Whether in life or work, when we interact with and alone, we usually have this standard, that is, we must be reliable.
Make friends, you hope to make a reliable partner, be kind-hearted and honest; when you are in love, you hope to meet a reliable person, which is worth your lifelong entrustment; at work, you hope to meet a reliable boss and colleague, don’t lose your chain at the critical moment, and avoid detours.
Writer Chi Li said: "Reliable, simple to say, but complicated to fall into it; it sounds like a feeling, but principle is to do it."
It is enough to judge whether a person is reliable or not.
01 Ask for your work
Warring States Period , Wei State , Wei State , jun Wei Wenhou once made an appointment with a friend to hunt together.
It started raining heavily that day, and Wei Wenhou drank at home. At the agreed time, he put down his wine glass and immediately asked someone to prepare a horse to set off.
The confidant beside him asked, "It's raining so hard, where are you going?"
Wei Wenhou said, "Although I was very happy to drink, I made an appointment with someone to go hunting together today. How can I not abide by the agreement?"
The confidant advised him, why bother to hurry up and find time to apologize after the rain stops. But Wei Wenhou insisted on going to a friend's house and told the other party to cancel the hunting activity.
So, he went in the rain, and his friends were moved and admired after hearing this.
says that big things show abilities, small things show character.
A netizen shared a story:
Some time ago, my best friend was unemployed and was at home. I asked me to help find a job. It just so happened that a company with familiar customers was recruiting, so I told my best friend about the relevant benefits, and she also expressed her interest.
So I recommended her resume to the client. The client thought it was OK, so he asked the client to follow up.
A few days later, when I met the customer, I talked about this, but the customer said that she could not contact her, so she didn't answer the phone, and then turned off the phone directly. At that time, I felt very embarrassed and had to compensate the customer first.
After the customer left, I sent a WeChat message to ask about my best friend's situation. But she said, "I'm in class, let's talk about it later."
Her answer made me know that this friendship has faded.
I believe you have met such a person. If you make an appointment with a friend, you will not see anyone at the right time. You will call and find out that you have not gone out yet. You are satisfied to help others arrange it, but the other party turns his face and has his own plans but doesn't tell you. In the end, you are not a human being inside and outside. You have no feedback on your subordinates' affairs. After asking, you will know that the matter is done, but you just forgot to reply.
There are always some people who don’t reply to the message as they chat, and there are always some things that get into the sea as they talk.
A person's attitude towards people and things reflects his truest character. Those who have explanations for doing things are often better able to win the respect of others and gain the trust of others.
Reliable people have explanations for everything, every matter has a conclusion, and every thing has a response.
02 Don’t escape when encountering problems
A few days ago, I chatted with a friend and she had been staying at home for more than half a year.
She originally worked as an accountant in a company, but later she had to take care of her sick mother, so she had to quit her job and go home. With the help of her friends, she started a snack bar, but the business was in a downturn.
Later, my mother's condition improved. She felt that the store's business was not good and it was very hard, so she closed the store and planned to find a new job.
In the first few days, she was enthusiastically submitting her resume and making an interview, but either she refused because she did not obtain an accounting certificate, or she felt that the treatment was not good.
A friend around her suggested that she simply use this time to take the accounting certificate, but she said, "Certification is not a simple matter now. Big companies can't do it, small companies can do it, there is no need to make herself so tired."
That's it. She submitted her resume to several small companies, but she didn't get a reply. I advised her to take the exam again, but she always said that she couldn't do it. She failed to review for a long time, but in the end she wasted time. It would be better to try a few more companies, and maybe you can find it.
She always avoided the "exam" problem she thought, but she didn't know that this was actually a stepping stone on her career.
Later, she traveled back and forth to several small towns, but she has not found a job yet.
All your escapes are actually dragging you down.
orator Anthony Robin said: "Escape is by no means a wise approach, and if you want to escape some difficulties or responsibilities from escape, it is even more a big mistake. "
When encountering problems, you cannot hope that the worries will disappear naturally. You must dare to face your shortcomings and correct your own problems, so that you can make yourself better through hard work.
Still remember the that makes people love and hate in " is good "? Su Mingcheng ? He experienced the death of his mother and failed in marriage. After frustration in the workplace, I finally understood: some things must be faced and cannot be avoided.
The sign of a person's true maturity is not the growth of age, but the fact that when encountering things, you do not shirk responsibility or escape. You must believe that in the future, you will definitely thank yourself who has not chosen to escape now.
03 It is reassuring to do things
My friend is a kindergarten teacher. During the period when her class teacher took maternity leave, the principal sent two interns to let her train her, and then one of them was left on the job.
Xiao Li is lively and kind, Xiao Liu is gentle and shy, both of them have good qualifications, but the friend finally left Xiao Liu.
I asked her: "When you get along with children, why don't you leave the lively Xiao Li? "
Friends said that last time when preparing for Mid-Autumn Festival, teachers needed to set up the classroom together. They were busy until eight or nine o'clock in the evening, but Xiao Li slipped away from work and didn't help with anything.
There are also daily activities during class activities, children were playing, but Xiao Li was playing on his phone and didn't notice it. How can parents hand over the child to her with confidence?
Is it reliable for a person? It is often reflected in some small things.
Some people speak cleverly, and at first glance it looks very good Ability, doing things is careless, which makes people worry; some people seem inconspicuous, but doing things is neat, which makes people feel relieved.
Actor Ni Dahong During the filming of "Wolf Warrior ", a board flew out during the explosion scene due to a staff mistake, and slashed through the inside of his thigh. In order not to affect the smooth shooting of the film, Ni Dahong remained motionless until the director called for a card.
Director Zhang Yimou , who collaborated with Ni Dahong for four films, once said: "I'm relieved to give the character to him. Although the four words "
" make people feel at ease" are simple, they are a person's most amazing ability. When you get along with such a person, you don't need to worry about not being able to do what you ask him to do well, because he can always do his best to accomplish something, which is satisfying and convince people around you.
is with reliable people, and feel at ease in doing things.
once saw a sentence: "In the coordinate system of life, the higher the reliability coefficient, the larger the halo radius you carry, and the higher the probability of becoming a huge success. "
A reliable person may not be the most capable person, but he must be the one who has explanations for doing things;
A reliable person may not be the most capable person, but he must be the one who does not escape when encountering things;
A reliable person may not be the one who speaks the most, but he must be the one who can give it to him with confidence.
For the rest of his life, please be with reliable people.
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