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My name is Liu Xiaoyan, I was born in Nanchang, Jiangxi in 1988, and grew up with my family's doting.
By chance, I learned that I was adopted and was abandoned at the entrance of the canteen of Nanchang Iron and Steel Factory on the day I was born.
After so many years of inner struggle, after my adoptive father passed away, I decided to find my biological parents and reconcile with my life experience. Because, after becoming a parent, I realized that it is a great fate to be together with parents and children.
I just want to thank you (birth parents) for bringing me to this world and hope that we will be healthy and well-being for each other.
(I have gradually become mature after experiencing social training)
Dad is an elementary school teacher who teaches in a small county town in Ganzhou . My mother is a housewife who is wholeheartedly caring for her husband and children at home. When I was a child, my family was not very wealthy, and I only rely on my father’s monthly salary to make a living.
At that time, nine years of compulsory education had not been implemented in rural areas, and three siblings had to go to school at the same time. Parents often worry about tuition fees. However, my parents never treat us badly, always leave us the best and do their best to us for our study.
I am the youngest and I am pampered at home. My mother is kind, my father is kind, and my brother is pampered. I can grow up in such a family and feel that I must have saved the Milky Way in my previous life.
(I was very well-behaved and cute when I was a child)
When I was not very good at walking, my brothers often carried me to school and then handed me over to my father.
Dad held me with one hand and taught students with the textbook with the other. I lay on my father's back, with big round eyes open, looking around curiously, and then slowly fell asleep in the sound of reading aloud.
When I fall asleep, my father often feels saliva all over his body, but his father never dislikes him.
At home, there is no saying that you prefer boys over girls, and my parents are very nice to me. For example, after school at noon, my father would accompany me to have dinner in the school cafeteria, while my two brothers would rush home to eat under the scorching sun.
(Photo with cousins, on the far right is me)
10, for a while, I lived in my grandmother's house in the countryside. I am quite extroverted and courageous. After school, I often play outside with my brother, climbing trees, digging bird nests, wading through streams, catching fish... I do not do much.
When I am alone, I like to draw, such as blue sky, white clouds, small animals, etc. Unfortunately, as I grew older and experienced more and more things, I actually lost my hobby of painting.
The three of us siblings are divided into two groups: the eldest brother is impatient and speaks more aggressively; the second brother and I are more easy-going and speaks more slowly. To some extent, we are quite complementary and get along well.
Maybe because of the similar personality, I have a good relationship with my second brother since I was a child. I am willing to share with him some things or any small secrets.
(I was exploring the red revolutionary holy land in Jinggangshan)
As a teacher, my father is diligent in his work and teaches students without discrimination. Influenced by my father, I have wanted to be the same person as him since I was a child, be a teacher, stand on the three-foot podium, and help more children change their destiny with knowledge.
How could I go, I was young and ignorant, lack of concentration, and I took another fork.
Later, the two brothers took the college entrance examination one after another. Faced with going to school, the family was under great financial pressure. The brothers are very sensible. Although they have good grades, they all went to Guangdong to work after graduating from high school. After
, my brother would bring some fun things and tell some new things outside every time he went home. At that time, I was very envious and thought it would be great to go out early to make money.
(I first entered society)
Adolescence is always rebellious, and I am no exception. I want to prove my ability and work and make money to help my home quickly.
So, at the age of 15, I made a decision that affected my life: after the first year of junior high school, I would drop out of school and go out to work.
At the beginning of the period, my parents disagreed and advised me to continue to go to school, thinking about finding a good job in the future. But I was stubborn at that time and insisted on dropping out of school. In the end, my family couldn't persuade me, so I had to agree.
is young and has no skills, so what should I do? After thinking about it, my father asked me to learn sewing clothes at home for 2 months, and then I went to a small clothing store to work as an apprentice, and I could get a salary of several hundred yuan a month.
(People always have to pay for their childishness)
At the beginning, I felt quite happy. I stepped on the sewing machine and sounded very vigorously. I felt that my value was reflected and I could help my family make money. But after a while, the freshness passed, I suddenly woke up and found that this was contrary to my dream.
At that time, many classmates with worse grades than me became teachers, had a stable job, and lived a good life. Now, whenever I talk about this topic, I regret not continuing to go to school.
