On the wedding day of my brother and his sister-in-law, the two of them laughed sweetly. The day my sister-in-law left with her children, she was also smiling. Because she finally had room to breathe. She married far away for love, but my brother never protected her. My parents b

On the wedding day of my brother and his sister-in-law, they smiled sweetly.

The day my sister-in-law left with her children, she was also smiling. Because she finally had room to breathe.

She married far away for love, but my brother never protected her. My parents bought the wedding house in full, and my mother lives in it all year round.

When my sister-in-law and my mother had conflicts again and again, they only got countless quarrels. My brother couldn't bear to see his wife being wronged, and he couldn't bear to see his old mother cry. In just a few years, my brother has been in a trance.

Now my sister-in-law is renting a house with her children. My brother is also in a bad state and makes many mistakes at work.

- Zhang Jie

Contributor: Zhang Jie (pseudonym), currently a photographer.

[It turns out that the crying on the wedding day was real]

My name is Zhang Jie, my brother’s name is Zhang Tao (pseudonym), and I am 29 years old this year. My brother works in a decoration company and does video editing part-time.

My sister-in-law is a girl from out of town, 2 years younger than my brother. They met at work and quickly fell in love.

Unfortunately, the marriage did not receive the blessing of both parties' families. My parents disliked my sister-in-law for being a foreigner and felt that they had no common language with us.

My sister-in-law’s family felt that marrying far away was unreliable, and they tried their best to prevent her from getting together with my brother.

The more their families stop them, the more they have to stay together.

The tears at the wedding are all real. My mother was crying because she would have to live with a daughter-in-law from out of town in the future. My sister-in-law's parents are crying because their baby girl will have to take care of herself alone from now on.

[My mother refused to move out of the wedding room]

When my brother got married, the family prepared the wedding room in advance. My parents bought the house in full and it is in their names. The wedding room was bought upstairs in my house. It is a large apartment with good visibility from the north to the south.

My mother has all the financial power in my family. As the owner of a night market barbecue stall, my mother once led the night market trend in the town.

In the past few years, my mother felt too tired, so she switched to opening a convenience store. Later, I felt that opening a store was boring, so I started researching stocks and funds. The convenience store hired people to guard it, and my mother's life was very leisurely. Dad works in a factory and the salary is not high.

When my brother got married, my mother said that she would not live with him and his sister-in-law. But after the marriage, my mother changed her mind. She strongly requested to live with her brother and sister-in-law.

"Your sister-in-law doesn't know how to take care of others. I don't trust your brother to be with her." This is what my mother always talks about.

My brother and sister-in-law’s honeymoon has not ended yet, and my mother’s nagging makes me unable to breathe.

My brother’s salary is not low, but it is almost a dream to buy a house with full payment. My sister-in-law's salary is neither high nor low. She gave up her high-paying job and took a cushy front desk job to be with my brother.

[Mom always treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider]

Since her brother got married, my mother has been nervous. Maybe it's because she has entered menopause , and my mother's temper is particularly bad.

First, my brother didn’t take the establishment examination as she asked, and my mother nagged him for a long time.

Furthermore, I didn’t follow my mother’s request to take the teacher preparation examination, and my mother nagged me for a long time.

No matter how much my mother complained about my brother and me, it was just verbal. On weekdays, my mother’s heart is with my brother and me. I get up early and stay up until late every day to cook for my brother and make soup for me.

When it comes to my brother and sister, my mother’s love outweighs her nagging. Mom always treats us as children.

But facing my sister-in-law, my mother became a picky mother-in-law again. Either I dislike my sister-in-law's low salary, or I think the food she cooks is too bland. People in our hometown love spicy food, but my sister-in-law can’t eat chili peppers.

I am not married yet, but I have already experienced the bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. My mother has never cooked any of the dishes that my sister-in-law likes.

[When a child is born, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law reaches a climax]

If it were not for love, the relationship between my sister-in-law and my brother might have been long gone.

When my sister-in-law was pregnant, her family came to take care of her for a while. The mother and daughter rented a small house outside. Later, the landlord refused to allow them to have children in the house, and the sister-in-law moved back.

After my sister-in-law gave birth, she felt very depressed.

When my mother left, my sister-in-law burst into tears.

When she was in confinement, my brother booked a confinement center for his sister-in-law. Because of this incident, my mother completely exploded. She originally thought that her sister-in-law spent money lavishly, and the 38,000 yuan for the confinement center was unacceptable to my mother.

Although my brother tried hard to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he could never achieve a balance. When my sister-in-law was in confinement, either my mother would curse at the sky and the earth, or my sister-in-law would get angry. Everything in the bedroom that could be smashed was smashed.

Faced with the matter at my brother’s house, my father chose to escape. The more chaotic it is, the less likely it is to get involved.

Occasionally we would try to persuade our mother, but to no avail. My brother can’t even handle mom, let alone us.

The life at my brother’s house has never been peaceful again. The little niece cried day and night, and the sister-in-law was also upset by the crying.

