One is that the closer we get together, the longer we are together, the more we cherish each other, and what about the other? This is the case with my students. After getting along for a long time, one of them may feel that there is no newness and even feel bored.
so Many times, when we manage a relationship, we cannot rely solely on giving, but we need to spend more thoughts and use some skills to guide men to take the initiative to treat you . So how to guide it?
Have you ever heard of the word "popular constitution" , which means that no matter where a person goes or who he is with, everyone will spoil him. Doesn't it sound quite enviable? Some people will definitely have questions. Is this so-called "pet-being constitution" born?
In fact, this is not the case. Whether a woman has a favored physique does not depend on how good-looking she looks and how strong she is. These conditions are non-essential. What is really important is that No matter what, you must have the confidence to be spoiled . What does it mean?
In other words, if you want to be spoiled by a man, first of all, you must believe in yourself. You are worthy of these, that is, the best and unique. It is the best and unique thing for men to treat you well, and treat yourself as a "little princess" . In fact, this is a psychological hint.
For example, everyone has a mirror at home. Do you have to look in the mirror and dress up when you wake up every day? When you look in the mirror every day, you say to yourself: I am the best, the most special, and the most worthwhile!
Although it seems like a simple sentence, if you insist on telling yourself every day, you will gradually find that you are becoming more and more confident.
At this time, your mentality will change, and you will not feel grateful when others are a little nicer to you, and you want to give back this good thing immediately, be better to the other party, or even without reservation.
Of course, psychological hints alone are definitely not enough. If you want to develop a favored physique, you still need to do the following two things.
1. Actively express your needs
As the saying goes, "Children who can cry have milk to drink" , the same is true in love. What you like, what you want, and what you hope the other party will do for you, don’t hide it, express your needs directly, and don’t let the other party guess, because in the guessing process, it is actually consuming the other party’s enthusiasm for you.
The natural difference in thinking between men and women will lead to different perceptions of the same thing. Maybe you think it will be cheap to take the initiative, but it will be boring to say it.
But boys will think, if you don’t say it means you don’t need it. He will be there when you need it. Then when you don’t need it, why do he still feels like he exists? If you have this time, you might as well play the game.
The way to want a man to love you more is to teach him and set a framework for him. You need to say these things first, and then convey your positive feelings in your heart when the other person finishes this.
For example, if you are hungry, don’t just say the words “Baby, I’m hungry” to the other party. You can say “Baby, I’m hungry. If you can eat the food you cook at this time, I think I’m the happiest person in the world.”
Think about it, after hearing this sentence, will a man be happy immediately and go to the kitchen to eat for you? Because he knows clearly what you want, knows that you will be happy after doing this, so he will be more motivated and willing to do it for you.
So there is nothing to be embarrassed about. When you actively express your needs, you will find that your life will become particularly beautiful. You will enjoy the feeling of being spoiled, reducing all kinds of twists and turns, and clear needs will make you "responsive in everything".
2. Accept others' efforts calmly and praise appropriately to give back to
What does it mean? In other words, after a man does something good to you, you need to give your positive feedback in time, which can be praise. Because men usually have a desire to protect themselves and like to be needed.
and praise can satisfy men's psychology, so that they can guide men to love you more and give more for you. When you think a man is doing well in this matter, don’t be stingy with your praise, affirm his efforts, and give him positive encouragement.
Let's continue to follow the example just now, When a man is carefully preparing delicious dishes for you in the kitchen, you can hug him from behind: "The man who knows how to cook is the most handsome, husband, you are so handsome, I love you so much." Men will definitely be very happy at this time and will be happy to cook for you, and they will not feel hard at all.
When he serves a plate of your favorite dishes, you must show an excited look, "Wow, it looks so delicious, I can't wait to taste it."
Then he took out his phone: "Husband is so great, I want to take a photo and send it to my sisters, so they all envy me, I also want to post it on WeChat Moments, husband, I am so happy, I love you so much, the meal you cook is the best meal in the world."
After you praise a man like this, he will definitely be particularly happy. He will enjoy your praise and praise, fall in love with cooking for you, and will also study more delicious food for you in different ways to please you.
Most men are competitive. If you praise them so much and promote their good deeds to the people around you, they will feel that they are valuable. Cooking at this time is a very happy thing.
In short, if wants men to spoil you, the necessary praise must be necessary . Whenever a man does something good to you and makes progress, you should promptly use your praise and encourage him to guide the man to love you more and form a positive cycle.
