Nowadays, it is difficult for many men to get married, and the difficulty is that few people can afford expensive brides and high housing prices. Many women also face the difficulty of getting married, and the difficulty is that few men can meet their requirements for choosing a spouse.
In many concepts of post-80s, the first element of a man in getting married is that the woman’s family must have a male child, so that she will not have too much pressure on retirement. But little did they know that as time went by, this place that was once regarded as an advantage has become the biggest obstacle for many women to get married.
Recently, a man in Binzhou, Shandong personally experienced how uncomfortable it is to have a brother-in-law at home. Although he is obviously the child of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, the responsibility is spread to himself. It is this experience that perfectly interprets how much men look down on the "brother-supporting demon" family today.
From the video shared by the man, after following his wife to his father-in-law's mother-in-law's house, the man not only did not have any good wine and food to entertain, but instead did not even give up the table during the meal, and drove him to the door, holding a bowl and ordering dishes was considered a meal. Looking at the other son-in-law sitting on the table, the man was filled with mixed feelings.
Someone speculated whether the man did something that made his father-in-law and mother-in-law dissatisfied, otherwise how could he treat it so differently?
The man himself explained this question. It turned out that my wife had several sisters and a younger brother. Because the girls in the family were already married, my father-in-law and mother-in-law asked all of her sons to spend 400,000 to 500,000 to help her son buy a house.
But the man did not have this ability at all, but for the sake of family harmony and to alleviate the pressure from his father-in-law and mother-in-law, although he could not afford to pay 400,000 or 500,000 yuan, he still took 100,000 yuan to help his brother-in-law.
It is precisely because of this that my parents-in-law looked down upon. Almost every time I arrive at home, the man and his wife are the ones targeted by their parents. It is just the tip of the iceberg that is not allowed to go to the door to squat and eat.
A big family should help each other, but the old saying often says "rescue the emergency but not the poor". If a person wants to rely on others in everything, then no one likes such a family. After all, it is a burden and no one wants to be by their side.
As parents, they should make some decisions that younger generations should respect. If the children they have, they should take responsibility for themselves, rather than relying on their daughter to take responsibility for themselves that does not belong to them. Such parents can be said to have no consideration for their daughter's life at all. They only care whether their daughter can bring benefits to them.
In real life, such things are actually not uncommon, especially many girls cannot see their position clearly, and focus entirely on their parents' home, regardless of whether their small family can live well. But little did they know that the parents' home that only sucked their daughter's blood was not a safe haven for their daughter. If one day the daughter lost her value, I am afraid the first one to dislike would be the family.
Many women may say that there are still a few such parents, and most people will not do so. But for men, the risk of identifying by personal experience is too great, and the cost is extremely high. Instead of using the savings of oneself or even his parents to recognize a family for a long time, it is better to have a high probability of screening it from the beginning.
No matter whether it is a man or a woman, if you don’t have a bottom line, no matter whether your family helps your brothers and sisters, such behavior is shameful, especially those parents take the lead in asking for it, which is even more disgusting.
A parent without a bottom line is the sorrow of his children. A woman who cannot see her position clearly is a tragedy for a family.
