Introduction:
Why do some people feel unhappy?
"Generally speaking, smart people will be happy because they can see through the world; 'foolish people' will also be happy because they don't care about anything; on the contrary, it is those who are neither smart nor stupid enough who are the most troubled." 53 years old Aunt Chang explained this.
In fact, happiness is a feeling that requires us to open our hearts and find it through our own efforts. Aunt Chang has a cheerful personality and a kind heart. When talking about her own life, she always reminds everyone that sometimes, you are really smart if you learn to "compare".. (The following is the self-report of 53-year-old Aunt Chang)
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Before I retired, I lived a "full" life. In addition to going to work, I also had to take care of my elderly mother-in-law when I returned home. My wife often travels on business and can hardly help with housework. Although the two children are older, they are not married yet, which makes me anxious and angry.
Every holiday, I feel very depressed when I see my colleagues and friends going shopping and traveling. Because my mother-in-law is too clingy, and she has identified me, saying that her son does not know how to serve others, and that her grandchildren are impatient. After all, it is me, an "outsider" who is most in line with her wishes.
Many people look forward to retiring early and living a leisurely life as soon as possible. On the contrary, I can't imagine what my life will be like after retirement.
In such a state, apart from worrying about food and drink, I am only left with stress and irritability. Where can I feel happiness?
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Some people say that this is just a matter of being too small-minded, unable to think clearly, and just looking for trouble. Is that true? Don’t bite your teeth and make sarcastic remarks. Only those who have experienced it will know the ups and downs.
One year, it was my mother’s birthday. We brothers and sisters discussed going back together to congratulate. In order to feel at ease, I made arrangements in advance and deliberately left my son to stay with my mother-in-law.
But as soon as the birthday party started, my son called me angrily, saying that my mother-in-law had lost her temper and disliked the food he cooked. She also accused me of abandoning my mother for celebrating her birthday.
I was very angry when faced with my mother-in-law's unreasonable troubles. But my mother was a generous person. Not only did she not care about it, but she also urged me to go home and have a look, for fear of causing any further conflicts.
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knew that I was unhappy. Afterwards, my mother said sincerely: "When people get old, they are just like children. Your mother-in-law is like this, and so am I. At your age, there are old people and young people, and life is quite difficult. It’s easy, but whether you are a daughter or a daughter-in-law, you should be more understanding and tolerant of the elderly."
Then she enlightened me and said: " There are nine out of ten unsatisfactory things in life. Some are caused by people's troubles, some are self-inflicted, and some are helpless. No matter where you go, don't be too competitive. Sometimes, learn to use your own strengths to compare with others' weaknesses. Only when you are content can you be truly smart.. "
Although I heard my mother's words, I couldn't fully accept them. I always felt that my life was miserable and it was difficult to live a happy life. It wasn't until I learned about a colleague's experience that I suddenly became enlightened.
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In my impression, Sister Tang is a very optimistic and chic woman. She dresses fashionably and eats and plays whenever she wants. But once during a casual chat, she cried and cried. Because she and her mother-in-law refused to give in to each other, the family relationship was very disharmonious, and it even affected the relationship between the couple. They had quietly divorced two years ago.
I don’t know why, but after hearing what she said, I suddenly felt a little gloating and a little complacent. Thinking about my own family, although there are many unsatisfactory things, in comparison, except for the mother-in-law’s a little "feeling", the husband and wife are loving. , it is gratifying and proud for children to be filial.
Only when I looked back and thought about my mother's words did I realize the taste and meaning of them.
Everyone has their own shortcomings, and every family has its own shortcomings. If you think of all this as a hard rock, then happiness and joy are the tenacious grass in the cracks. To break out of the ground and welcome the sunshine, all the grass can do is adapt to the environment.
is written at the end:
Sometimes, in order to live a better life, we need to make appropriate compromises, or use our own strengths to "suppress" the shortcomings of others, so as to win psychological balance and gain happiness.
Some people may say that this is "escape" and " spiritual victory method ". In fact, in the face of reality, , instead of being beaten to death, it is better to change your thinking. After all, life is short, happiness is only one day, and troubles are also one day, so why can't you live with yourself?
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Thank you for your reading and support, and I wish you health and happiness!
Author: Yi Diaolu, a cheerful and joking emotional narrator who is willing to accompany his mentors and friends to taste and laugh about life.