The one who regrets and feels more guilty than me is my father. He feels that he has a great responsibility for this matter and should have been cruel to let me continue to go to school. When I grow up, I can take over his position and not suffer in society so early.
This is how it is for parents. When you see your children’s bad life, you will feel even more uncomfortable.
At that time, both brothers were developing in Guangdong, and their second brother was in the clothing business in Guangzhou. So, I also went to Guangzhou and worked with my second brother for several years in the clothing business, and formed an indissoluble bond with the clothing.
(I like to dress myself up beautifully)
After working hard in Guangzhou for several years, I have the financial ability to live independently and will take the initiative to send money to subsidize my family. Later, my parents got older, and they wanted me to return to Ganzhou to live.
So, in April 2008, I returned to Ganzhou from Guangzhou and found a job as a cashier in the hairdresser near my home.
I met my current husband in a hair salon. He is from Xinyang, Henan and opened a store in partnership with his uncle. Slowly, the seeds of love sprout quietly, and we were attracted to each other and began to get along with each other.
My husband is 8 years older than me. He is quite tall, but he is very careful and gentle and considerate, and takes good care of me. Since then, I believe he is the one who can spend his whole life with me.
(I took my daughter out for fun)
My parents are very satisfied with him and support me and start a family with him. In January 2012, we got our marriage certificate and entered the marriage hall. In December of the same year, our daughter was born.
My parents often tell me to be kind to my parents-in-law and treat them like their parents. I also told me not to shout at my children, but to educate me patiently, and living a good life is a good life.
My parents-in-law is a retired person in a public institution. She once lived in Ganzhou for a while, but she was not used to life there. In order to take care of them, my husband and I took our daughter back to Xinyang, Henan to settle down.
Although parents-in-law have pensions and we don’t have to worry about their lives, Xinyang ’s overall salary level is low. To maintain the normal operation of a family, it requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife.
(I work in a dental hospital)
Afterwards, I went to a dental hospital as an assistant and lived a nine-to-five life that many people envied. Although the salary is not very high, he has his own career and can take care of the elderly and children at home, and live a comfortable and happy life.
As the pillar of the family, my husband went to Shanghai to design and build a booth with me in 2017. From then on, he ran around and returned home only once every two or three months.
My daughter is still young and often looks for her father, so she asks me where she is. I said to her, "Dad makes money outside to support your family and support you in school." Gradually, she also understood that it was very hard and difficult for her father to work outside. In his daughter's heart, his father is a superhuman being.
Although my husband and I are in a different place, we have a good relationship. The elderly and children are in good health. I really hope to keep grasping the existing little happiness and live happily.
(After getting married, my focus is mainly on the family)
Recently, I talked to my husband about this matter that I am not my biological child at home. He was very surprised and felt that my parents and two brothers were so kind to me, and he never thought that I would be adopted.
When I accidentally learned about it, I couldn't believe it was true. The story still starts from that time when my second brother said "speaking the truth after drinking".
In November 2010, my second brother couldn't leave because of the clothing business, and my second sister-in-law was in confinement in Guangzhou and no one took care of her. At that time, my parents and I were both in Ganzhou. After I found out, I quit my job without saying a word and went to take care of my second sister-in-law, buying vegetables and cooking every day, and helping to see the children.
I think it is appropriate for brothers and sisters to help each other, but it seems very novel to others. As a sister-in-law, it is rare for me to do this.
(I had acne when I was pregnant, and the scars grew hyperplasia later)
One day, my second brother was drinking with a friend at home. The friend said, "Why is your sister so good? She came here to serve my sister-in-law during confinement." The second brother drank a lot of wine at the time and smiled drunk and said, "I and Xiaoyan are not biological children. She was adopted by her family."
When I heard this, I was stunned, but then I thought, I couldn't take what I said drunk.
I told myself not to take this matter in my heart, but my second brother's words slowly took root and sprouted in my heart.
Recalling when I was a child, my neighbor once joked that I was not a biological child at home and had no blood relationship with my two brothers. He also asked which brother I would marry when I grew up. But I was still young at that time and didn't take it seriously.
The more I thought about it, the more wrong it became. I went to find my second brother to confirm, but he started to whine and didn't admit that he had said those words.
