Hello everyone, I am Meizi. What I share today is: Get out of the vicious circle of not knowing how to refuse, be a girl who is not easy to mess with
[Sun] When you are studying, you wanted to read a few more books during the holidays, but your classmates around you invited you to go shopping on the weekend;
[Sun] was exhausted at work, but he couldn't stand the request of his colleagues, and he still helped him finish his work;
[Sun] When getting along with friends, he always follows the other person's wishes, for fear that the other person would hate him.
Have you experienced these problems?
In fact, in summary, girls who don’t know how to refuse are simply because of the following reasons:
1️⃣ is not firm enough. Without a firm determination, the people around you waved their thoughts after saying a few words.
2️⃣too soft-hearted. Always consider others in everything and ignore your own needs.
3️⃣ Lack of self-confidence. Because of lack of confidence, I want to prove my worth by completing other people's requests.
4️⃣Don't understand the way to reject it. Although I really want to reject other people's requests, I can't find the right way to refuse, which leads to the relationship becoming stiff.
5️⃣Don’t speak well. Because I am not good at communication and communication, I don’t even have the opportunity or the courage to speak out.
6️⃣Pleasant personality. I don’t want the other party to feel disgusted with me because of my rejection. I hope that I can gain more favorable popularity in this way.
7️⃣ There is psychological trauma. I was often rejected before, and there was already psychological trauma, so I didn’t want my rejection to bring harm to others.
The above are the 7 points I summarized. Why girls do not know how to refuse. If you have more feelings, please feel free to interact with me and help more girls get out of this vicious circle.
So what should we do to learn to reject others? Let’s take a look at these knowledge:
1️⃣We can smile when rejecting other people’s requests and tell him that I don’t have time, or that I already have a plan, I’m sorry, I can’t help you.
2️⃣We can also choose to help others come up with ideas when rejecting others. For example, when colleagues ask us to help complete the work, we can verbally give them more ways to improve efficiency rather than help them do things.
3️⃣If we face repeated requests and soft and tough questions from classmates or colleagues, we can directly explain our difficulties and refuse with a tough attitude. If the other party still does not understand, we should stay away from such people and stop losses in time.
4️⃣ When rejecting others, you must be straightforward and try to use words like "Sorry, I can't help you, I don't have time" and do not leave any opportunities for the other party.
Once upon a time I saw that my classmates and colleagues around me encountered too many such situations. Looking back now, I was the same for many years ago. Because I didn’t know how to refuse, I added a lot of psychological burden to myself, did some things I didn’t want to bear, and made myself exhausted both physically and mentally.
: I don’t know how to refuse this matter has been dragging me down, making me constantly consume myself, and I have doubts about myself for a while.
So girls quickly break the vicious circle of not knowing how to refuse, we just live for ourselves.
