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Do you mind your relatives living at home? Maybe you don’t mind, maybe you think you need to help your relatives unconditionally. Anyway, I think it’s better not to let your relatives live at home. The so-called relatives are just blood relationships. When facing relatives who intend to be the dominant ones, the smart way is to get close and alienate at the same time. It’s not to be affectionate, but just don’t want to break up.
1. It’s easy to ask for a god, sending a god difficult
Everyone will have various relatives. The distance of blood ties has led to a variety of relatives. It is wearing the cloak of relatives. When relatives make a request to live in your home, you are embarrassed to refuse. However, when your relatives move in, as you pay more and more, your relatives will regard your affection as cost. In addition to not being able to wash clothes and wash dishes, relatives will also litter all day long. It is not just cleaning up the sanitary environment of the family, but destroying the sanitary environment of the family. If you endure it again and again, your relatives will be more and more demanding, and the time to go home will be postponed again and again. If you give your relative a little bit of expression, your relatives will complain first, either that you are ruthless or that you are petty. If you serve your relatives' clothes and food, and take into account your relatives' safety, you will be thankless in the end. Therefore, when facing relatives who are worth helping, you should pay attention to their proper position. When facing relatives who are not worth helping, you should keep them out, otherwise you will be asking for trouble.
2. Not all relatives hope you will live well
Live with relatives. Regardless of your marital status or your income level, relatives may hear and witness it. Even if your family’s privacy is still visible, relatives will still be able to see it, especially when you get along with your family, relatives will know it well. If relatives meddle in other people's business, they often interfere in your family affairs and often make you make one or more changes under the banner of making good for you. If relatives do not have the awareness of respecting your family's privacy, they are very likely to spread private matters around your family. If you are kind to your relatives, you may not appreciate it. If you live well, your relatives may not be happy for you. On the contrary, if you live badly, your relatives may stand by and gloat. You will have a deeper understanding of human nature: people who can't stand you well are often some of your relatives.
3. Different living habits
Relatives have different living habits. In fact, it is not just different living habits. The customs of life may still be different. Moreover, relatives will lose the space to play to their strengths and avoid their weaknesses. Both parties have long been deeply aware of each other's strengths. On the contrary, after seeing people's hearts over time, both parties will have a new understanding of each other's weaknesses, especially the different interests between relatives and get along with each other for a long time. Whenever interests are frictional, they are complained or complained.
Conclusion: You should draw a clear boundary with your relatives, not to be separated from each other, but to take the overall situation into consideration, so as to avoid losing the big picture due to small things. Only by keeping an appropriate distance can you not say what you shouldn’t say, ignore what you shouldn’t care about, and don’t do what you shouldn’t do. You should know that problems with relationships often start with blurring the sense of boundaries.
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