"If you take 6,000 yuan to support your brother's family, who will support our family?" This sentence is said by Mr. Lu, 36, who will support our family. When she said this, she looked full of anger. So what's going on? Why does this look? Let's take a look together.
Is it true that women have no sense of doing things? Today I tell you this, hoping that all women must be sensible before doing things, otherwise the only thing waiting for you is divorce.
My wife and I have been married for three years. During these three years, my wife often helped her parents' family. My brother-in-law got married before, and my wife gave me a bride price of 80,000 yuan. Maybe 80,000 yuan is not a lot for everyone, but for me that's all.
I have given a lot of bride money to marry my wife. Later, I finally saved 80,000 yuan, but unexpectedly my wife secretly gave the money to my brother-in-law for marriage. He also told me that my brother-in-law and I are a family, and everyone is a family, so there is no need to worry about it. If I hadn't married her, would my brother-in-law and I be a family? Even if the family is a family, there is no need to move like this. If you give all the money to others, how can you live your own family? I believe that there will be many such women in real life.
Just give all the money to my brother-in-law, but now I secretly give my brother-in-law 6,000 yuan a month. My monthly salary is 12,000 yuan. Although there are quite a lot, not much can be saved every month. All car loans and mortgages have been used up, and most of them still require living expenses. I thought I had saved a lot of money, but when I was in a hurry to use the money, I realized that I had no dime left. At this time, I checked the bank's transfer records.
6,000 yuan is transferred every month. And that payee is my brother-in-law. Then there is only one possibility for this matter, that is, my wife transfers 6,000 yuan to her brother-in-law every month. I can save less than 5,000 yuan a month, and he also transfers 6,000 yuan to my brother-in-law... How could my wife be so great? Is it because she only has her own younger brother? When I told my wife about this, my wife also said it reasonably that my sister would help her younger brother. I said I was rich and could not forget her brother...
My wife said that my brother-in-law's family was not easy to live, and she couldn't pay the car loan every month, so she helped. Then I told my wife that life in your younger brother's family is not easy, so he asked for it himself. He didn't work harder. When he bought a house, he bought a very expensive one. Now the monthly payment is more than 7,000 yuan.
Now I know that it is difficult. It is not the only one in this society who has difficulties, but I am also in trouble. Then my wife said that his brother is not an outsider, so if he can, he can help. My wife became more and more over-the-top, and then I angrily said to my wife, "You give him 6,000 yuan a month, which is a monthly payment." After giving him the money, how can we live? Then my wife said, aren’t you doing well now? Your life is good now because there are some deposits in your bank card, and now you have used up all the deposits.
. To be precise, it was not that you used up, but that you gave it to your brother-in-law. I used to give it 80,000 yuan, but now I'm giving it to him in installments.
What kind of sin did I do? How could I marry such a wife? My wife was unhappy when she heard me say this. Did I say something wrong? I shouldn't have tolerated her before. It’s all my fault for always being tolerant. If I had shown my power earlier, she would not have been like this and would not have lost so much money.
I hope all men can understand this truth. You have tolerated your wife until the end result is whether you will bear it. This is how a woman is. If you don’t care about her, she will think you are a sick cat if you don’t show off.
When facing things that you cannot accept, you must bring them up and make the woman obedient and understand clearly. Otherwise, you will definitely regret it in the end, and women will be indecent in doing things.Don’t think that my wife is the only one who looks like this. I think most women are like this. Women think this is right, so they will do this. In fact, many times it is just that women think that they are not like this at all.
is like my wife. She gives her brother-in-law 6,000 yuan a month, and she thinks it is right to do this. But is it really right in real life? I don't think a man can accept such a thing.
6,000 yuan is a lot. If I make a lot of money, I can give my brother-in-law 6,000 yuan. The problem is that I can save less than 5,000 yuan a month, and I have to pay it back. If you give your brother-in-law 6,000 yuan every month, you will not only not save money every month, but you will also be in debt. Which man can stand such a thing? So when a man encounters something he can't stand, he must say it as soon as possible and never tolerate it all the time. The more you tolerate it, the greater the trouble it will cause.
Women are not responsible for what they do. Like me, I have caused a big trouble now. After so many years, all my savings have been gone. What can I do now? Is it a divorce? I really have nothing to do if I divorce, but it will be very uncomfortable if I don’t divorce.
In the end, I was also helpless, and then I said to my wife helplessly, "If you don't have an example, I will stop helping my brother-in-law like that after this matter ends.
It is because I have been tolerant before that my wife becomes more and more overdoing, and even makes decisions without authorization in the end. I hope all men understand this principle and can't tolerate these things about their wives. The more you are tolerant, the more you suffer in the end. Then my wife told me that she had promised her brother to give him 6,000 yuan a month and that she should not go back on her word.
I was angry and said to my wife, "Do what you promised yourself, don't use the money at home to support your brother's family..." Then my wife said I was very stingy. The family clearly had money, so why can't I support her brother's family? The money is also kept in the bank, so it is better to take it out and do something more meaningful. How could my wife have such thoughts? Then I told my wife, if your brother is rich, would he spend it for me? Is it okay to think from the perspective of others?
Let your brother spend his money to me, that's what makes sense. My wife said aggrievedly that his brother had no money...I was really angry when faced with this.
Then I angrily said to my wife, "You take 6,000 yuan to support your brother's family, who will support our family?" My wife also angrily said to me, "I don't care, I will support my brother-in-law's family, and I promised them." How could my wife look like this? Have you ever seen such a woman? This kind of woman is too selfish. She only has her own brother in her heart and never thought about me at all. Then I was heartbroken and my wife said, if you do this again, then we will divorce.
Did you choose to support your younger brother's family or choose to be with me? If you choose to raise your younger brother's family, then we will get a divorce. After the divorce, you can support your younger brother's family by relying on your own efforts. You must understand that you are my wife, not your younger brother, but my wife, and I have no obligation to support your younger brother's family. If you don't choose, I'll help you choose.
said my wife cried and said that she promised her brother to give her 6,000 yuan a month... Then I said that it was your business that you promised, do you have money yourself? Have you made a penny over the years? If you have money and I don’t say it, the problem is that you use my money to support your brother’s family to do this correctly? Reflect on it carefully. If you do this again, I will definitely divorce you.
You must never divorce you if you want to help your brother or help combos if you don’t discuss it with me. You must discuss with me before doing things in the future. You women are always inappropriate in doing things.
I hope that after this education, my wife can change it. I hope she can understand this truth. At the same time, I also hope that all women can do things with a proper sense. At the same time, I also hope that all men can control their wives. Otherwise, in the end, an irreversible situation will be created, and the couple will have to choose to divorce at that time.
is indeed the case. You must take care of women and men. This is how a woman is. If you don’t care about her, she will be self-righteous and then make decisions without authorization. In the end, you will do something that you cannot accept. How to say
? This ending also has some responsibility for the man. If the man takes care of her, it may not be like this. But that greater responsibility lies in women. I hope all men can control their women, and at the same time I hope all women can control themselves, not be self-righteous, and not make decisions without authorization.
If you have to help your parents' family and support your younger brother, at least you have to tell your husband about this. When your husband agrees, you will choose to help. If you make decisions without telling your husband and think that this is right, then in the end you will definitely destroy your family with your own hands.
Don’t think that your husband loves you very much, it doesn’t matter. No man is willing to do this. You may have helped your brother and your parents' family, but you are destroying your own family and your own happiness with your own hands.
I hope all women can understand this principle. You must be content with your work. It is best to discuss with your husband and wait until your husband agrees before doing it.
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