Nowadays, people are paying more and more attention to elderly care life. Some people even begin to consider what kind of life they will live after they get old.
As the saying goes, plans cannot keep up with changes. Sometimes, although we have made a lot of considerations, things that unexpectedly fail to our expectations always disrupt our plans.
In the past, people were determined to raise their children to prevent their old age, but in the past, everyone basically lived in the same place. Now, many people are basically away from their hometowns for work, and it is difficult to take care of their parents every day like before.
It is even more unrealistic to ask children to quit their jobs. Even if children are filial, it is difficult for parents to take care of them all. In fact, in many cases, we can only rely on ourselves.
The more you experience, the more you can understand this truth. Many times you want to rely on others, but in the end you realize that you can rely on yourself.
There is also a partner who will leave first
It is said that when you are young, couples will be with you in old age. When you are young, you must manage your relationship with your husband and wife well. Don’t rely on your temporary advantage and don’t take the other party seriously.
Because when you were young, you were husband and wife, and when you were old, you would be your partner to accompany each other and spend the most lonely and lonely time with each other.
However, no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, there will always be someone who will leave first. There are really too few couples who die together, except for some accidents.
often see some old couples. After one of them dies, the other one will die in a few years. In fact, many of them are because they lose their inner spiritual pillar, thus accelerating their aging.
In fact, we should accept a reality. Whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or bad, there will always be one who will leave first. Birth, old age, sickness and death are the rules of life. We cannot change it. Instead of placing hope and sustenance, all of it is on others, it is better to learn to rely on ourselves, so that we will not know where life will come from after the other person leaves.
Children also have their own family and life
Children are also independent individuals. Children will have their own family in the future and will have their own life in the future. Children have never been a continuation of their parents' lives.
In fact, if conditions permit, many people would rather live separately from their children, because living together will cause many conflicts.
It’s okay to meet some filial children, but when encountering some unfilial children, raising children is not a precaution to get old, and children may even become the root of their own pain.
Even children are very filial. It is actually unrealistic to want children to take care of themselves in every detail. After all, life is so stressful now, it is impossible not to work for a day.
Sometimes you rely too much on others, and it will make people bored over time. You should have heard of the truth that there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time.
Learn to please yourself
Does your life last decades, when you leave almost the same, you will find that in this life, the only person who can truly rely on is actually yourself.
As the saying goes, relying on the mountain to fall and relying on everyone to run, your own strength is the personal confidence. Only when you are strong can you not be afraid of the storms of life. There are some beautiful scenery in life, and we are destined to be able to enjoy
and exercise our bodies more and have a good body. This is the most important guarantee after getting old. After all, it is better to seek yourself than to seek others.
What kind of personal hobby do you usually find for yourself? Don’t just focus your eyes on your children all day long. This will really make people feel very stressed.
If you have the opportunity to save some pension money for yourself, you should save some money for your children. If your children are not filial, you should keep your pension money for your children. In this way, you will have material and spiritual protection, and you will be happy in your old age.
In fact, people are like this. We come to this world alone and are destined to leave alone.
Many times we should not have too much expectations for others. Even if this person has a good relationship with us, the higher your expectations, the more disappointed you will be.
We must love everyone who loves us, but we must know how to love ourselves.
