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Every child is a treasure given to parents by God. Parents should cherish it and raise their children well. The law clearly stipulates that parents have the obligation to raise their children, and every parent must fulfill it.
If you feel that you are not capable of raising a child, then don't give birth to the child. Since you have brought your child into this world, you must be responsible for your child to the end. This is the real parent. Those parents who abandon their children will be punished sooner or later. God is watching.
When divorcing, couples should consider the interests of their children as much as possible. They should not insist on taking over the children despite being unable to raise them. The child should grow up with the person who is more capable and raises him more carefully. A child is a person, not the same thing, and couples cannot fight over it casually.
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My brother-in-law was idle all day long, and even beat his wife when he came home. His wife couldn't bear it and divorced him. During the divorce, the court awarded the child to the woman, but the mother-in-law couldn't bear to let the grandson go, so she snatched it away and asked the eldest daughter-in-law to help take care of it.
This is what happened at Sun Minmin's house, Sun Minmin is the eldest daughter-in-law. Her mother-in-law asked her to take care of her brother-in-law's children. She said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, I don't have this obligation." Let's hear the story of their family.
Narrator: Li Minmin
Age: 38 years old
Occupation: Female worker
City: Hengyang
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My husband has a brother who is three years younger than him. His mother-in-law has been particularly fond of his brother-in-law since he was a child, so he has developed many bad habits. In the third year after my husband and I got married, my brother-in-law also got married, and my sister-in-law worked in a supermarket.
In the second year after marriage, my sister-in-law gave birth to a big fat boy, and my mother-in-law was very happy. She contributed money and effort to help her younger son's family, take care of her younger daughter-in-law's confinement period, and help take care of the children. When I gave birth to my child, she ignored her and never bought me anything, just because I gave birth to a daughter.
I have a problem with my mother-in-law. We are both son and daughter-in-law. How can she treat her differently? Now that and are equal to men and women, why is my daughter inferior to my nephew? In my eyes, my daughter is the same as my brother-in-law’s son, they are both parents’ darlings.
My husband advised me not to argue with my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is just like that. No one can change her. She is patriarchal in nature. The mother-in-law favored the younger son. In her eyes, the older son was older, but the younger son was always young and needed special care from her.
My brother-in-law has never worked hard. He always works here for a few days and there for a few days. He spends a lot of time at home during the year. So he couldn't make any money at all, so the mother-in-law gave all the money she and the old man earned to her brother-in-law's family.
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But as the age of the parents-in-law gradually increased, the old couple began to have physical problems, and they were unable to work. After the parents-in-law couldn't work, they had no money to give to the younger son's family. The younger son and his wife kept quarreling about money.
Sometimes when the quarrel got too loud, my brother-in-law would beat my sister-in-law, and my sister-in-law would complain to my parents-in-law and my husband. My father-in-law was a good man and never expressed his opinions. No matter how much my sister-in-law said or cried, he was indifferent. My mother-in-law was always looking out for her brother-in-law and always said something bad about my grand-in-law, who felt particularly aggrieved.
My husband knew it was his brother-in-law who was in trouble, but when he went to take care of his brother-in-law, his mother-in-law always protected him, so he couldn't take care of him at all. My husband feels that he is a grown man and cannot comfort my sister-in-law, so he always asks me to comfort my sister-in-law, saying that it is easier for women to talk to each other.
When I went to comfort my sister-in-law, I felt very sorry for her. Once she lifted up her clothes and showed me that she was covered in bruises and bruises. It was really shocking. My sister-in-law's mother has passed away. After her father remarried, she ignored her as a daughter, so she was also a miserable person.
After the brother-in-law and his wife had been arguing for 7 years, my sister-in-law finally made up her mind to divorce. I support her very much. No matter which woman follows her brother-in-law, she will not have a good life, and she might be beaten to death by him.
