After graduating from college, I broke up with my first love boyfriend. The reason for breaking up with
is very simple. We are not from the same city. As for him, he has to go back to take the civil service exam according to his parents' arrangements.
And the city of his hometown is more than a thousand kilometers away from my home.
I am also an only child, my parents have only one child, how can I bear to marry so far?
If my parents have something to do, I will have to get home for a whole day even if I drive.
No matter how beautiful the relationship is, it cannot beat reality - at the age of 22, I finally realized how painful this sentence is.
After breaking up, in order to get out of my sadness as soon as possible, I put all my thoughts on my work.
I studied marketing in college. Although this major is quite a big deal, there is another advantage of being a big deal, which is:
is very adaptable when looking for a job.
No matter what work, I can try it.
After two years of exploration after graduation, I determined that my career direction is: sales.
I jumped into an Internet company, and went from a sales specialist to a sales manager step by step.
Over the years, I have made a lot of money. I bought a second-hand house and registered it in my parents' name to repay my parents' grace for raising me.
In addition, I also bought an SUV to drive it myself.
Maybe many girls will like the small and exquisite hatchback . I am different. I like the domineering SUVs and have a different sense of security when driving.
Then there is more than 400,000 yuan in my own account, which is all my possessions I have worked hard for many years.
Unconsciously, I reached the age of thirty, and my parents urged me to get married more and more frequently.
In fact, for me personally, I think marriage is optional to me.
I always feel that love is too illusory and too fragile.
I observe the married best friends and female colleagues around me. In fact, they can’t say that they love their partners much.
In the final analysis, why did you marry someone you didn’t love or like very much?
Some people say that in order to prevent parents from urging them to get married, some people say that they feel like they should have a child, so they got married for the purpose of having a child.
I think these reasons are ridiculous. First of all, I think marriage must have an emotional foundation, otherwise I will definitely get tired of each other over time.
The second is that I don’t like children and think a life without children is OK.
Helplessly, my parents' urge to get married is getting more and more nervous and more extreme.
Even my mother said that if I don’t have a boyfriend by the end of the year, she will start to have a hunger strike after the New Year.
had no choice but to follow their arrangements and go to meet your blind date partner.
Before meeting my blind date partner, I also watched a lot of blind date cases online.
Many girls have met very strange blind dates...
made me start to fear blind dates.
Later I met a few people and found that they were not that bad either.
Most boys can maintain basic politeness and qualities at least when they meet for the first time.
To be honest, I also have a good impression of some boys.
I haven't counted since the beginning of the year, but I should have seen ten or eight blind dates.
Actually, I personally don’t have much opinion on them, I think they are all okay.
But most of them have a shortcoming that I really can't get around:
Their income is lower than mine...
I have already lowered the standard!
My inner expectation is that the man’s monthly salary cannot be less than 15,000, and the overall annual income cannot be less than 150,000.
Because this is a basic bottom line for I think that in our city we can support our family.
A twenty-nine-year-old girl can earn an annual salary of 150,000.
This requirement for the man should not be harsh, right? I just asked him not to be inferior to me.
However, I have seen several blind date parties, with monthly salary of only a few thousand, and the highest is only about 12,000 on average, which includes all year-end bonuses, performance, etc.
Later I met a blind date partner, and his income met my standards.
His conditions are as follows:
is currently the development director in an Internet company, that is, programmer .
monthly salary is over 20,000 yuan, and the company's various treatments are quite good, because it is a Z-manufacturing project, so it is relatively stable.
He bought a house before marriage, which is more than 100 square meters. It is a rough house. It has not been renovated yet, so he has been put there for the wedding.
Now the man’s house means:
asked my family to pay for this decoration, which is about 500,000 yuan.
My mother asked the man’s mother: Do you want to add my daughter’s name?
The other party said that you can't add it because they bought it before marriage. And his parents paid more than half of the money for buying a house.
Now he is using his salary to pay a house every month.
That is to say, if I marry him, it means:
I will spend 500,000 yuan to spend all my cash savings to decorate a house without my name?
Then, after getting married, I have to take out part of my salary and provide a house with him?
I really can't accept it. I'm so frustrated and a loss!
Please help me see, should I agree to marry him?
(The above content is edited and compiled by netizens)
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The man’s house does not add a name to the woman, but asks the woman to pay for the decoration and provide the house together in the future.
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