Poem says: "Mountains and rivers are not important, but the key is to meet your confidant."
On the road of life, if there is a confidant accompanying you, your heart will be warmer and your road will be smoother.
But, in the vast sea of people, who is the confidant? Many people never meet confidants in their lives; there are also many people who meet confidants quickly lose themselves and cannot date for a long time.
In Norway, people like sardines , but sardines are delicate, lack vitality, difficult to transport, and easy to suffocate.
There is a businessman mixing some cheap and energetic catfish in the middle of the sardines. Sardines are afraid of catfish and are stirred by catfish again, so they have to become energetic and have been healthy during transportation.
Two types of fish of different levels, mix together and achieve each other, for " catfish effect ", also provides us with the wisdom to get along with each other and know each other.
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raises each other, so socializing is more valuable.
In the social unspoken rules, there is a saying: the weak are raising arguments, and the strong are raising others.
Obviously, we don’t want to argue with anyone, we hope to get the other party’s smugness, and we can also raise the other party as much as we can.
will soon form a pattern of "step-by-step growth". Although the two people have always had problems of ambiguous levels, they have made progress.
Ming Dynasty calligraphers and painters Dong Qichang , is very famous, and many people ask him for calligraphy and painting works. At the same time, he was also the Minister of Rites, busy with work and didn’t have much time to deal with those who asked for works.
Just when Dong Qichang was worried, he made friends with scholar Zhao Zuo .
Zhao Zuo has been learning painting for a long time and admires Dong Qichang very much. The two hit it off and reached a consensus - Zhao Zuo painted according to Dong Qichang's suggestion, and Dong Qichang wrote the inscription on it.
To put it bluntly, it is Dong Qichang's paintings, and Zhao Zuolai completed the first draft. For example, "Mengtours in Autumn Mountain" is a masterpiece of two people.
Dong Qichang called Zhao Zuo "fearing friends": a person who respects them very much.
has two words, called "touching; finishing touch".
If you meet a low-level person, then you can use your own halo to polish it; if you meet an expert, the other party can help you polish it. Such actions play the finishing touch in life.
From the perspective of catfish effect, it is that sardines and catfish cooperate with each other to make sardines more expensive because of freshness and to make catfish valuable because of their usefulness.
As an example.
In the unit, you wrote a manuscript, but you were not very satisfied, so you asked someone who was good at it to help you modify it. You will achieve greater results because of this excellent manuscript.
Confidant silently supports you behind your back. When you go higher, you will take another step towards your confidant. It can be said that it is "the water rises and the ship is rising".
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complements each other and is socially staggered.
Many people believe that to become a confidant, you have to meet people who are equally matched. If you are a humble person, you may not even look at it.
Some writer said: "Birds with the same feathers can gather together." The above views are biased and are not completely correct.
Think about it, brothers and sisters with blood and similar appearance may make enemies and cannot get together; best friends will also plot against each other. How could similar birds gather together?
good relationships are complementary and not necessarily at the same level.
Yu Boya met Zhong Ziqi, and is called the "best confidant". But they are not people of the same level. Yu Boya is a minister, very rich, and Zhong Ziqi is a woodcutter, very poor. One is the dancer who plays the piano, and the other is the audience who applauds. What can make them become confidants is that in the piano sound, it achieves complementary complementarity: listening and playing, and the two are integrated together.
If Yu Boya and Zhong Ziqi were both playing the piano, both of them were very powerful. Maybe they will soon become competitors and have a very unpleasant trophy for a certain trophy. As the saying goes, colleagues are enemies.
Catfish and sardines are not fish of the same level, and live in different places. It only creates intersection for transportation. This is the manifestation of "complementary".
Similarly, if a couple gets along, they must also complement each other if they want to become confidants. A strong person goes out to make money, and a gentle person does housework at home and is the green leaf behind it.
Both husband and wife are red flowers , so they become a relationship of fighting for beauty and cannot fall in love well. Only by combining red flowers with green leaves can the harmony of the family be reflected.
The key to finding a confidant is to "treat each other sincerely" and be able to understand each other's inner world, rather than having the same level of life, economy, status, or even not having the same hobbies.
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cherish each other and have a long social relationship. No matter how good the relationship is, if you don’t cherish it, you will lose it.
catfish effect has continued for many years and still plays a role. This shows that a good relationship will definitely be considered for a long time. Although the two fish gathered and dispersed, their emotional and action experiences are remembered by people.
Zhuangzi once said: "It is better to forget each other than to support each other."
seems that in Zhuangzi's view, the relationship that cannot be maintained is thrown away. When people are separated from each other, they will still miss and care, and will summarize some methods of interpersonal relationships.
True confidants, if they are separated, they can still meet again because they are obsessed with them. Saying that I forget is just because I am busy and don’t think about it for a short time.
Good relationships are "one gain forever". Although they cannot be done day and night, they can have a long way to go.
Tang Dynasty Female poet Li Jilan When practicing in Taoist temples, he went out to play and relieve his inner loneliness. She met the literati Zhu Fang , and since then she often made an appointment to write poems and drink tea.
When Zhu Fang became an official, Li Jilan wrote a poem: The parting is speechless and the moon is silent, the bright moon has light and people have affection.
is inevitable, but if you keep the other person in your heart, you can stay with you for a lifetime. When the other party needs it, appear in time and provide help.
"There is a close friend in the sea, and the world is like a neighbor." This poem by Wang Bo illustrates the importance of spiritual communication and cherishing each other.
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not all fish are in the same sea. It is rare for catfish and sardines to meet each other and achieve each other.
Not everyone lives in the same city. Being able to meet is a rare fate. If you can know each other, accompany each other, and love each other, it is a fate that has been cultivated for thousands of years.
It is not difficult to meet a confidant. What is difficult is how to understand, handle and retain relationships.
Looking forward to you and me, treat each other with each other, and walk hand in hand.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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