"You killed my son, get out of our house!"
In 2019, Chen Jinyi turned 18 and was already the mother of the child. However, a sudden disaster came to this newly grown girl.
She died in a car accident with her extremely loving husband.
Before the husband's 47, my mother-in-law swallowed a huge amount of compensation, turned her head and drove Chen Jinyi and her month-old granddaughter out of the house.
When Chen Jinyi struggled to bring her young daughter back to her parents' home, she found that "the married daughter is like water splashed out", and this is no longer her home.
The sky is vast and the earth is vast, and Chen Jinyi has nowhere to live. How did she come here in the past 4 years?
01
In 2001, Chen Jinyi was born in a small county town in Jiangxi. Adults at home believe that girls will be from other people's families in the future and can only grow up smoothly.
barely graduated from junior high school, so her parents asked her to learn to do housework, waiting for the matchmaker to say goodbye. This is the custom of my hometown. As long as girls don’t continue to go to school, matchmakers will come to their homes.
Beautiful girl Baijiagui, introduced by a matchmaker like , , Chen Jinyi and her husband fell in love at first sight.
Those days were really beautiful: the parents had more smiles on their faces, and their tone of speaking became gentle; their boyfriend would come to ask her to go shopping, watch movies, and buy her cold drinks. If you use one word to describe her feelings, it is "sweet". My boyfriend's love words are sweet, and his cold drinks are sweet, as if the air is sweet.
Soon, the two adults gave gifts and held a wedding banquet, even if they completed the major task of marrying a wife and marrying a daughter. This is the custom in my hometown. If a newlywed who has not reached the legal marriage age does not receive the marriage certificate, , then he will not receive it first. However, the wedding can be held, and relatives and friends use the wedding to determine the marriage. When they reach the legal marriage age, the two will apply for a marriage certificate.
Ten months pregnant, Chen Jinyi, who just turned 18, gave birth to a daughter. The mother-in-law couldn't hide her disappointment and said, "First take care of herself. After a while, I have to give birth to a grandson for me. Only with a grandson can I have a future."
But my husband likes his daughter very much and often holds the child and says, "The daughter is my little cotton jacket. My little cotton jacket is so gratifying!"
beautiful days always pass quickly. My daughter will giggle, turn over, and sit in a crooked manner. A considerate husband often brings some small surprises to Chen Jinyi, the small food she likes, the bouquet of flowers she likes, and what she likes to hear: "Guess what I brought for you?"
How great would it be if life could always be like this! But the unexpected comes, always so unexpected. That day, while waiting for her husband to get off work, Chen Jinyi was waiting for bad news: her husband was in a car accident and the person was gone on the spot.
Chen Jinyi doesn’t believe that such a young husband, so how could he be willing to leave if he loves her and his children?
She didn't know how she lived that time, but she only remembered that the child had eaten the milk that was too full and disappeared in an instant. When the child cries, she cries too. The child cried hungryly, where is she? What I cried was my reluctance and nostalgia for my husband.
Fortunately, I have a daughter and my family is still there. Chen Jinyi naively hoped that her mother-in-law was negotiating compensation with the perpetrator and her insurance company. No matter how much compensation was, she and her daughter would have certain protection in their future lives.
02
Compensation, when did my mother-in-law get it? How many did you get? Chen Jinyi didn't know. She felt that it was all a family, so there was no need to make such a clear calculation. As long as she and her children had food and drink, it was fine.
However, she, who had not yet struggled out of the grief of losing her husband, made her feel another blow.
That day, my mother-in-law received compensation. It’s rare that my mother-in-law pulled her down and talked to her: “My son has left, and your little family will be gone. I can’t let you be a widow so young. You are just 18, so find a good family to remarry. I will help you clean up and take you back to your parents’ home in the afternoon.”
Chen Jinyi said with tears in her eyes, “She doesn’t go anywhere, there is the smell of a husband here, and she wants to raise their daughter here.”
The mother-in-law's words cut her heart like a knife: "You stay here, who will support you? You and my son have no marriage certificate, so you are not my family."
Chen Jinyi argued that you don't need to raise you, you should use compensation first to deal with it for a while. When your daughter is a little older, she will go out to work and earn money.
When I heard the "compensation", my mother-in-law said unscrupulously: "Don't worry about compensation, it's compensation to our parents. You don't have a marriage certificate, and the law does not recognize your marriage, and the compensation is not your share. Besides, my son is still the one who died, and I haven't let you pay your life yet. Go back to your parents' home, clean up, and send you away in the afternoon."
