"Men and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly away when the disaster strikes."
This sentence refers to the reality of love. When you first get married, who is not going to work for the rest of your life. But if you want to see a person's sincerity clearly, you need to observe the other person's performance when you encounter difficulties.
On the Internet, I saw a post from a woman. She said that a physical examination report allowed herself to fully see her husband's character.
The woman's name is Zhao Li. She has been married to her husband for 12 years. Her children are in elementary school and are usually taken care of by her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law has been urging her to have a second child, and Zhao Li doesn't object. Considering that she is not young and often stays up late in work overtime, she feels that her health needs a physical examination first.
In order to be eugenic and excellent, Zhao Li asked her husband to go for a physical examination with her, so that if she found any physical problems, both parties could be treated.
The results of the physical examination came out. Zhao Li went directly to the hospital after get off work. She saw a physical examination report that there was a shadow in her stomach and suggested further examination. She realized that there was a problem. The doctor told her that she could not determine whether it was benign or malignant. Judging from experience, something should have grown in the stomach.
Zhao Li was dizzy. She knew that her husband usually had irregular meals and had the habit of smoking and drinking, but she didn't expect that she would have physical problems at such a young age. After thinking about it, she put the physical examination report in her bag and did not take it out.
In order to arrange for her husband to go to the hospital for a re-examination, Zhao Li went back to her parents' home to borrow 100,000 yuan. She felt that the treatment should be done as soon as possible. If there was a problem with the examination, she would directly let her husband be hospitalized for treatment. She had money in her hands and was not panicked.
What she didn't expect was that when she got home the next day, her husband looked abnormal. She thought her husband knew it, but she didn't expect that her husband said to her: "Let's divorce, I have no feelings for you anymore. Let's part with you, I will take good care of the child."
Zhao Li was stunned and asked back: "Why? Why did you think of divorce? Just solve the problem. Don't be too negative."
The mother-in-law looked at her and didn't understand, so she just pointed it out: "My son is still young, he needs a home. Since you are seriously ill, think about the child, don't drag us down."
"Who is seriously ill?" Zhao Li was confused.
The husband said, " Of course it's you. You still want to hide it. I have seen the physical examination report in your bag. I told you openly that I will not give you money to see you. The money I saved will also be supported by my parents. All the money I have saved has been transferred to my mother. The house was bought before marriage and has nothing to do with you."
Zhao Li finally understood that her husband only saw the results of the physical examination, but did not look at the name. He thought that his wife was sick, and he was eager to clear himself without a re-examination. It was really chilling.
Thinking of this, Zhao Li took out the physical examination report from her bag and threw it directly into her husband's hand, telling him: "Look at it again, who is sick?"
"It's in your bag, of course it's your physical examination report..., ah? Why is it me?" The husband stood there in a daze.
"Yes, it's yours. I'm worried that you will be sad. I didn't tell you in time. I borrowed 100,000 yuan and prepared to accompany you for a review. In order to restore your health, I can lose everything, but what about you? I'm secretly transferring the property and planning to stay away from me. It seems that this money is not available. There is a reason for you to get sick." Zhao Li smiled bitterly and walked over and picked up the child.
She told her husband that she agreed to divorce, but the child was raised by herself. If the other party disagreed, she would follow the procedure.
After watching Zhao Li's experience, netizens praised her.
- Some netizens said: "It's done so well. Such a man is not worth your efforts. It's a good thing to leave as soon as possible.
"Men and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly away when the disaster strikes."
This sentence refers to the reality of love. When you first get married, who is not going to work for the rest of your life. But if you want to see a person's sincerity clearly, you need to observe the other person's performance when you encounter difficulties.
On the Internet, I saw a post from a woman. She said that a physical examination report allowed herself to fully see her husband's character.
The woman's name is Zhao Li. She has been married to her husband for 12 years. Her children are in elementary school and are usually taken care of by her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law has been urging her to have a second child, and Zhao Li doesn't object. Considering that she is not young and often stays up late in work overtime, she feels that her health needs a physical examination first.
In order to be eugenic and excellent, Zhao Li asked her husband to go for a physical examination with her, so that if she found any physical problems, both parties could be treated.
The results of the physical examination came out. Zhao Li went directly to the hospital after get off work. She saw a physical examination report that there was a shadow in her stomach and suggested further examination. She realized that there was a problem. The doctor told her that she could not determine whether it was benign or malignant. Judging from experience, something should have grown in the stomach.
Zhao Li was dizzy. She knew that her husband usually had irregular meals and had the habit of smoking and drinking, but she didn't expect that she would have physical problems at such a young age. After thinking about it, she put the physical examination report in her bag and did not take it out.
In order to arrange for her husband to go to the hospital for a re-examination, Zhao Li went back to her parents' home to borrow 100,000 yuan. She felt that the treatment should be done as soon as possible. If there was a problem with the examination, she would directly let her husband be hospitalized for treatment. She had money in her hands and was not panicked.
What she didn't expect was that when she got home the next day, her husband looked abnormal. She thought her husband knew it, but she didn't expect that her husband said to her: "Let's divorce, I have no feelings for you anymore. Let's part with you, I will take good care of the child."
