About love, writer Sukhomlinsky once said this in his book " Thoughts on Love ":
This sentence shows the importance of trust in love. If couples have mutual trust, they can find a sense of belonging in each other, and their love relationship can be more stable.
Trust is a precious emotion, but it is not easy for a couple to establish trust in each other. It requires a long accumulation of actions that are loyal to each other and the test of time. If one of them always makes suspicious actions, this trust cannot be established.
Especially in a marriage relationship, it may take more than ten years to establish trust between husband and wife, and their collapse of trust in each other may only be in a moment.
Zhou Lun (pseudonym) and his wife Zhang Ru (pseudonym) have been married for many years. They have two lovely daughters together and live a very happy life. Zhou Lun is a tower crane installation work. Two years ago, in order to make more money and enable his wife and daughter to live a better life, he chose to work and make money in a foreign land. Working alone is inevitable that you will be homesick. At first, when Zhou Lun called home, Zhang Ru would be very concerned about him, which made Zhou Lun feel warm in his heart. But after a while, when Zhou Lun called home again, Zhang Ru's attitude towards him seemed a little impatient. The change in his wife's attitude made Zhou Lun very uneasy. Zhou Lun is an introvert and unspeakable person. Before he went to work in a foreign land, he once asked a friend to help him take care of his wife. From that friend, Zhou Lun heard that Zhang Ru had many stories and she might have done something to betray her marriage. Hearing this, Zhou Lun was in great pain. He immediately packed his bags and rushed home. Zhou Lun originally thought that his wife would be very happy when she saw him, but after Zhang Ru saw Zhou Lun, the expression on her face was cold. After communicating with Zhang Ru, Zhou Lu learned that Zhang Ru was working in a foot bath shop at this time. Zhou Lun is a very conservative person. In his opinion, the job of a foot bath shop does not fall into the category of serious work, so he said to his wife, "Don't do it, I can earn 15,000 yuan a month, it's enough to raise you and your daughter." What Zhou Lu did not expect was that Zhang Ru believed that the monthly salary of 15,000 yuan was not much, and her monthly income was more than 10,000 yuan, and she was unwilling to give up her job for her husband. Zhou Lun spent 3 months with Zhang Ru at home. Whenever he seeks warmth from his wife, he will be rejected and rejected by his wife. This made him feel suspicious in his pain. Did Zhang Ru really betray the marriage? In order to find out the truth, Zhou Lun first installed a camera at home, and then he found a colleague of Zhang Ru from Zhang Ru's address book. He called and asked the other party to help him watch his wife and report to him in time if there was anything, and he was willing to give the other party 5,000 yuan in compensation. What Zhou Lu did not expect was that that night, Zhang Ru's colleague told Zhang Ru about Zhou Lu's instructions. When Zhang Ru returned home, she started arguing with Zhou Lu. During the quarrel between the two, the surveillance monitor installed by Zhou Lu also fell from the ceiling because the screws were not solid. Seeing her husband distrust her so much, Zhang Ru slammed the door and came out in anger. Zhou Lu secretly followed Zhang Ru, but saw Zhang Ru get into a stranger's car. In the following days, Zhang Ru was like evaporating from the world. She neither went home nor went to work, and she was even unwilling to answer the phone call from Zhou Lun. Zhou Lun, who was anxious, found the mediator in desperation. He hoped that his wife could change her mind as soon as possible. After searching and communicating for many years, the mediator finally found Zhang Ru. Facing the mediator, Zhang Ru bluntly expressed her dissatisfaction with Zhou Lun. She said that Zhou Lu did not trust her enough. When Zhou Lun was working in another place, she called her dozens of calls a day. On the surface, she cared about her, but in fact it was an act of surveillance. After Zhou Lun returned home, she even installed surveillance at home, which made her unable to stand it. She had already done her behavior of leaving Zhou Lun. But Zhou Lun said that his suspicion of Zhang Ru was not groundless. He had heard a lot of stories about his wife from his friends. Zhou Lun recalled that when he was working outside, he suddenly received a photo from his wife's account. The protagonist of the photo was his untidy wife. Judging from the background of the photo, his wife's place at that time should be a hotel. In response to this, Zhang Ru explained that the person who took the photo was one of her sisters. Her sisters like to joke, so she sent the photo to Zhou Lun. But Zhou Lun could not fully believe his wife. In addition, her wife's recent attitude towards him has become cold and her various behaviors have made her more suspicious of her wife. Zhang Ru said that Zhou Lun's suspicion was completely unnecessary. The foot bath shop where she works is a very formal store, and she can earn a considerable income there, and she has no reason to resign. Zhang Ru bluntly said that if Zhou Lun wants to continue this marriage, he must do two things. The first is to trust her completely and not doubt her casually; the second is to do so, when she returns home from work for a day, don’t always get tired of her and seek care from her. In order to get Zhang Ru back home, Zhou Lun agreed to these two requirements, and he also promised that he would trust his wife and care for her in the future. At this point, the marriage story between Zhang Ru and Zhou Lun was declared to be over. If husband and wife can be in love and trust each other, as time accumulates, they will develop trust in each other and find a sense of belonging in each other. In the story of Zhang Ru and Zhou Lun, Zhou Lun has been working in a foreign country for a long time, so he naturally can't rest assured his wife who is alone at home. The "story" of his wife heard from outsiders also made him unable to calm down. If Zhou Lun could trust Zhang Ru more, he would resolve his doubts by communicating with his wife in person, rather than taking the wrong behavior of installing surveillance at home. The stability of a marriage relationship cannot be separated from the loyalty of the couple to each other, and the trust of the couple is the basic element in which the marriage relationship can be maintained. Only when the couple can manage the marriage relationship carefully can they create a happy marriage life. (Image from the Internet, delete if infringement) Emotional Analysis:
When a couple decides to hold hands, they become a community of interests in a sense. They have the responsibility of mutual care and love, and the obligation to be loyal to each other. They should jointly manage their marriage life happily and happily.