Without a husband, this family will have no place to stand. Chen Jinyi knew that because she gave birth to a daughter and her husband didn't like it, they would not spend money to support her mother and daughter.
It’s okay, my parents are here, my parents are here, I am still young and can earn money to support myself and my children.
Mother-in-law was urging again: "Hurry up, don't be too late. We have to come back for such a long way."
Chen Jinyi turned around again and looked at the home she had lived in for more than a year. She had never thought that one day she would leave here. She took a deep breath greedily, she wanted to remember this breath that smelled like a husband; in her tears, she seemed to see her husband's smile.
I was reluctant to give up, but I still refused to give up... My mother-in-law was urging me again. Her stubbornness came up: Just leave, leave your house, I want to live a better life. Without the bond of husband, their family has nothing to do with themselves from now on. This time, she didn't look back.
Go back to her parents' home, her boudoir is still there.
03
As soon as Chen Jinyi entered her mother's house, she cried. She felt aggrieved. As soon as her husband left, she and her children were driven out by her in-laws' family.
Mother took the child with tears and condemned her husband's family: "What they do is not human affairs! How could her husband drive his wife and children back to her parents' home as soon as she left."
Back to her familiar home. Looking at her parents who were busy with herself and her children, Chen Jinyi felt much more comforted.
However, this kind of life has not been long. My mother often advised her to send the child back to her in-laws' house, which was their grandson and they should raise it. Besides, if you have a child, how can you find a family in-laws?
Looking at her daughter who was smiling at her in her arms, she was so cute and so well-behaved! Chen Jinyi feels: As long as the child is by my side, it is the life he wants to live. "I will take care of my child myself. If I give birth to her, I will be responsible for her and I will raise her." Chen Jinyi said this and did the same.
After another quarrel between the child and his mother, Chen Jinyi took the child out of her parents' home. She firmly believes that with her own abilities, she will definitely be able to raise her children well and grow up.
She came to Anqing, Anhui, the city where she and her husband once lived. It was really difficult at the beginning! Renting a small and dilapidated house in the cheapest small house, carrying a child to sell balloons , selling stationery, and earning that little money was not enough for her and her children to eat and drink. It was the support of her parents that made her persevere.
In the end, she chose to deliver food, which can take care of the children and make money.
How many times did Chen Jinyi send the order late because of the child crying, but when she saw the child in front of her chest, she listened to her sincere apology, and the customer took it back.
Chen Jinyi learned to make good use of the interval time and feed the child and change the diapers as possible. The baby seemed to know how difficult it was for her mother, and her crying gradually decreased, and she talked to her mother in a "baya". This is Chen Jinyi's motivation to grit her teeth and persevere. As long as she is with her daughter, all difficulties can be overcome.
This persistence lasted for three years, and now Xiao Chen has finally survived. The child went to kindergarten and she didn't have to carry her to climb the stairs. Her experience in running orders has increased, and her income has increased from two or three thousand yuan at the beginning to seven or eight thousand yuan now. Speaking of this, Chen Jinyi showed a confident and satisfied smile on her face.
Someone asked her: Do you feel bitter? Chen Jinyi replied with a smile: "Young people have to endure hardships. If you don't endure hardships now, when will you endure hardships?"
A woman is weak, but she is strong as a mother. She is self-reliant!
04
Smile to life, don’t give alms, don’t be merciful, rely on your own efforts to earn a good life for yourself and your daughter, is Chen Jinyi’s pursuit. She treats the luck or misfortune given to her by life with strength.
A kind-hearted person saw her hardship and gave her a red envelope, hoping that it would help her a little bit, but she refused.
"Thank you, thank you, but I can't accept it. Not accepting gifts from others easily is my bottom line. I hope everything depends on myself!"
When some peers are idle, lying at home and taking care of their parents for granted; or to pursue stars, they do not hesitate to use their parents' hard money to make their presence known, Chen Jinyi, this 21-year-old girl, has used three years of ups and downs to establish a tall image of daring to take responsibility, self-reliance, kindness and open-mindedness, and smiling at life.
"Why should I give birth to her if I'm irresponsible? I must be responsible."
"When did I climb stairs when I didn't climb stairs when I was young?"
"How can there be so many great things? I'm just taking it on!"
Chen Jinyi's story, when I saw her unfortunate experience, it made people indignant; when she looked at her stubbornness and difficulty, it made people cry; in the end, her responsibility and strength were admirable and loved.
This is our post-00s youth.
When you smile, the world loves you; when you laugh, the world laughs with you.
May the lovely Chen Jinyi be safe and happy, and the world will be better because of you!
Author: Walking in the rain forest
