Suddenly I saw the willows on the street and regretted that I could find a title for the marquis.
In this world, there are always some people who can only share the same hardships, not the same joys.
Some people say that husband and wife can only share the same joys and not share the same sorrows, and the wife's fault; they can only share the same sorrows and not share the same sorrows, and the husband's fault.
Indeed, men who can only share the same hardships but not the same sorrows are often the only one who likes him when he is in a difficult life. He has no choice but to be with you.
However, after he became famous, the desire buried deep in his heart will be released, and the first thing is to let himself go and find someone who truly loves.
Just like Sima Xiangru at that time.
"He has no choice but to work for himself" and successfully captured the heart of the rich lady Zhuo Wenjun with a song "Phoenix Seeking a Phoenix".
Zhuo Wenjun is desperate for love, leaving everything behind and elopes with him, even if he is a trunk and sells wine, he has no regrets.
Later, with the support of Zhuo Wenjun's father, Sima Xiangru became successful. At this time, he began to have a second thought. He fell in love with the talented woman in Maoling and had the idea of divorced wife.
In fact, such situations also happen from time to time in real life. Someone once commented:
"Some men, when they use marriage to get rid of poverty and go to the next level, they will forget the financial support and network help given by the woman.
He only remembers the humble pleasing of his women in front of the woman. He is inferior and conceited, suppresses the deep desire in his heart. Once released, he will put aside the woman and look for the so-called true love."
01. Some people can only share the same hardships but not the same hardships
netizen Li Ni (pseudonym) finally realized this after ending her 13 years of relationship: some people can only share the same hardships, not the same hardships.
Li Ni is a family of only children and has a wealthy family. Her father works in a unit and her mother works in a financial institution. They have been deeply involved in the local area for many years and have a wide connection. Under their pampering, Li Ni is well protected.
Li Ni grew up under the nourishment of love, has a simple and kind personality, and is full of love for all beautiful things.
After graduating from university, Li Ni met Cheng Yang (pseudonym), her later husband, a thin, tall, gentle and kind man.
Cheng Yang is a talented student who came from a young age. He has some talent and experience. The worldly inexperienced Li Ni was soon attracted by him, and then the two got together.
Li Ni's parents are well versed in the world. They do not want Li Ni to take risks and come forward to persuade her. But at that time, Li Ni was immersed in love and only wanted to stay away from Cheng Yang for a long time.
In order to prove to her parents the steadfastness of love, Li Ni turned against her parents many times, and even moved out of her home, rented a house with Cheng Yang, and lived together.
Parents were furious and threatened to cut off their relationship.
However, Li Ni would rather hit the wall than look back. In fact, she did suffer a lot during her life with Cheng Yang.
Cheng Yang's income is average, he has to pay rent every month, give his parents living expenses, and save money to buy a house. The economy is relatively tight. However, Cheng Yang is short of biomass in the first half of , and has long developed the habit of frugality and is used to hard days.
But Li Ni is different. She was held in the palm of her parents since she was a child. has no penis to the spring water, which can be said to be a pampered person.
After joining the work, although Li Ni's income was not high, her parents also sent her red envelopes from time to time at home. She was used to spending money, and suddenly she lived a difficult life, which made her very uncomfortable.
Fortunately, Cheng Yang was very considerate to her, so she persisted all the way.
02. Marriage requires a good match
Later, the parents' attitude softened and they held a wedding for Li Ni. I originally thought I could live a happy life from now on, but I didn’t expect that after I got pregnant, my mother-in-law’s arrival added a lot of trouble to her life.
Only then did Li Ni understand that The real meaning of her parents told her that "marriage requires a good match".
Speaking of mother-in-law, Li Ni felt a headache.
Originally, everyone's growth environment is different and their values will be different, which is normal. However, my mother-in-law is stubborn and always wants to impose her inappropriate values.
Moreover, the mother-in-law who acts very humble in front of outsiders seems very arrogant when talking about Cheng Yang. She always feels that her son is extremely outstanding, and anyone who marrys him is a high-spirited person.
Li Ni was very dissatisfied. Cheng Yang was indeed excellent in some aspects, but he would not be able to make a big splash. After all, the wedding house, decoration, and home appliances were provided by his parents.
mmy sneered at it. My mother-in-law has a very contradictory idea. She values money very much, but she also looks down on rich people very much.
In short, Li Ni lived a very depressing life in her life with her mother-in-law. She was already weak and worried about affecting the relationship between husband and wife, so she was always tolerant.
Also, the mother-in-law pays more attention to family affection. Since she came, relatives have come to visit at home from time to time. Just stay at home for dinner, but sometimes she will stay overnight...
Li Ni is in a miserable way.
Later, the parents came forward to solve the problem. They paid for the nanny and asked Cheng Yang to send his mother-in-law back to his hometown, and asked Cheng Yang to give his mother-in-law more living expenses every month.
As for the exchanges between relatives, their parents asked Cheng Yang to minimize the amount of money they could take to home and arrange for food and accommodation outside... all the expenses they paid.
Under the coordination of their parents, the problem was solved on the surface, but in fact, Cheng Yang hurt his self-esteem and always held a grudge, believing that Li Ni's parents looked down on his family.
Of course, these things were only known by Li Ni when the marriage ended.
03. Teach my husband a lesson
It’s like this. After two or three years, the parents saw that the couple’s relationship was stable and the baby became more and more cute, so they came forward to coordinate again and recommended Cheng Yang to work in the old classmate’s department.
In Cheng Yang's growth experience, there is a way out only if there is continuous competition.
So he quickly got used to the new environment. With the support of his connections, he gradually stood out with his strong ability.
In a few years, Cheng Yang grew from an unknown town boy to the company's management, which was earth-shaking. Both his income and mentality have undergone great changes.
At this time, Li Ni's parents had retired, Cheng Yang's mentality gradually expanded, he was a little unscrupulous, and began to release his long-suppressed desire...
Although Li Ni was not very scheming, she had been with Cheng Yang for 13 years after all, and with the unique sixth sense of women, she realized something was wrong.
However, in the face of Li Ni's anger, Cheng Yang was too lazy to explain. He liked to believe it or not, and now he is full of confidence.
Li Ni A weak personality, but she absolutely cannot tolerate this bottom line problem. Cheng Yang is good at "cold war" and lets her make noise. He lives in the company if he really can't stand it.
04. Ended 13 years of relationship
Cheng Yang never admits that he has made mistakes and looks like he loves everything.
Seeing the mess of life, Li Ni finally felt heartbroken and was about to end her 13 years of relationship. After learning about it, Cheng Yang felt that it was impossible to get cheaper, so he decided to teach him a lesson.
Under the operation of Li Ni's parents, Cheng Yang was transferred from his previous position and his family property suffered a certain loss. When he found that he underestimated Li Ni's parents' energy and wanted to recover it, it was too late.
Li Ni, who has experienced pain, has become sober and firmly demanded to end her marriage: "I finally understand now that people like you can only share the suffering, not the same joy..."
Someone asked on Zhihu: Why do many couples only share the suffering, but not the same joy?
Someone answered below:
"Suffering is like a black cover, blocking the outside world. At this time, he only has you in his eyes, and only you are willing to accompany him.
But one day, this cover is taken away, and he will find that the outside world is more exciting. He begins to long for a new beginning, longs to get rid of the embarrassment of the past, and you are his past."
As the saying goes, "Only by not forgetting the original intention can you achieve the end."
I hope that couples in the world can all keep their original intentions, endure suffering, and keep sweetness, cherish marriage, and cherish fate.
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