Introduction: In the past, most of the older generation in our country believed that getting married and having children was a natural thing, especially for women. If women living in that era choose not to marry or have children or cannot have children after marriage, they will be despised by others and will live in various rumors. Why do we have this kind of social phenomenon that seems completely unfair now? Because our country was a country that advocated reproduction in history, people at that time believed that "there are three kinds of unfilial piety, and no descendants are the greatest."
Women who lived in the traditional society in the past not only had to have children, but also had more children. At that time, the traditional concept of fertility was to have more children and have more grandchildren, and have more blessings, so people were very pursuing the number of fertility. In the eyes of people in the past, a family that could live together for several lifetimes was happy and had both good fortune and longevity.
Based on the social environment at that time, people advocated "more children and more blessings" and pursued the concept of fertility of fertility. Because China was in a backward natural economic state at that time, and the production method of men's farming and women's weaving had a very large demand for labor. The more children there are, the more labor force there will naturally be. The more people there are in the family, the greater the power of the family will be and there will be no bullying.
Now, with the continuous progress of the times, people's concepts are also constantly updated. In the past, the traditional concept of fertility was no longer recognized by modern people and a very big change has taken place. The concept of fertility advocated by modern people is to have fewer children and have good children. Many young couples choose to have only one child. This can provide children with better living conditions. However, with the opening of the national birth policy in the past two years, the state encourages "second child" and "three child", and many young couples are also urged by the elderly at home to have another one. I think children don’t mean they are born.
Each family decides whether to have one more child, which should be decided based on the actual situation of the family. On the one hand, the cost of living is very high now, food, clothing, housing and transportation are expenses, and children's education is another greater expense. On the other hand, who will take care of the baby after giving birth is a problem that troubles many families. Modern young people have completely disagree with the older generation's concept of raising children, so it is not feasible for elders to help take care of children in many families.
So how do we divide the labor in raising children in modern young families? Since the main economic support of many families is to rely on men, and men earn more than women, many women are forced to withdraw from the workplace just to provide children with a more scientific and loving environment for growth. It would be worth it if a woman's efforts could be recognized by her husband, but if a woman's concession is exchanged for "hiding leisure" in the eyes of her elders and spending money randomly in the eyes of her husband, I don't know how to save it, I believe this will be a great blow to women.
Honey husband asked the mother "where did you go"? The mother just sent a picture to her husband, and her husband was silent and
A woman experienced the above-mentioned questioned situation. She was asked by her husband when she was taking care of her children: Where did the money be spent? Obviously, I earn so much every month, why do I end up leaving nothing? The woman was angry after hearing this, but was more disappointed. Obviously, most of the things I buy are from my children and the family, and I rarely spend money on myself. In the end, I don’t understand and understand it, but I take the blame for spending money randomly. She had no choice but to send the supplies for her children at home to her husband along with the price.
The husband was shocked after seeing it: How expensive is raising children now? Aren't these things very cheap before? Why is it so expensive now? It costs more than 400 yuan for the children to take a set of photos, which is quite cheap. If you go to a better photography store, the cost of taking a set of photos is at least about one or two thousand.
Children use more than 100 bottles per, and cotton swabs are dozens of yuan per box. The milk powder I drink every day costs more than 300 yuan per barrel, and it costs 4-5 barrels a month. Moreover, these things are not the best among similar products, but mothers choose relatively good ones. After all, it is used on children and eaten in their mouths. If you are too cheap, you are afraid that the quality will be bad and will cause harm to the child's body.
The husband realized that he had blamed his wife wrongly after seeing it. Judging from the expenses of these supplies, the wife hardly spent money on herself. I don’t know how expensive it is to raise a baby now.
Combined with this couple, how should we define the standards for raising children in modern society? Is it to save yourself frugality and do everything possible to provide children with better growth conditions? You still have to just live by and don’t think there is anything wrong with the conditions created for your children? The definition of this standard for raising children is indeed difficult to measure. After all, different parents hold different attitudes, so naturally they have different opinions on the standard for raising children.
Personal for me, in the current social environment, you need to be cautious when giving birth to a baby. It’s not that you can’t have children if you are not well-material conditions, but you need to decide the number of children you have based on your own situation. You must know clearly whether you can provide enough conditions for your child to cultivate him. Now everyone pays attention to the so-called "starting line". Good conditions can indeed allow children to grow and play better in all aspects. As parents in the new era, they should improve their sense of responsibility, raise their children, and even better.
