I, a Chongqing girl married far away from Germany and went abroad a hundred times a year. I am only separated from Austrian
Name: Liu Xiaomei
Compiled: Mr. Xiao Han
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My name is Liu Xiaomei, from Chongqing, 34 years old this year, currently lives in the Ramsau area of Hitsgaden, Germany. It borders Austria. Where we live is only separated from Austria.
16 years ago, I was admitted to a key domestic university with excellent results, but I still chose to study in Germany. After several years of hard work, I obtained a master's degree in economics. I originally planned to return to work in China, but my boyfriend was not familiar with China and was afraid that I could not find a suitable job. In the end, for the sake of love, I chose to stay in Germany.
My husband, Hoffen and I fell in love at first sight. We identified each other since the first meeting. He is a Ph.D. in economics and my substitute teacher. During my study in Germany, Hoffen provided me with a lot of convenience and taught me how to live in Germany. From teachers and students to lovers, our relationship has been developing very smoothly. Hoffen is not a romantic person, and he is even a bit rigid. It is said that he has been wearing the suit for ten years. As for how long it has been worn, Hoffen himself seems to be unable to remember it. By the time I was in graduate school, Hoffen was no longer my teacher, but we were already living together at this time.
After obtaining a master's degree, we got married, but at this time we were facing differences whether to live in China or Germany. However, I still chose to compromise. I was a bit serious in China and I was unwilling to travel in this wave, so Hoffen introduced me to a research institute where I became an economics researcher and a part-time editor of the company magazine. Now, we return to pastoral life and live careless little days, which is very happy.
In 1988, I was born in a business family in Liangping County, Chongqing. My father started doing business in Guangzhou in the 1990s. Later, the business grew bigger and opened branches in more than a dozen cities across the country. However, my mother and I have too little company. My mother often nags that for the sake of the family, my father shrinks the scale of the company and slowly opens the company to the door. Although he earns more money than before, it is also a very happy thing to have more time to spend with his family.
I am an only child. I was very arrogant when I was a child. I had a competing heart. I like to wear beautiful skirts and I also like to compare with my neighbor's children in my studies. But I am excellent and have never been at a disadvantage.
As I grew up, I began to enter boarding school. This is because my father was busy with business and my mother worked hard to accompany me. I didn’t like living with my grandparents, so I had to live in boarding school. Our school’s management is very strict. We only have a holiday once a week. On two days on weekends, my grandparents take care of me.
If you want to see your parents, it will basically take you to see them once every two months. Later, my mother thought I was a girl and would get married sooner or later. It would be meaningless to make so much money. It would be better to narrow down your business and spend more time with your family.
When I was in high school, my mother accompanied me to study throughout the whole time, making my favorite food every day, and taking me to the zoo, park, and shopping malls on weekends, so that I can keep a relaxed mindset and study in a combination of work and rest. In fact, in this world, the one who understands me the most is her mother, and she can always think of what I need the most.
When I was in high school, I ranked among the top dozens of people in the school. Later, I got admitted to a 985 university as I wish, but finally chose to study abroad.
I have no good impression of the United States, and I have no interest in both news and books, because my father's car is made in Germany, so I went to Germany.
At that time, I was also my father's request. I hope that in the future I could inherit my family business and let him retire early, so I studied economics. However, I was not interested in being a boss at all. I studied hard for six years and completed my master's degree. But at that time, I was very impatient when I heard my father ask me to return to work on the phone.
It just so happens that Hoffen and I are in love, and my parents don’t object. As long as I am happy, my parents are still very tolerant of me.
In our family, it is relatively democratic, and what I envy is the love of my parents. They will never quarrel in their lives and discuss big and small things. I also told Hoffen about their parents' love. Hoffen's answer to me was: "Do you think the two of you can quarrel?"
In fact, Hoffen said this sentence very reasonably, because he is a gentle man with a small voice and seems to respect everyone. Of course, Hoffen is not a romantic person. There is no difference between having a holiday and ordinary day. I don't give flowers or gifts. I am used to his "negativeness"!
Since I had a child, Hoffen and I decided to work hard for a few years before returning to his hometown and living a pastoral life.
Hoffen’s hometown is very beautiful, with mountains and water and good air. In 2020, due to the epidemic, we returned to our hometown and have never been willing to live in big cities since then.
The environment we live in is only one road away from Austria. The cross signs in the middle of the road are Austria to the south and Germany to the north. Usually, we go to Austria when buying vegetables and walking dogs. When talking to my mother, we would joke: "I have to go abroad a hundred times a year." In fact, the fact is far more than that, because sometimes we have to go to Austria opposite two or three times a day.
For ten years of marriage, our marriage has maintained a very healthy state. We pursue simplicity and nature for the quality of life. In fact, we are all people who have no material desires. We usually grow vegetables and raise sheep by ourselves, which is very comfortable. But in the future, parents will have a problem in their retirement. Maybe one day, they have to return to Chongqing to take care of their parents.
Life is like this. The smooth feeling in front of you does not mean that it will always be like this in the future. I hope there will be a good solution in the future so that we will not run away from both sides.