[My brother is in a trance and makes mistakes at work]

My brother’s paternity leave has not ended yet, so he took the initiative to apply to go to work. He was like a loach , he ran away decisively. As for the quarrel between his wife and his mother at home, he didn't dare to think about it, and he didn't bother to think about it.

While helping to take care of the children, my mother was arguing with my sister-in-law. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law glare at each other every day because of their different concepts of parenting.

My brother can still hide out and go to work during the day, and at night he has to administer justice to two women. He did too many things with Xini, which made my brother look sad when he got off work.

During that time, my father and I were very cautious when talking. Originally I liked to hug my little niece, but later I didn’t dare to enter my brother’s house anymore.

My father missed his granddaughter, so he cautiously went upstairs to take a look. As soon as I noticed that my mother looked wrong, she immediately ran away.

My brother is in a bad mood because the house is always in a mess. He fell into insomnia and made many mistakes at work.

[Sister-in-law took the child and left]

My niece was not even half a year old yet, so my sister-in-law took the child and moved out.

No matter how beautiful the house prepared by the husband's family is, it has nothing to do with the daughter-in-law. When my mother was angry, she not only wanted to drive away my sister-in-law, but even my brother was not spared. But no matter how much my son scolds me, it won't matter, and my daughter-in-law will have a psychological shadow.

My sister-in-law is very nice to me on weekdays. Although I don't go to her house very often, I still stand by my sister-in-law at critical moments. My mother always feels that my elbows are turned outward, and she scolds me for not being of the same mind as her.

When my sister-in-law told me that I wanted to rent a house, I helped her find a good house before she moved out with her children.

You can't just watch your sister-in-law and mother getting more and more violent. Nor could I force my mother out of my brother’s wedding room. Renting a house can be considered a transitional method.

After my sister-in-law moved out, my mother was still angry for a while. Her beloved little granddaughter could no longer be held in her arms every day.

[Sister-in-law plans to return to her parents’ home to settle down]

After my sister-in-law left, my brother breathed a sigh of relief. He never has to make Twinkies again.

Mom still didn’t leave her brother’s wedding room. She began to think about how to keep her little granddaughter with her. My sister-in-law was optimized by the company after her maternity leave. Although there was compensation, the amount was not large. My mother wanted my sister-in-law to go to work so that she could legitimately take care of her granddaughter.

But my sister-in-law has different ideas from us. She misses her parents very much and misses every plant and tree in her hometown.

She told me a lot of her true feelings. In this marriage, my brother is a loach, my mother is a stubborn cow, and my father is a silent stone! I, my sister-in-law, still stood by her, but it had no practical effect.

My sister-in-law is very grateful to me for helping her find a house. If she stayed with my mother again, she would be afraid that she would not be able to help but do something impulsive.

What surprised us even more was that my sister-in-law decided to return to her parents’ home to settle down.

[My mother-in-law’s relocation house was renovated, and my sister-in-law went back]

I’m not married, so I don’t know what it’s like to live like a year. But I can feel my sister-in-law’s despair.

She originally expected my brother to take care of her for the rest of her life, but in the end, my brother tried desperately to escape.

My sister-in-law’s family has a house to move back to, and it can be renovated after the house is handed over. After decoration, it needs to be ventilated for a period of time before you can move in.

Since my sister-in-law moved out, my brother has lived with their mother and daughter every day. The wedding room has completely become a decoration.

But my sister-in-law’s heart can no longer be pulled back. She has no idea of ​​divorce, but she won't stay in this city anymore.

My brother has become numb to life. He didn't want to settle down with his sister-in-law, but he didn't want to end the marriage either.

The two of them lived like this "in a daze".

My niece is so young that she only knows how to eat and sleep. She has no idea that she may become a child of a single-parent family in the future.

[My mother regrets it, but will not compromise]

After my sister-in-law and the child left, my mother could no longer endure her stubbornness.

But she has her own persistence. People of the older generation all want to live with their sons, just like my grandmother insisted on living with her three sons in turns.

Mom was prepared for the worst. If my brother is really divorced, he will go to court to fight for the custody of the children.

My father persuaded my mother many times to let my brother and sister-in-law go out and live on their own. But it didn't work every time.

"I have lived with your mother for most of my life, why don't you persuade your mother to let us go out to live." My mother has always been worried about the matter of living with her grandma. Every time my mother brought up this matter, my father would back down.

[I have photographed many weddings, but I don’t predict the future]

The brother and sister-in-law were in a stalemate like this. No one knows what their future will be like.

I have photographed many weddings. The newlyweds at the wedding were dressed dazzlingly, and the guests in the hall were all blessings.

can return to real life. How many people’s lives are in vain.

Sometimes I regret helping my sister-in-law rent a house. But I didn't help her, and she cried all day long. They are both women, and I feel that my sister-in-law is quite pitiful.

If my sister-in-law is given another chance, I guess she will not get married to my brother. It would be great if

could be like Hai Chaoyun in the TV series "Do you know ? Should it be green, fat, red and thin? ". How many women are lucky to meet a husband like Sheng Changbai .