I wonder if you have discovered such a phenomenon. Many husbands always like to stay in the car alone and smoke a cigarette quietly after returning home from get off work. Zhang Ailing once said: "Men after middle age often feel lonely because when they open their eyes, they are surrounded by people who have to rely on him, but there is no one he can rely on." , this sentence may be a bit extreme, but it well interprets the pressure of male compatriots. Through the above phenomenon, you may have discovered how boys relieve stress!
Boys like to hide in their own "cave" and decompress
See this sentence online, "After a busy day, the most comfortable thing about is to park the car at home and stay inside. Play a song without panic, lit a cigarette slowly, and finally officially start to daze. Both ends of the car are fame and fortune, and the other end are firewood, rice, oil and salt. Occasionally hiding in the middle is good."
When a man is under pressure, he will hide in the "cave" away from the hustle and bustle, concentrating on the problem itself, so that he has no time to take care of anything other than that. At this time, he seemed to be keeping people from thousands of miles away, absent-minded, slow to react, and cold to his lover. At home, only 5% of his attention is focused on the conversation when he speaks, while the remaining 95% of his attention remains at work. He often absent-mindedly and even answered questions that were not inconsistent. The more pressure he is under, the more obvious this manifestation is. He cannot be as caring as he usually does for his lover. Once he found a solution to the problem, he would immediately come back to his senses, drill out of his "cave", and be refreshed. Suddenly, he changed back to his original appearance and returned to his former gentleness.
The "caves" here vary from person to person. The caves of each boy are different, but in general, when a boy encounters problems, he likes to solve problems quietly. So what are the common ways to decompress?
Common ways to decompress men
Some boys like to read newspapers when they encounter problems to divert their attention. They talk about the recent national events and guide the country and the country and the people. Those trivial troubles seemed to disappear.
Some boys like to watch sports events. If they can watch a game they like when they get home from work and cheer for their favorite teams, they will be able to escape from the heavy pressure. Even if the team they like lose, he will be depressed, but he has used this to relieve the pressure and get relief.
Some people like to exercise, have a refreshing run when they encounter difficult pressure, and some people like to have a hangover after a few friends, and they will no longer have any pressure when they wake up, and even some people like to sleep and wait! Of course I can't list all the ways to relieve stress here, but you all female compatriots know how your partner often does.
How do women view them?
When a boy encounters pressure and practices in seclusion, most of his energy is thinking about how to solve the problem. At this time, he ignores the family and the women. He cannot take care of women as usual. His attention even floats to his "cave". Women are fragile and sensitive. Women cannot tolerate men's cold and alienated attitude because she doesn't know what tremendous pressure men are under. If a man can open his heart to a woman and tell his own problems when he goes home, conflicts may not arise, and the woman will also have great sympathy for him. However, men are used to being silent when encountering problems, which makes women really confused. The woman who was kept in the dark felt that she was neglected and was isolated and even suspected that the man no longer loved her.
This is because the way girls solve stress is completely different from that of boys. In the next article, I will explain in detail how girls relieve stress. In general, girls expect men to be the same as themselves, and speak freely when encountering problems and let others share their own pressure.
Many boys began to realize this problem from many quarrels. he would spend 5% of his attention on girls. In the eyes of many boys, even five% he could understand what she said accurately and accurately, and even repeat it intact. Unfortunately, in the eyes of girls, this is perfunctory. What she needs is 100% company, which gave birth to the most classic quarrel-you are not listening to me at all! "He responded impatiently, "What are you talking nonsense! I can completely repeat what you just said! She responded: You don’t care about me at all! "
Girls long for 100% care from their partners. If this is not difficult in normal times, after all, you love each other, but when boys encounter stress difficulties, it is very difficult, it is very difficult, just like when a girl is angry, boys long for her to recover from rationality and calm down immediately. This requires too high a requirement for boys.
In general, if you want to get along well, you must first understand that the two ways to relieve stress are different, and there is no need to transform the other person and yourself (you can read my homepage article - How to control your partner in the relationship between genders).
Both men and women must understand a fact: Be a man When a person seems to ignore you, he does not intend to ignore you or neglect you. He is dealing with a problem in his own unique way. Women do not need to think randomly or make a fuss. On the other hand, men should also try to pay attention to the woman's emotions, comfort her, and relieve her worries.
If a woman cannot bear it, she has to speak up and expose her depression. At this time, men must pay attention to the woman's feelings. Men must understand that women have the right to express dissatisfaction, just like boys have the right to enter their own world. There is something wrong with the article
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