So, I went to my parents to verify this, and both of them denied it and said I was wrong.
(Happiness does not depend on wealth and honor)
I listed the wrong things one by one and asked questions: First, I have B blood , why are they different from their blood ? Second, my father is a teacher and has given birth to two sons before. He was catching family planning at that time. How could he give birth to a third one?
After my constant questioning, they finally admitted to adopting me. I find it incredible. Over the years, I have never thought that I was not my biological child at home!
After I knew the truth, I was more shocked than sad. Because I didn't feel that I had lost anything, but I was very grateful to my current parents, who raised me well.
It turned out that on the day I was born (March 19, 1988), I was placed at the entrance of the canteen of Nanchang Iron and Steel Plant. My second uncle and second aunt who worked in the Iron and Steel Plant discovered me.
(I was well taken care of by my family)
At that time, I was wrapped in a cotton jacket, covered with umbilical cord blood, and two sets of clothes and some milk powder were placed next to it, and a note with the word "king".
At that time, many families in society prefer boys over girls, and it was not surprising that babies were abandoned. On the contrary, after my father gave birth to two sons, he really wanted a daughter. The second uncle joked: "If there is a suitable girl, adopt one." didn't expect that I was the gift from God to my dad.
My second aunt gave birth to 4 children. I was under a lot of pressure at that time, and even if I wanted to adopt it, I was powerless. So, my second uncle called my father and said he wanted to give him a daughter. My father was very happy when he heard this, so he hurried to Nanchang and took me home.
After learning about my life experience, my family told me that since I already know, if I want to find my biological parents, I can just go and look for them, and there is no need to be any ideological burden.
(Why did the original parents abandon me?)
I did not respond to their proposal. Later, they didn't mention this matter much, probably because they were afraid that I would think randomly.
Whenever the night is late, I will wonder, why am I cruelly abandoned when I was born?
I think that since they abandoned me, it means they don’t need me and there is no need to find them back. This matter is left alone, and life continues quickly and slowly.
7 years ago, my dad died of illness and left us forever. Over the years, he has never asked me to do anything, I have worked, and I have never mentioned money to me.
Before my death, my dad called us three siblings to the side and took out the 300 yuan cash on us, so that the three of us could share it equally. My dad is telling me in his own way that in his heart, men and women are equal , and even he prefers me more, I am worthy of being loved.
(the mood becomes different)
After my dad left, my inner thoughts have become more mature over the years. After experiencing the process of getting married, having a daughter and being a parent, you can only know the kindness of your parents and know that being able to become a parent and a child is a great fate.
I am very grateful to my parents and brothers for nourishing me with love, so that I can have enough sense of security and confidence to resist the twists and turns and difficulties of life.
I think I am happy. I am capable now and want to reconcile with my own life experience. I decided to find the people who abandoned me back then and asked them in person: "Do you have the last resort to abandon me? Or is it because you prefer boys over girls? Have you ever regretted abandoning me?" What is the answer to
? Maybe it doesn't matter anymore, because in my heart, I have forgiven them. I have no resentment for being abandoned, because my parents taught me to see the world with love and kindness.
I hope my daughter can grow up in a loving environment, be able to understand the truth and have a kind and strong heart.
(My daughter and me)
My mother and brothers expressed support for my decision to find relatives, and my husband didn't need to say anything, and took the initiative to help me contact the online search platform. Because they know that I am their relative or not, and that has never changed.
Finally, I want to say to my biological parents who have never met before: Thank you for bringing me to this world. If you are destined to be, I hope to bring this line through the platform to let each other know that there is another person in the world. I hope that each other is healthy and well-being.
[Oral: Liu Xiaoyan]
[Editor: Mu Mu]
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At the beginning of the period, my parents disagreed and advised me to continue to go to school, thinking about finding a good job in the future. But I was stubborn at that time and insisted on dropping out of school. In the end, my family couldn't persuade me, so I had to agree.
is young and has no skills, so what should I do? After thinking about it, my father asked me to learn sewing clothes at home for 2 months, and then I went to a small clothing store to work as an apprentice, and I could get a salary of several hundred yuan a month.
