Life is a journey that comes and goes alone. You come and go alone, and everyone in between is a passer-by.
There are elderly people in every house, and everyone will grow old.
years ago, almost everyone died peacefully at home. Why do they now have to die in a strange environment, next to strangers, with instruments and tubes inserted into their bodies, and in extremely painful ways?
Living alone is an ability, but most Chinese people do not have it.
Self-care is the most critical condition for living happily alone. Very few Chinese people realize this. Almost all the elderly people I come into contact with believe that dependence on family members or others is the basis of life. If a person cannot take care of himself, he will inevitably lose his dignity as a human being. It’s useless no matter how much money you have. I often highly emphasize self-care and personal dignity to the elderly.
We can say goodbye to the world in the familiar home and in the way we like. It gives people the confidence that "it is possible for a person to die with dignity at home."
Living alone is actually not as scary as what the world worries about. Even if a person dies, there is nothing to be afraid of. Thinking carefully about all the animals in the world, isn't it also the end of silence? When the oil dies and the lamp goes out, it is natural that there will be illness. , it won’t take long. Can going to the hospital eliminate all pain?
Those who can accept dying alone are those who are not afraid of death and understand how to live. Life is accidental, death is inevitable, letting go is freedom.
Old people living alone who feel happy generally meet three conditions. 1. Have a relatively healthy body and be able to take care of yourself. 2. Optimistic attitude and rich spiritual sustenance. 3. Be able to truly look down upon life and death, let go of the world, and leave peacefully.
Many of us have no self and live for others to see. Such people cannot be alone for a long time, let alone face death alone. When our society can calmly accept more and more people being single, more and more people will become happy single people.
I am a solitary person. I try not to contact my past friends as much as possible. I don’t cause trouble to anyone. I have everything ready. I am carefree and have no worries. I don’t think about anything in the future. I live a relatively relaxed life. The boat will go straight to the bridge. Living alone is very good! Even if a person dies quietly, it is still beautiful! There is no need for you to have others watch you die!
Yesterday I had tea and chatted with a 70-year-old aunt. She said that her 83-year-old husband told her five years ago that she wanted freedom and wanted to live alone, so the aunt moved to Guangzhou, and her husband himself She lives in Shenzhen, so people try to persuade her that the old man has a little girl out there? Auntie said that at this age, no matter whether there is a little woman or not, I think he will fulfill his wish. I believe in him, and he also believes in me! So we separated, but after four or five months, we lived together for another month or two, and then we separated again for a few months! My aunt told me that as soon as she returned home to Guangzhou, she felt relaxed and happy without any stress, and her husband felt the same way! She said, since he wants that kind of life, then give it to him, and I gradually fell in love with the single life!
Auntie said that the two of them were really tired of living together for decades, so a proper separation would be good for each other physically and mentally! They let me know that not all elderly people need the company of their wives! An occasional phone call to report that everything is safe is enough!
Live openly and die calmly. This is my attitude towards life. For the rest of my life, as long as I can stand up, I will take care of myself. If I can't stand up anymore, I will go on a hunger strike for a few days and starve myself to death. If I could open the refrigerator and turn on all the air conditioners before I die, it might make the person who finds me more comfortable, and I'll do my best.
The greatest meaning of life is to learn to be relieved, to be relieved of the past, and to be relieved of the present. People are lonely after all. Coming alone and going alone, saying goodbye to the world in a familiar home is a relief for life! Relief is the true nature of life. Relief is a state and wisdom that can make life relaxed and free from heaviness.
Even the free-spirited animals in the wilderness are the same - they are old and their lives are declining. Then, live in isolation, then die alone, return to nature, and merge with heaven and earth.So, this is also a natural and beautiful thing. Because people always die. I think it's good for a person to die quietly. When you are withering, there are a lot of people around you. In fact, they all wish you would die early. Not to mention that people are hypocritical than animals, it is better to go on alone and quietly.
Chinese people, especially those born before the 1980s, have no self-awareness at all. They only live for social forms, live in the eyes of society, and live in other people's gossip. Without the spirit of self-independence and the independent spiritual level of self, it is naturally difficult to live alone. Many elderly people do not have any hobbies. It seems that apart from looking forward to their sons and grandchildren, they have no interests that they really love. They say that happiness is completely based on others. In fact, their real interest is raising children.
When reaching the last stage of life, it is better to leave quietly and decently at home than to be intubated and put on a ventilator in the hospital. Reports of abuse of the elderly in nursing homes are common. Living in groups is not always so beautiful. Many people say that the elderly are afraid of loneliness. In fact, loneliness is not terrible. What they are afraid of is spiritual emptiness and no sustenance. Learn to enjoy loneliness. Living alone can be very simple and enjoyable. Say goodbye to the world in the way you like in a familiar home. This is a good choice.
Living alone for the elderly is actually helpful in preventing the elderly from giving up their ability to take care of themselves due to over-reliance on the care of others, resulting in Alzheimer's disease and premature functional decline. Thinking about eating, drinking and having sex every day, and arranging your day's activities in a relaxed way is actually A kind of exercise that must be done as a last resort, this kind of exercise can delay aging, prevent memory from declining, and effectively prevent the decline of calcium-deficient muscles and memory.
People who have thoughts and ideas are better than people who live in confusion and follow what others say. It's good to live alone, you are free and don't care about anyone else's feelings. Everyone dies alone and there is no one to die with you. Most elderly people in China do not have this mentality and state of mind. China's old traditional concept is that several generations live under the same roof. When you die, playing music, playing, singing throwing pots beating flags is a lively scene!
People are essentially lonely. Being alone in old age and talking to yourself is the happiest thing.
Life is accidental, death is inevitable. The rest of your life is short, live well. Being able to bid farewell to the world with dignity in a familiar home is what most people pursue.
When old people can take care of themselves, have a regular work and rest schedule, have stable emotions, a peaceful mind, have personal hobbies, and have irregular gatherings with family and friends, they can enjoy the rest of their lives in peace and quiet.
