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No one’s outstandingness is innate. Whether one can live outstandingly in this life depends on one’s self-control.
As a person, controlling others is not a real skill, controlling yourself is the ability.
The old saying goes: "Onsighters are clear, but those in the authorities are confused." It is easy to see others clearly, but it is really difficult to see yourself clearly. Any outstanding person is someone who can see himself clearly.
people can only grow better if they recognize themselves first.
All growth is inseparable from error correction and change. People who are unwilling to change are not only unable to grow, but are also easily trapped in the same place and no longer forward.
Controlling oneself is not only controlling one's own behavior, but more controlling one's own thoughts and cognition. Only when a person has a high enough ideological realm can he meet infinite beauty in his limited life.
If you observe carefully, you will find that those who always keep their ambitions at the end are often unable to realize their wishes. On the contrary, people who are silent will be more likely to find the light to move forward in the long river of life.
Sober people understand that no matter how hard their life is, they cannot complain everywhere. Complaints not only cannot solve any problem, but may also make your own experience a remedy for others' boring life.
Some things are better to bear silently than to make them public. People will encounter many unpleasant things in their lives, and some things are destined to become unsolvable knots.
Only when a person has outstanding ideas first can he have outstanding life.
You must pay attention to skills when dealing with people. Some words can be said, and some words cannot be said. Controlling the degree of goodness can effectively avoid the cruelty that may be encountered in life.
How to deal with interpersonal relationships has always been knowledge that requires continuous learning. Different communication methods must be used for different people in different environments.
A person's outstandingness starts with keeping his mouth in check. The following 3 topics should not be easily mentioned to others.
Don’t talk about family affairs easily
Things in the family, big or small, are private matters.
Don’t easily discuss your own family affairs when facing anyone at any time. Many words cannot be taken back once they are said.
The words said are like splashed water, and it is difficult to collect the water.
The old saying goes: "Don't make family scandals public." It is best to solve the problems at home by closing the door. No matter how much you tell outsiders, you can't solve the fundamental problem.
There are many things, saying or not saying it is no different. On the contrary, the more you say it, the easier it is to make the problem more complicated and eventually become a mess.
Don’t underestimate others’ jealousy. Those words that are unintentional will become the handle of others without knowing them.
Things in the family, whether they are happy or sad, cannot be easily told to outsiders.
The more you say, the more you will be wrong, especially when it comes to privacy. Only by keeping your own mouth can you prevent the whole thing from developing completely out of control.
Don’t talk about income
In the adult world, there is always an invisible line between people. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship is when you get along with others, you must always remind yourself that you are not too reliable.
The real long-term intimacy relationship is not to be as good as wearing a pair of pants at a certain period of time, but to get along well with each other in a moderate manner.
As a support for life, no one can escape the pressure and control brought by the economy.
Don’t talk about income and economy when you get along with others. The level of income is never a topic that can be discussed publicly. It is best not to talk about your income in front of others except your family.
If you earn higher than the other party, others will think you are showing off and become jealous. If you have a lower income than the other party, others will underestimate you, and in addition to contempt, they also look down on you.
A person, no matter how great his achievements have been in the past, don’t mention them again and again. The more you say about economic strength and life achievements, the more obstacles you will have, the more obstacles you will have.
Don’t underestimate anyone
As the saying goes, “Thirty years Hedong, thirty years Hexi .” Destiny will never be without waves, transformation is the necessity of life.
Life is a circle after all, when we go to the beginning point and reach the end point, we only realize that the so-called perfection is returning to the origin.
One day you will find that what you once looked down upon the most is within reach, but after many years, it became the dream of being out of reach.
In fact, it is not only objects that can make people regret, but also people.
You will never know that on a certain day in a certain year and month, the "little character" who once looked down upon suddenly made a big splash.
Einstein said: "When you look down on others, you are not far from success; when you look down on others, you are not far from failure." A person's ability to succeed is never personal ability, but more about mentality and cognition.
In life, everyone has times when they are in trouble. Don’t look down on anyone, and don’t act overconfidence.
Respecting everyone around you is truly outstanding.
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