As the saying goes, "Three years of pain, seven years of itch, ten years of appointment." So after enduring the pain, seven years of itch, will it really be a ten-year appointment, and then a ten-year appointment? The couple has been married for eight years, but now they are going to have a divorce. The couple who were originally in love now blame each other and blamed each other for the reasons for the breakdown of the marriage. Who is the "culprit"?
Xiao Zhang and his wife Xiao Xu have been married for eight years, but they have not had children so far. Xiao Zhang blamed Xiao Xu for all the mistakes. He said that Xiao Xu did not pay attention to personal hygiene and never took a bath at night for more than two minutes. He often smelled smelly on his body. He could not bear to live in the same room with her, which resulted in the two of them not being able to have children so far. Is Xiao Xu really as sloppy as Xiao Zhang said?
Xiao Xu said that the couple had become speechless three or four years ago, and Xiao Zhang often moved to her, which led to the separation of the two. Regarding hygiene issues, Xiao Xu also admitted that he did not pay so much attention. Xiao Xu said that his menstrual period was very normal before marriage, but after marrying Xiao Zhang, his menstrual period became disordered, worried that it would affect his childbirth.
She also went to see a doctor for this reason. The doctor said that she was just a physiological problem caused by obesity, not a big problem, and would not affect childbirth. On the contrary, Xiao Zhang may have fertility problems, so he used hygiene issues as an example.
However, Xiao Zhang denied that he had physical problems and insisted that Xiao Xu had gynecological diseases because he did not pay attention to personal hygiene, which affected childbirth. Xiao Zhang also accused Xiao Xu of being very lazy, never cooking, washing clothes, and never cleaning the hygiene at home. He couldn't stand his wife's sloppyness, so he had to clean up a room by himself.
Xiao Xu was very angry about this. She said that the main reason why the two of them got their marriage to the end was Xiao Zhang's bad temper. Xiao Zhang often said something ugly to her in front of her friends, which made her feel embarrassed.
And, every day when Xiao Zhang comes back from get off work, he goes back to his room to play with the computer. He never talks to himself too much. The couple is like strangers. Sometimes he even beat her, breaking her heart. Gradually, her relationship with Xiao Zhang became weaker and weaker until she had nothing to say.
Faced with Xiao Xu's accusations, Xiao Zhang directly exposed his wife's secret. Xiao Zhang said that someone told him some time ago that there were intimate photos of his wife and others, and it was posted to his father-in-law through the Internet. The couple had a big quarrel, and Xiao Xu immediately filed for divorce. Xiao Zhang said that Xiao Xu never said he wanted to divorce when he quarreled before. He asked why he wanted to divorce. Xiao Xu also kept silent, so Xiao Zhang thought that Xiao Xu wanted to divorce only after having an affair. Xiao Zhang felt that he was very wronged when he divorced like this.
Xiao Xu also admitted that he did meet a man on WeChat, but the two were just ordinary friends. He denied the existence of the photos when he met with other men.
Xiao Zhang's mother-in-law revealed that Xiao Zhang had run away before marriage. The mother-in-law said that since Xiao Zhang came to their house, she has always regarded him as her biological son. However, one month before Xiao Zhang and Xiao Xu got married, Xiao Zhang suddenly left with another woman, and this time he left for a month.
When Xiao Zhang came back, they found that the gold necklace they bought for him to get married also disappeared from his neck. After asking, I found out that the gold necklace had been sold by him, which made my mother-in-law very disappointed.
Xiao Zhang defended that he later thought about his mother-in-law's kindness to him, so he chose to come back. The reason why he chose to run away before marriage was because his wife had a boyfriend before marrying her, and he felt unbalanced. Moreover, he felt that because Xiao Xu was unhygienic, he had gynecological diseases, which made him very repulsive to the lives of his husband and wife, which made him difficult to accept. In a fit of anger, he chose to run away.
Xiao Zhang feels that these are old events and should not mention them again. At present, the main reason why my wife wants to divorce is because she is empathetic and has no love. He took out his wife’s chat history with other men and proved his statement.He felt that although he had made mistakes before, he was calm after marriage and had nothing to do to his wife, but he was suddenly abandoned.
Xiao Xu believes that although he cannot produce substantial evidence, Xiao Zhang is not as obedient as he said. She felt that her feelings for Xiao Zhang no longer exist, not to mention that she was disappointed that Xiao Zhang actually got into trouble with her parents some time ago, which made her unable to bear it.
Xiao Zhang said that there was a reason for the action. It turned out that they had mediated seven or eight times because of Xiao Xu's mistakes. For the sake of family harmony, Xiao Zhang chose to forgive his wife. However, not only did his wife not cherish his tolerance, he insisted on divorce. He attacked his wife in anger. Seeing this, the mother-in-law and father-in-law came to beat him together. He subconsciously fought back, not deliberately hitting others. Although it was so troubled, the mother-in-law still thought that Xiao Zhang was a good person. Xiao Xu was furious after his mother's statement.
No matter what Xiao Zhang said, Xiao Xu strengthened his determination to divorce. Xiao Zhang knew that Xiao Xu was determined to get a divorce, so he could only agree to a divorce. However, there was ambiguity between the two parties in the division of property, so Xiao Zhang decided to sue the court to resolve the divorce dispute.
In this marriage, both parties are actually at fault. Marriage life is not like love, sweet words are full of freshness.
Xiao Xu felt a little freshness after getting along with others in her boring married life, so she completely denied her husband's goodness and even gave up her eight-year marriage. This is blind.
Xiao Zhang’s mistake before marriage also left a hurdle in Xiao Xu’s heart and became the fuse for future marriage conflicts. Xiao Zhang should have set his mind at that time. After all, marrying him is his wife. The past is the past. It is true to cherish the present days. Moreover, when a couple quarrels, they must not take action no matter what!
Xiao Xu's parents also did not properly handle the problems in their daughter's marriage. My daughter is a family. If she makes a mistake, her parents should not indulge her, but should correct her in a timely manner to avoid getting deeper and deeper, which will eventually lead to the breakdown of the marriage.
Falling together is easy and difficult to get along with each other. Love is passionate, marriage is the food, food, food, food, and keeping the plainness is the truth.