(People always have to pay for their childishness)
At the beginning, I felt quite happy. I stepped on the sewing machine and sounded very vigorously. I felt that my value was reflected and I could help my family make money. But after a while, the freshness passed, I suddenly woke up and found that this was contrary to my dream.
At that time, many classmates with worse grades than me became teachers, had a stable job, and lived a good life. Now, whenever I talk about this topic, I regret not continuing to go to school.
The one who regrets and feels more guilty than me is my father. He feels that he has a great responsibility for this matter and should have been cruel to let me continue to go to school. When I grow up, I can take over his position and not suffer in society so early.
This is how it is for parents. When you see your children’s bad life, you will feel even more uncomfortable.
At that time, both brothers were developing in Guangdong, and their second brother was in the clothing business in Guangzhou. So, I also went to Guangzhou and worked with my second brother for several years in the clothing business, and formed an indissoluble bond with the clothing.
(I like to dress myself up beautifully)
After working hard in Guangzhou for several years, I have the financial ability to live independently and will take the initiative to send money to subsidize my family. Later, my parents got older, and they wanted me to return to Ganzhou to live.
So, in April 2008, I returned to Ganzhou from Guangzhou and found a job as a cashier in the hairdresser near my home.
I met my current husband in a hair salon. He is from Xinyang, Henan and opened a store in partnership with his uncle. Slowly, the seeds of love sprout quietly, and we were attracted to each other and began to get along with each other.
My husband is 8 years older than me. He is quite tall, but he is very careful and gentle and considerate, and takes good care of me. Since then, I believe he is the one who can spend his whole life with me.
(I took my daughter out for fun)
My parents are very satisfied with him and support me and start a family with him. In January 2012, we got our marriage certificate and entered the marriage hall. In December of the same year, our daughter was born.
My parents often tell me to be kind to my parents-in-law and treat them like their parents. I also told me not to shout at my children, but to educate me patiently, and living a good life is a good life.
My parents-in-law is a retired person in a public institution. She once lived in Ganzhou for a while, but she was not used to life there. In order to take care of them, my husband and I took our daughter back to Xinyang, Henan to settle down.
Although parents-in-law have pensions and we don’t have to worry about their lives, Xinyang ’s overall salary level is low. To maintain the normal operation of a family, it requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife.
(I work in a dental hospital)
Afterwards, I went to a dental hospital as an assistant and lived a nine-to-five life that many people envied. Although the salary is not very high, he has his own career and can take care of the elderly and children at home, and live a comfortable and happy life.
As the pillar of the family, my husband went to Shanghai to design and build a booth with me in 2017. From then on, he ran around and returned home only once every two or three months.
My daughter is still young and often looks for her father, so she asks me where she is. I said to her, "Dad makes money outside to support your family and support you in school." Gradually, she also understood that it was very hard and difficult for her father to work outside. In his daughter's heart, his father is a superhuman being.
Although my husband and I are in a different place, we have a good relationship. The elderly and children are in good health. I really hope to keep grasping the existing little happiness and live happily.
(After getting married, my focus is mainly on the family)
Recently, I talked to my husband about this matter that I am not my biological child at home. He was very surprised and felt that my parents and two brothers were so kind to me, and he never thought that I would be adopted.
When I accidentally learned about it, I couldn't believe it was true. The story still starts from that time when my second brother said "speaking the truth after drinking".
In November 2010, my second brother couldn't leave because of the clothing business, and my second sister-in-law was in confinement in Guangzhou and no one took care of her. At that time, my parents and I were both in Ganzhou. After I found out, I quit my job without saying a word and went to take care of my second sister-in-law, buying vegetables and cooking every day, and helping to see the children.
I think it is appropriate for brothers and sisters to help each other, but it seems very novel to others. As a sister-in-law, it is rare for me to do this.
(I had acne when I was pregnant, and the scars grew hyperplasia later)
One day, my second brother was drinking with a friend at home. The friend said, "Why is your sister so good? She came here to serve my sister-in-law during confinement." The second brother drank a lot of wine at the time and smiled drunk and said, "I and Xiaoyan are not biological children. She was adopted by her family."
When I heard this, I was stunned, but then I thought, I couldn't take what I said drunk.
I told myself not to take this matter in my heart, but my second brother's words slowly took root and sprouted in my heart.
