What is the essence of falling in love with someone?
This includes several factors: emotional fluctuations, distance proximity, lifestyle habits and personality similarity, and even the attraction of material conditions.
Hearing feelings are certainly a minority, but there are very few chances of "two-way love at first sight" between people.
The relationship between the opposite sexes actually has some conditions.
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Subjective conditions (personal conditions)
First: External image
This is very important and can be understood as a "hard condition".
Everyone has a love for beauty, and no one doesn’t like people who are good-looking.
You will feel much better every day with a good-looking person.
external images include: appearance, height, temperament, and dress.
combinations form a complete person with external attractiveness.
is like a blind date:
When you go on a blind date with the other party, you can only rate the other party through your external image without knowing the other party.
One person looks okay, but he is very sloppy and has a bad temperament;
Another person looks okay, but his temperament is better. He looks at it carefully. Which one would you choose in comparison with
?
Most people will choose the latter.
Even if a person is not confident enough about his appearance, he can also give his external points by cultivating his temperament and improving his dressing image.
2: Personality Attractiveness
Personality is another factor that creates favorable feelings.
In people's subconscious, they are more likely to be attracted by positive, positive and beautiful things. The same is true for
's preference for personality.
optimistic, cheerful, positive, confident and humorous. These are the good sides of a person's personality.
If the other person happens to have these personalities, it will be more attractive to you.
Personality charm is also based on personality.
People with dark personality will subconsciously want to escape when others approach it.
After all, no one wants to face someone full of negative emotions every day.
Living with such people will also affect your good mood.
3: Material conditions
The higher the value of a person, the more people around him.
When you have no value, you are not valued or favored in any relationship or circle.
is like the "connections" that are often mentioned in social relationships. What is the essence of
connections?
is essentially based on mutual utilization and both parties have value to each other.
If you have no value and cannot provide any benefits to others, why should others become your connections?
is even more so in love.
The opposite sex gets along, and determines a romantic relationship from the feeling of good feelings. A very important measure is material conditions.
Education, job, income, family conditions, etc. The higher the matching degree, the higher the chance of two people being together.
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Objective conditions (meeting mode)
Fourth: Familiarity determines the favor of two people
From a psychological perspective, the high familiarity between the opposite sexes shows two problems.
Exposure effect:
appears before the other party, the deeper the familiarity and favorability of you in the other party's subconscious mind.
This is also a common way to deepen feelings in real life.
More contact, more contact, more meeting, and more relationships will naturally warm up.
On the contrary, if two people do not contact, meet, contact, and have no intersection, no matter how good the relationship is, it will not last for 3 months.
proximity:
proximity, mainly refers to physical proximity.
Why are long-distance couples easily "poached" by others?
The main reason is that others are closer to your long-distance partner.
is because of the closeness and the closeness of getting along, so there are more opportunities. This is the reason why
love lasts for 3 days.
5Fifth: Similarity determines how far two people can go
There is a question on Zhihu, probably saying this:
"Do you want to find someone with high similarity or complementarity together?"
Regarding this question, people have different answers at different ages.
When you are in love, you want to find someone with high complementarity.
Because in the other party, you can see the unknown side; you are full of curiosity about his life and want to find out.
And in marriage, you yearn to meet someone with a high degree of similarity.
Only similar people can have more tacit understanding and reduce conflicts in marriage.
Therefore, falling in love with complementary people and marrying similar people is the best option in life.
However, the chances of both are smaller.
summary: Several reasons why the opposite sex likes you
1, external image
2, personality charm
3, material conditions
4, high familiarity
5, high similarity
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