text丨Tao Xiaojing
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We have always been pursuing pure love, but we have forgotten that desire will make love less pure.
Under the trend of desire, many people will not reject the love of others, but because they have not fallen in love with it, they can only treat it as a spare tire in the end.
The spare tire in love is the same as the spare tire of a car. It is used when it is useful, and it is ignored when it is not used.
Although many people do not want to become a spare tire in other people's relationships, the reality is that many times you think you can become a regular, but you are just a spare tire.
It is sad to be a spare tire in other people's relationships, because it means you are likely to not have the chance to become a regular person. But why are there so many people willing to be spare tires?
Regarding this issue, I interviewed many people, some people told me it was because of love, and some people told me it was because they didn’t know they were spare tires.
I don’t even know that I am a spare tire. How sad this is! But in fact, there are not a few such people.
Because I didn't know that I was a spare tire, I foolishly gave everything for love. In the end, not only did I get nothing, but I also ended up losing both money and money.
Have you experienced this, or are experiencing such a tragedy?
If there is, then you have to open your eyes and see clearly. You should know that if a person just treats you as a spare tire, these symptoms will be shown.
only actively contacts you when you need it
When facing the contact of the person you like, you may think that he is thinking of you, but if he just treats you as a spare tire, his contact is not that simple.
If a person just treats you as a spare tire, he will not contact you frequently, and will only take the initiative to contact you when he needs you.
Although he said a lot of good things to you at the beginning, his ultimate goal is to let you help him do something.
If you help him, he will be grateful to you, but he will not let you become a regular. When there is no need, he will ignore you again.
If a person has such a behavior, it is obvious that he just treats you as a spare tire. How can you be willing to be exploited and hurt by him?
If you don’t want to be hurt, then see his true face as soon as possible and don’t love him stupidly.
vent all negative emotions to you
Tell you all your heart alone, and ask for comfort from you, what would you think?
You may think you are important to him, but in fact, he just treats you as a spare tire.
What he tells you is his negative psychology, and what he shows in front of you is negative emotions. Every time you listen to his words, you only have worries but not happiness.
How can a person who refuses to give you happiness really love you? Even if he gives you some hope, it cannot change the fact that you are just a spare tire.
People who love you directly will not vent negative emotions to you. Only those who treat you as a backup tire will do this. Don’t be stupid and don’t understand.
No matter how much you love him, you must clearly know that you are just a spare tire to him, and don’t overestimate your position in his mind.
always lets you spend money for him
Once the relationship is related to money, it is not as pure as imagined. Although feelings cannot be separated from the protection of money, if two people are unbalanced in terms of money, then a relationship is not a real relationship.
If a person just treats you as a spare tire, then you are likely to be his ATM. As long as he lacks money, he will try every means to ask for money from you.
Because you love him in your heart, you are happy to give for him and will not care too much. But have you ever thought about what your efforts can bring to you?
Whether you are willing or forced to pay, you must know that people who always ask you to spend money on him but refuse to pay for you just treat you as a spare tire.
A person who just treats you as a spare tire is not worth your efforts for him. Even if he gives you a lot of hope, you have to think more about yourself.
I hope you can understand that not wasting time and money on the wrong people is the wisest choice and the best protection for yourself.
Xiaojing's emotional message:
In fact, no matter whether you are willing to be a spare tire or become a backup tire for someone without knowing it, you should not be able to continue like this by yourself.
The person who treats you as a spare tire doesn’t love you at all, so why do you continue to waste time on him? Even if you have the chance to become a regular person, you may not be happy.
It is sad to be someone else's spare tire. This will not only hurt you, but also make you miss the fate that truly belongs to you.
If you don’t want to continue to make mistakes like this, then I hope you can see clearly that if a person just treats you as a spare tire, these behaviors will be shown.
Stay away from someone who just treats you as a spare tire, and you have the chance to truly get your happiness.