Recalling when I was a child, my neighbor once joked that I was not a biological child at home and had no blood relationship with my two brothers. He also asked which brother I would marry when I grew up. But I was still young at that time and didn't take it seriously.
The more I thought about it, the more wrong it became. I went to find my second brother to confirm, but he started to whine and didn't admit that he had said those words.
So, I went to my parents to verify this, and both of them denied it and said I was wrong.
(Happiness does not depend on wealth and honor)
I listed the wrong things one by one and asked questions: First, I have B blood , why are they different from their blood ? Second, my father is a teacher and has given birth to two sons before. He was catching family planning at that time. How could he give birth to a third one?
After my constant questioning, they finally admitted to adopting me. I find it incredible. Over the years, I have never thought that I was not my biological child at home!
After I knew the truth, I was more shocked than sad. Because I didn't feel that I had lost anything, but I was very grateful to my current parents, who raised me well.
It turned out that on the day I was born (March 19, 1988), I was placed at the entrance of the canteen of Nanchang Iron and Steel Plant. My second uncle and second aunt who worked in the Iron and Steel Plant discovered me.
(I was well taken care of by my family)
At that time, I was wrapped in a cotton jacket, covered with umbilical cord blood, and two sets of clothes and some milk powder were placed next to it, and a note with the word "king".
At that time, many families in society prefer boys over girls, and it was not surprising that babies were abandoned. On the contrary, after my father gave birth to two sons, he really wanted a daughter. The second uncle joked: "If there is a suitable girl, adopt one." didn't expect that I was the gift from God to my dad.
My second aunt gave birth to 4 children. I was under a lot of pressure at that time, and even if I wanted to adopt it, I was powerless. So, my second uncle called my father and said he wanted to give him a daughter. My father was very happy when he heard this, so he hurried to Nanchang and took me home.
After learning about my life experience, my family told me that since I already know, if I want to find my biological parents, I can just go and look for them, and there is no need to be any ideological burden.
(Why did the original parents abandon me?)
I did not respond to their proposal. Later, they didn't mention this matter much, probably because they were afraid that I would think randomly.
Whenever the night is late, I will wonder, why am I cruelly abandoned when I was born?
I think that since they abandoned me, it means they don’t need me and there is no need to find them back. This matter is left alone, and life continues quickly and slowly.
7 years ago, my dad died of illness and left us forever. Over the years, he has never asked me to do anything, I have worked, and I have never mentioned money to me.
Before my death, my dad called us three siblings to the side and took out the 300 yuan cash on us, so that the three of us could share it equally. My dad is telling me in his own way that in his heart, men and women are equal , and even he prefers me more, I am worthy of being loved.
(the mood becomes different)
After my dad left, my inner thoughts have become more mature over the years. After experiencing the process of getting married, having a daughter and being a parent, you can only know the kindness of your parents and know that being able to become a parent and a child is a great fate.
I am very grateful to my parents and brothers for nourishing me with love, so that I can have enough sense of security and confidence to resist the twists and turns and difficulties of life.
I think I am happy. I am capable now and want to reconcile with my own life experience. I decided to find the people who abandoned me back then and asked them in person: "Do you have the last resort to abandon me? Or is it because you prefer boys over girls? Have you ever regretted abandoning me?" What is the answer to
? Maybe it doesn't matter anymore, because in my heart, I have forgiven them. I have no resentment for being abandoned, because my parents taught me to see the world with love and kindness.
I hope my daughter can grow up in a loving environment, be able to understand the truth and have a kind and strong heart.
(My daughter and me)
My mother and brothers expressed support for my decision to find relatives, and my husband didn't need to say anything, and took the initiative to help me contact the online search platform. Because they know that I am their relative or not, and that has never changed.
Finally, I want to say to my biological parents who have never met before: Thank you for bringing me to this world. If you are destined to be, I hope to bring this line through the platform to let each other know that there is another person in the world. I hope that each other is healthy and well-being.
[Oral: Liu Xiaoyan]
[Editor: Mu Mu]
This case story is provided by @Toutiao Search and has been approved by the parties involved.
We cannot go through different lives, but we can feel the real stories of others here, and each story has real photos! If you like such a true story, please follow us! @real person interview