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My sister-in-law went to court to file for divorce. Because there was domestic violence, the court quickly ruled and the 6-year-old son was given to her. My grandma's grandfather had passed away, and my grandma lived alone. My grandma took her children and moved to her grandma's house. Grandma decided to give her house to her grandma.
It stands to reason that things have been settled at this point. Anyway, my brother-in-law has been wandering here and there, so that's it. The children are with my grand-in-law. My grand-in-law has a stable job and a house, so her basic life will definitely be fine.
But my mother-in-law jumped out and quietly ran to my grandmother's house. After my grandmother went to work, she went to my grandmother's house and snatched the child from my grandmother's hand. The mother-in-law said that her grandson was the lifeblood of their family and could not be taken away by her daughter-in-law, so she went to snatch her grandson back.
After my sister-in-law found out, of course she came to take the child back, but her mother-in-law refused to let him go. She locked her grandson in the room and wouldn't even let him go to the kindergarten. My sister-in-law had no choice but to call my husband again, and my husband went to persuade my mother-in-law to return the child to my sister-in-law.
But the mother-in-law not only refused to listen, but also scolded her husband, saying that he was incompetent and gave birth to a daughter. If our couple had a son, why would she want to snatch her grandson? If her grandson is taken away now, their family will be cut off, so she is determined not to let her grandson go.
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My sister-in-law could not take the child back and said she would call the police. My husband felt that it was not good to call the police. After all, this was a household matter and we should not bother the police casually, so he asked me to persuade my sister-in-law to give my mother-in-law some time. I originally didn't want to get involved in my brother-in-law's family affairs, but I couldn't stand my husband's request, so I went to persuade my sister-in-law.
After my sister-in-law listened to my words, she finally agreed to give her mother-in-law a period of time, and my husband tried hard to convince her. My parents-in-law were in poor health and raising a little boy was not an easy task, so they took care of him for a week before they were unable to do what they wanted. My mother-in-law had no choice but to send the child to my house and asked me to help take care of it.
My mother-in-law said that I am the daughter-in-law of their family and their grandson is the heir of their family. I should help take care of the children. I was very angry. My mother-in-law insisted on snatching my sister-in-law's child. After snatching it back, she couldn't take it with her, so she asked me to take it with her. What's going on? My mother-in-law wouldn't help me take care of my daughter, but asked me to take care of someone else's son.
I said to my mother-in-law: "Mom, I don't have this obligation. If you want grandchildren, then you can take care of them yourself. The children have their own parents and are not raised by others. No one has the right to deprive the children of their biological parents." "My mother-in-law was so angry that she had a big fight with me, saying that I was inhumane and didn't care about brotherly love." Later, my mother-in-law had no choice but to watch helplessly as my husband sent the child to his sister-in-law. After that, the mother-in-law quarreled with her brother-in-law every three days, saying that he couldn't even keep a child, which ruined their family's relationship.
Conclusion:
Now the law clearly stipulates that men and women are equal, and there should no longer be the idea of favoring boys over girls. Li Minmin's mother-in-law's thinking is still stuck in the feudal era. In her opinion, the grandson is the heir of the family, and the granddaughter is married off, so she desperately wants to keep her grandson but ignores her granddaughter.
Fortunately, Li Minmin and her husband were not confused and did not blindly follow their mother-in-law. Instead, they sent their nephew to their sister-in-law. Children should stay with their biological parents. If their biological parents are divorced, they should live with one of them. When there are biological parents, it is really no one else’s turn to raise the children.
When a woman encounters a shady man, especially a man who engages in domestic violence behavior, she must learn to stop losses in time. Marriage is for happiness, divorce is also for happiness, divorce does not mean that the sky is falling.
Women must strive for self-improvement at all times. Only an independent woman can cope with the storms of life. Only when a woman manages her own life well can she take better care of her children. Every mother must be strong for the sake of her children.
Author: A creator in the emotional field, focusing on various issues in the emotional field, welcome to pay attention.Life is warm because of affection and love. Let us grow in love and spend every day in true love.
