knows the size of the shoes, but if you buy shoes, you have to try it yourself.
We should give up the idea of the feudal era and just leave its positive meaning behind.
Both husband and wife study together and work hard to become talented, so they don’t worry about having no good future; they each look for suitable shoes and can fly together, which will form a relationship model that is compatible with each other and learns from each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
Many people are demanding that the other party and their own "three views" be consistent when looking for a partner. In fact, this is not completely correct. Everyone has habits, personality, temper, etc., and cannot be similar to others.
Good love plays a buffering role. They have a wide range of things to accommodate each other's "badness".
With the talent to make a fortune and a heart that tolerate each other, you will naturally be satisfied with your future love.
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marriage is a grand event in the family and a major event in life, and it is impossible to be careless.
Learn more about ancient teachings, learn from history, and use people as a mirror to avoid detours and not delay time finding a partner.
We all say that when looking for a partner, the character ranks first.
Character is actually included in specific examples such as talent, habits, personality, family education, and life planning. By connecting people and things and analyzing them, you will be clear.
Real couples, fancy words and false favors.
Far-looking real life, live a false joy.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
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