Zhao Li was stunned and asked back: "Why? Why did you think of divorce? Just solve the problem. Don't be too negative."
The mother-in-law looked at her and didn't understand, so she just pointed it out: "My son is still young, he needs a home. Since you are seriously ill, think about the child, don't drag us down."
"Who is seriously ill?" Zhao Li was confused.
The husband said, " Of course it's you. You still want to hide it. I have seen the physical examination report in your bag. I told you openly that I will not give you money to see you. The money I saved will also be supported by my parents. All the money I have saved has been transferred to my mother. The house was bought before marriage and has nothing to do with you."
Zhao Li finally understood that her husband only saw the results of the physical examination, but did not look at the name. He thought that his wife was sick, and he was eager to clear himself without a re-examination. It was really chilling.
Thinking of this, Zhao Li took out the physical examination report from her bag and threw it directly into her husband's hand, telling him: "Look at it again, who is sick?"
"It's in your bag, of course it's your physical examination report..., ah? Why is it me?" The husband stood there in a daze.
"Yes, it's yours. I'm worried that you will be sad. I didn't tell you in time. I borrowed 100,000 yuan and prepared to accompany you for a review. In order to restore your health, I can lose everything, but what about you? I'm secretly transferring the property and planning to stay away from me. It seems that this money is not available. There is a reason for you to get sick." Zhao Li smiled bitterly and walked over and picked up the child.
She told her husband that she agreed to divorce, but the child was raised by herself. If the other party disagreed, she would follow the procedure.
After watching Zhao Li's experience, netizens praised her.
- Some netizens said: "It's done so well. Such a man is not worth your efforts. It's a good thing to leave as soon as possible."
- also said: "The hardest thing to face is people's hearts. The husband is too selfish. Fortunately, the wife has cancer and is a false alarm. If the wife is really sick, life will be very difficult. Let's get a divorce. "
- Some netizens said: "When you encounter something, you know whether the other party is reliable. A man's attitude is also the idea of the in-laws. Such a in-laws are really affectionate and very good at calculating. "
That's right, We are not afraid of encountering difficulties, we are afraid of seeing the wrong person.
Marriage is a lifelong practice. If a partner only considers himself, then you are in trouble When you are in a state of affairs, you will deliberately isolate you.
In life, such things are not an isolated case.
My former colleague Liu Juan also encountered a similar thing. She was more miserable than Zhao Li.
Liu Juan has a gentle personality and met her husband on a blind date. She gave birth to a daughter the second year of marriage, and gave birth to a son the next year.
Both children are good, which was originally a good thing. Liu Juan also wanted to go out to work and earn more money for her child's milk powder, but she found that she often had a fever and went to the hospital to check for leukemia .
Looking at a pair of young children, Liu Juan cried and swollen eyes. She wanted to grow up with her child, but this wish became a luxury.
At the beginning, her husband was at the beginning. She was willing to give her money to treat her, but after several hospitalizations, her husband proposed to send her back to her parents' home, saying that she had no savings anymore.
Liu Juan proposed to sell the house because she paid half of the down payment when she bought the house, and the decoration was also paid for her own money, but her husband refused. The reason was very simple: "Your disease cannot be cured. Even if you sell the house, you will lose both your life and your wealth in the end. You must think about your child. "
Liu Juan cried: "I just want to spend more years with my child. Are you wrong? ”
Since then, my husband no longer went to the hospital to see her, and the medical expenses were all due to my parents' home. Seeing the donations sent by his colleagues, Liu Juan burst into tears. Sometimes, The person next to her is not as affectionate as her colleagues.
To be honest, such things are too realistic and difficult for us to accept.
can be changed from a different perspective, and it is difficult for us to blame the man for his indifference. Don't persuade others to be kind, Maybe we are from the other party's perspective and may not necessarily do better.
There is a selfish side in human nature, and it is not transferred by human will.
We cannot change the attitude of others. The only way we can do is to love ourselves well.
First, learn to save some savings for ourselves
. No matter how much money is, you have the awareness of saving money, which gives you more protection. Feelings are nothing and are full of changes at any time. Money is our confidence in dealing with the unknown.Secondly, don't stay up too late, it is important to cherish your body. has a very classic saying, when we were young, we exchanged our lives for money, but after we got sick, we need to exchange money for life. Since we had nothing in the end, why not treat ourselves kindly and cherish the present?
Again, treat life optimistically and smile constantly. Life is full of stress, anxiety is everywhere, but no matter how anxious you are, you cannot change the reality, but instead make your body problems. It is better to change the angle, care less about what you have, and look more at what you have, and you will have big changes in your mood.
Summary:
We cannot change other people's cognition, we can only give ourselves a little more vision.
Learning to arrange your life well will prevent you from being in a hurry when you encounter difficulties.
Couples need to help each other. Your coldness seems to protect yourself, but in fact, it will sooner or later retaliate on yourself. At least when it is late at night, it will be difficult for you to calm down.
Good marriage requires a little loyalty, never leaving each other, and becoming the other's support at critical moments to make life full of security.
