My aunt came to my house today and said to my parents, "I'm divorced." My mother looked up at my aunt and said, "Little sister, you have worked hard in the past few years, and sister will always be your home."
I vaguely remember the scene when my aunt came to my house with tears and red eyes.
At that time, my aunt and his wife often quarreled with their children on their backs. I asked her, "Why don't you get divorced?" My aunt always sighed helplessly, "Wait until your brother grows up."
After my aunt graduated from high school, she did not find a job like others and went to work safely. Instead, like my mother, she rented a stall in the mall and started to modify her clothes.
My aunt goes home at 9 pm every day, and she takes the work home and continues to do it. Especially during the holidays, she works busier and later. Because of the lot of work, my aunt is looking for a helper.
At this time, a handsome guy found his aunt and wanted to do work. The young man is diligent and good at speaking. He often helps his aunt when delivering goods to the store. He is very good at receiving and treating goods, and his aunt likes them very much.
Because of the contact with each other every day, he gradually became friends who talked about everything. He became boyfriend and girlfriend.
They got married after more than a year of dating. My uncle-in-law's family was not very good, and he didn't have a big fuss, so he got married.
After marriage, in order to live a good life, my uncle-in-law also opened a store, and my aunt's store was redecorated and some projects were added. The two of them took care of each other and encouraged each other, working hard regardless of the dark day and night, trying every means to improve technology and quality.
After continuous efforts, the business has improved better and better, and a chain store has been opened.
As life gets better, their son Haohao is born, and the family is full of laughter and happiness. The little days are getting better and better.
As the business grows bigger and the economic conditions improve, my uncle-in-law has more and more social engagements, and it has become normal for him to go home late or not to go home.
Gradually, my aunt discovered the clues of the problem. My uncle-in-law had a woman outside, and from then on, her harmonious and happy life began to change.
My aunt carried the child on her back and had a fight with her uncle-in-law. With the forgiveness of the little brother and the betrayal of the little brother-in-law, my aunt was hurt and her heart.
My aunt also wanted to divorce, but she saw that her son was reluctant to let him go. After divorce, the child would have no complete home, and his life before he became a minor would not be perfect.
For the child, for him to have a beautiful childhood, for his heart will not be distorted. My aunt accepted everything.
In their later lives, they have never fought or made a fuss. They are together in harmony, playing with their children and reading with them. But my aunt only smiles when she is with her children. My aunt kept going like this.
Haohao finally completed his studies from kindergarten to university perfectly. Now it has developed well in society and has become the backbone of their unit's business. And three months ago, I entered the palace of marriage and had a wonderful marriage.
And my aunt was growing up. She just lived in peace, like a robot, sending her children to school every morning and picking her up after school. Work hard and earn money and save money. She lived her time in a straight line. There is no mercy, no desire, no sorrow or laughter.
My aunt is a very personal and self-reliant woman. She began to plan her future and her children when she never won her uncle's heart back.
She once said that when a child can stand alone and live independently, he no longer needs the support of his parents. She wants to live her life.
She said: People should be strong in life. There are not only couples in this society, but also relatives and friends. You can’t live for a man. You should consider your parents, your children, and your relatives and friends. Live in this world, don’t rely on others, but on yourself. Only yourself is the most reliable person in this world. People must live upright and have no guilt.
In my aunt's knowledge, her task has been completed. She is going to start his own life again.
She said: "I have to live a wonderful life in my later years, and I have to live for myself in my later years."
This fruitless marriage of my aunt made me feel that the key factor of whether a couple can get together for a long time is not necessarily the love between two people, but the impact of specific and real things on them.
For example: my aunt has good financial conditions, and she can live a wealthy life independently without her uncle. She has no worries and no longer runs around for life. She can only enjoy life. After leaving my uncle, the only thing she lacks is loneliness. She may use her method to relieve this loneliness. For example, dancing square dance, going shopping with old sisters, traveling, and being keen on a hobby.
Different living environments, different choices for the most important things for yourself, and the principles of couples who have been together for a long time are different from their understanding of life.
In fact, if a person wants to live happily and peacefully in his later years, he must not ignore too much. You must really only pursue everything you care about most in your heart. Acting according to your own ideas, you may lose more.
Therefore, I personally believe that whether a marriage is happy or calm and cooperative is an essential issue of marriage, and it requires the cognition of each of us.
